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Should cot cards be gender neutral or dont you mind pink and blue?

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EachandEveryone · 27/12/2018 12:06

Thats it really. We need to order a load more and theres no point wasting the NHS money. I just wondered if we had moved on from pink and blue as i notice a lot more babies are being dressed in neutral colours. Or, does it not bother you?

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EachandEveryone · 27/12/2018 13:24

You’d be surprised what people worry about especially when they feel they have lost contol of the situation.

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littlecabbage · 27/12/2018 13:27

Ugh, please don't reinforce the "pink for girls, blue for boys" stereotyping. Just plain cards. Add "boy" or " girl" to the typed info if staff need to be able to see this at a glance.

Jazzhan · 27/12/2018 13:30

nutty will you be supporting a boy who decides he's a girl and wants to go into the female changing rooms too?

FFS, you're a boy or a girl. Gender neutral me hole. The irony is that the ones campaigning for gender neutrality are the ones who then kick up a fuss about a man who decides he's female in a women's prison.
I give up.

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8DaysAWeek · 27/12/2018 13:34

Go with white. I don't think anyone would question why their cot card wasn't blue or pink, but honestly if my son's card was pink I would do a double take and check they marked the sex correctly. In this day and age of people complaining about the NHS it's just one extra thing to add - "and to top it all off they gave him a girl's card to write his details on".

Mumsnet is very biased. Go on Netmums and you'll find a totally different response.

Celebelly · 27/12/2018 13:43

I wouldn't care either way, but sadly I'm sure there are plenty of people out there who would kick up a stink about it. White (or pastel green/yellow/etc.) seems like a sensible compromise and then there's no need to worry.

Jazzhan · 27/12/2018 13:44

Littlecabbage, adding boy or girl is stating their presumed gender. Why can't a simple colour coded card denote the exact same thing.

Jazzhan · 27/12/2018 13:45

I want a pink card and everything pink.

AuchAyeTheNo · 27/12/2018 13:45

Order pink and blue. Babies are either male or female

Jazzhan · 27/12/2018 13:46

Saying to go for a gender neutral colour such as yellow or green is admitting the very thing you don't believe in!

NottonightJosepheen · 27/12/2018 13:53

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PinkAvocado · 27/12/2018 13:55

Sex is already on the card so no need to use stereotypes to show which babies are boys and which are girls.

As pink and blue is therefore unnecessary, I’d get white.

I don’t remember the colour of the cards in scubu but I’d rather not have pink for girls and blue for boys given a choice.

PinkAvocado · 27/12/2018 13:56

Saying to go for a gender neutral colour such as yellow or green is admitting the very thing you don't believe in

Well no it doesn’t. It means you don’t need to assign a colour to a sex. All have green or white or whatever.

TinselandToblerones · 27/12/2018 13:57

After my most recent birth we had white coloured elephant ones, at my first birth it was just a white coloured card.

slashlover · 27/12/2018 13:58

FFS, you're a boy or a girl. Gender neutral me hole. The irony is that the ones campaigning for gender neutrality are the ones who then kick up a fuss about a man who decides he's female in a women's prison.

Do you even know what gender neutral is?

littlecabbage · 27/12/2018 14:02

Littlecabbage, adding boy or girl is stating their presumed gender. Why can't a simple colour coded card denote the exact same thing.

Jazzhan, I have no issue with "presuming" the biological sex of a child. Because their biological sex is a scientific fact, not a choice. And "gender" is a load of rubbish, based on stereotyping.

By all means, go with "green for girls, yellow for boys" or something. I just want to avoid the tedious "pink, sparkly, fluffy = girls and blue, strong, logical = boys nonsense".

littlecabbage · 27/12/2018 14:05

I want a pink card and everything pink.

For all babies or for a baby girl? If the latter, then I give up debating with you, you are a lost cause Confused.

Redglitter · 27/12/2018 14:10

I'd suggest white with a some pink and blue felt tips available for parents to use to decorate them if they like

Hmm
TwitterQueen1 · 27/12/2018 14:11

OP I think the lessons here are:
Don't be so considerate
Don't ask people what they want - just give them what you've got
Don't canvas opinions - every single person will have a different one
Never try to please anyone
Like HM The Queen - never explain (or complain)

It was nice of you to ask though Xmas Wink

AnotherEmma · 27/12/2018 14:12
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Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 27/12/2018 14:14

I honestly wouldn't even notice or care.

When you've had a baby there are much bigger thing going on and taking your attention.

AnotherEmma · 27/12/2018 14:15

Hahahahahaha

Yes this is EXACTLY what's wrong with the country

Not Brexit, not the privatisation of the NHS and other services, not the rise in child poverty and food bank use... oh no

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jq28 · 27/12/2018 14:17

@AnotherEmma grow up it was a generic comment about this gender neutral bullshit we are all suddenly harping on about.

TinselandToblerones · 27/12/2018 14:18

Its this type of pathetic question that is what's wrong with this country.

Ah, that’d be amusing if it was so rude!

PinkAvocado · 27/12/2018 14:18

gender neutral bullshit
What do you mean by gender neutral? I’m not sure we are all meaning the same thing.