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Should cot cards be gender neutral or dont you mind pink and blue?

208 replies

EachandEveryone · 27/12/2018 12:06

Thats it really. We need to order a load more and theres no point wasting the NHS money. I just wondered if we had moved on from pink and blue as i notice a lot more babies are being dressed in neutral colours. Or, does it not bother you?

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Jazzhan · 27/12/2018 17:20

You suggest some people don't see colours as meaning anything. Yet you noticed them.

SleepingStandingUp · 27/12/2018 17:21

And youd have been rude
Why? A new Mum kicking off about a blue dress because she thinks her baby will look like a boy would worry me.

Jazzhan · 27/12/2018 17:23

What is so wrong with gender?
I'm not a man.
I never will be a man.
I'm a woman.
As a child, I was a female child.
I don't get this crap. And I genuinely think it's crap.

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Meganc559 · 27/12/2018 17:23

I never got one with my baby but I wouldn't be happy if he got a pink one

slashlover · 27/12/2018 17:24

@Jazzhan

If someone had rocked up with a blue outfit for my baby girl, I'd have asked them were they visiting the wrong baby. I don't want my girl dressed as a boy!

So you'd have been annoyed with this? Really?

Should cot cards be gender neutral or dont you mind pink and blue?
NottonightJosepheen · 27/12/2018 17:26

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PinkAvocado · 27/12/2018 17:32

Jazzhan
Gender = a social construct.
Sex = the science stuff.

Pink does not make you more biologically female. No one arguing against you thinks it does. I don’t understand what bit you’re finding so tricky to grasp. Many are saying that pink is not needed to show that a girl is in a cot because the card saying ‘sex: female’ is enough. Others of us are saying we don’t like pink and blue being used to represent sexes as it is another part of everyday stereotyping that we are fed up of. White cards are fine.

Knittink · 27/12/2018 17:32

Jazzhan - there is nothing remotely wrong with gender (or rather with sex, because that's what we are actually talking about). But thinking that certain colours should only be worn by one specific sex is simply idiotic. It's a colour - it's got nothing to do with what kind of genitalia you've got.

I am a woman too. I was a girl as a child, and a reasonably 'feminine' one at that. My parents dressed me in all kinds of colours, because that is a perfectly normal, uncontroversial thing to do. Colours are just... colours.

Nobody in this thread is remotely suggesting that a woman shouldn't be a woman or a man shouldn't be a man. We're saying that there is no earthly reason that a woman should have to wear specific colours or like specific 'womanly' things. Ditto men.

SleepingStandingUp · 27/12/2018 17:33

slashlover if I have a girl you can bring me that!! Someone needs to tell Kate that Princess Charlotte looks like a boy, she wears blue tons

3boysandabump · 27/12/2018 17:34

My nearly 4 year old ds has been running round wearing a super girl dress for the past 3 days. Last time I checked his penis was still there 😂

NottonightJosepheen · 27/12/2018 17:36

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SleepingStandingUp · 27/12/2018 17:37

3boysandabump terrible mother. It'll fall off in the bath and then he'll have to wear that dress forever!!

SleepingStandingUp · 27/12/2018 17:39

but I wouldn't be happy if he got a pink one oh to be a new Mom where the biggest concern is the colour of a piece of card and to think the nurses prime priority is picking the right bit of card for you

NothingOnTellyAgain · 27/12/2018 17:52

I don't remember noticing a card on the cot with either of my DDs.
If I had I don't think it would have occured to me to take it.
I had no idea it was a "thing" although I would have kept the plastic labels round their ankles but one lot got chucked somehow.

Anyway.

Plain is fine OP. Plenty of people get arsey about pink/blue but no-one is going to complain about white ones.

Jazzhan · 27/12/2018 17:54

Well OP, if here is anything to go on, you better be getting white ones

Jazzhan · 27/12/2018 17:56

So they can all grow up not knowing what the fuck gender they are and then deciding they actually want to change sex. BANGS HEAD.

Jazzhan · 27/12/2018 17:58

If I brought my child up not knowing what sex they were, could I blame them, for eh, not knowing what sex they were?

impossiblecat · 27/12/2018 17:58

This is a bit of card @Jazzhan

Chill out.

AssassinatedBeauty · 27/12/2018 18:00

Why are you still going on about transgenderism when it's nothing to do with that? No one here is suggesting not being clear what sex a baby is.

There's just no need to categorise and colour code babies by sex, unless it's actually relevant/necessary.

Hedgehogblues · 27/12/2018 18:00

Do you really think dressing your child in the "wrong" colour makes them not know what sex they are?

53rdWay · 27/12/2018 18:00

Jazz, I think your children would probably notice that they had a penis or vagina before they recalled what colour the cot card had been in their postnatal ward. Just a hunch.

impossiblecat · 27/12/2018 18:00

My son is currently dressed in yellow.

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Oswin · 27/12/2018 18:02

Why would your child not know what sex they are because you don't dress them in pink or blue. So weird.

Meganc559 · 27/12/2018 18:04

@sleepingstandingup
What makes you think I m a new mum!
What wrong with Me wanting a blue card for my son?!