According to my fil his mother so gran in law, said I was being loud at the dinner table on Boxing Day, when I hardly said much at all

[LardLizard]

Let alone was Loud !

What were you talking about?

Perhaps she was been sarcastic?

Did she have a super switched on hearing-aid maybe? Were you sitting next to her? Were you drunk? All three?

Not drunk not even chatting much really
Fil can’t really stand his mum so guessing he’s trying to get me to not like her much either

The title sounds really childish, sorry.

What is the big issue exactly?

My response would be : and I give a shit because? If you want to be more polite use care instead of shit

No need to be sorry ! It is childish

It’s a weird thing to pass on though

It's ridiculous.

But science does tell us that a woman only need talk for 25 % of the time her male counterparts do you be considered as talking for the majority. That is perceived almost equally by men and women (and equally in some circumstances).

Why Fil had to pass it on I don't know.

Well she is sexist
Because she also had a moan that dhs uncle ( her son didn’t get a Xmas card)

Well loads of people didn’t get Xmas cards from us as don’t really have the time for cards

So that’s perhaos pissed her off aswell as me being loud !!

guess all I can do is back off really
Really don’t want to waste my time on people like this in 2019

Wow this is unbelievably petty. It’s also all hearsay. Why are you even giving this headspace?

Maybe she didn’t even say it? Maybe FIL is just trying to cause trouble (if she did say it, why would he tell you?!).

All very odd!

Yes it is very odd, only thing I can think of is fil is trying to get me to be annoyed at her
As why pass it on Otherwise

Sexism is the key. mortified is right. I'm guessing she's elderly, probably to her a young woman barely has to say anything to be perceived as talking too much.

Yes I think you are probably right