What one thing would people never guess about you?

[Thisisit777]

Me - I was shy at school and rarely talked.

You?

@whatonearth it’s me trufflehumper (have name changed) thank you. Can’t talk in RL.

I suffer chronically from imposter syndrome and also find it incredible that anyone would want to be my friend.

This is me too and no one in my life has a clue. I have exactly 1 friend in the entire world. I have an intense dislike of myself and cannot imagine that anyone else could possibly like me. Because of that, I am withdrawn and quiet and refuse to socialize with new people.

I've been sexually abused by 3 different adults when I was a child, 2 that absolutely no one knows about as it would break my dads heart (was my grandad)

I have been homeless for a short period and used to squat in properties when I was very young

I have performed CPR on the roadside 6 times, 2 unsuccessful

@Fortknockers, no one knows, other than my niece who isn't much younger than me and that's because we were drinking and she asked why I don't date and can't handle the idea of a relationship and it all came out. According to her after that a lot about me makes sense, down to why I am particular about people touching me and who I let close. She wants me to tell my mum but it would kill her and my sister and then my sister/sisters or my BIL's would try to kill him and he's not worth it, there's nothing that can be done legally and my memories are unreliable due to time and there is no evidence.

And I can't put my nieces and nephews through that, they already know their uncle is a bad man and have minimal contact when forced by their dads family (they're all over 16) I can't have them or anyone else look at me like I'm broken or have them hurt because of it. Thing is after the first time, it only happened because I knew if I wasn't their he'd hurt them, so I made sure I'd be there when he was to stop it. And I struggle with that everyday. I was just a child and I knew it was wrong yet I let it happen because I couldn't stand for the idea of anyone else being hurt. Logically now as an adult I know that chances are he's probably hurt them anyway.

I am in an almost permanent state of homicidal rage. It comes in useful sometimes.

That I am lying about something really important. Everyone thinks I am as honest as the day is long...which is generally true, but there is a massive lie at the center of my life.

I came damn close to committing suicide about 6 years ago. Nobody in real life knows it.

My dh & I enjoy tantric sex parties together

@whatonearth my situation is similar in that I have fragmented memories of what happened which were ‘confirmed’ for want of a better description when my Sister told me what had happened to her. We did tell this mans partner but she decided to stay with him. Have you sought any counselling? And if so, did it help? If you don’t mind me asking - how do you think your experiences have affected your adult life?

What a thread... lots of wonderful revelations, lots of sadness too...

What does it say about our society that some people have revealed truths here for the first time ever; why can't we speak openly about sadness, loneliness and anxiety? Why must so many people feel the need to mask it, convey something that they think others will find more acceptable?

Good luck everyone. Never give up on yourself x

I'm still pondering of a Tantric Sex party is actually an oxymoron or not.

I've been meditating over it for hours without reaching a final conclusion!

@Fortknockers, I've had counselling for other issues but I've never brought this up. There is nothing they can tell me that I don't already know. I'd rather just get on with my life.

I think due to it and other issues I developed selective mutism, I would scream when people touched me and I could not tolerate being near men, particularly if they were drunk or shirtless.

I've never dated and repressed any attraction I felt towards anyone because I'm so panicky about being touched at all. I mean one of my male friends I've known for just over a year now and I've hugged him twice. Once when we said goodbye at the end of summer and once on his birthday. Another male friend who I think I may actually quite like I'm OK hugging because he is safe somehow and I'm fine with him poking and prodding me without panicking but even with female friends I'm not always great with them touching me tbh. It's like I need to have that physical distance between myself and them.

@TornFromTheInside - 😂😂😂

@WhatOnEarthDoIDoNow I also try not to be physically touched by others and am passive sexually. I wonder if counselling could help unravel all my thoughts. Still feel confused all these years later.

I make between 1k to 2k each month by taking advantage of casino sign up offers.

Have been doing it since February this year. Started with £100, currently have about 6k in my 'bank' and paid for a wedding, a holiday and some home improvements.

Only close friends and family know. Most people think I do the books for our business, which I do but my main job is playing slot machines online.

frouby tell us more!

That I suffer with severe anxiety.
And also that I've only slept with one person. (which as a longer time ago than I like to admit).
These two facts are linked.

Christmassy I can't really, because it's very specific, very high risk if you don't know what you are doing or have the bank to deal with the losses and it's taken me months to get my head around it. I had a very close friend as a mentor who is always at the end of the phone if I get stuck.

If you want 'free' money and have a few hours a week spare have a google of matched betting. Most people doing what I do start with that.

I don’t eat meat.
I havn’t done for 30 years.
Everyone is incredulous when they find this out for the first time.

I am worth > 1 million - not bad for a poor northern lass who lived on a Council Estate.

I had a ONS (revenge shag) with a good looking professional football player when I found out about the OW.

I've been in the papers being thanked for something I did at work.

Thanks Frouby, will investigate!

I'm just a dreadful human really. Failure on loads of accounts, a poor example to my beautiful son and my DH deserves better. I'm just lazy and shit.

I'm autistic but a lot of people don't know. I didn't know for a long time.

I drink far too much. I'm probably an alcoholic. I've done coke and MDMA in the past but not for a long time.

I have crippling insecurity.

I don't cope with being a mum very well and it breaks my heart.

I was sexually assaulted by a friend when I was a child, who was female. Not sure who the previous poster was, but it's happened to me and it can happen. I'm sorry it's happened to you too.

I used to work as an escort. I have an economics based Ph.d and a maths degree.

My age, I look a lot younger and people are shocked to find out I have a 16 year old.

I've been married.

Been with someone for 5 years, engaged.....but still madly and wildly in love with my ex, who's a lot older than me (actually the reason I'm divorced)

Used to be a cocaine addict

That I've had a threesome with two guys 10 years younger than me.