What one thing would people never guess about you?

[Thisisit777]

Me - I was shy at school and rarely talked.

You?

Such very sad stories . I am genuinely amazed by how much difficulty some people have had/have in their lives. So many people who hide what is really going on. It's really very humbling and quite shocking too. Why in our society are we so unable to be authentic I wonder? Why do we feel this need to put on a face for the world, whilst hiding how we really feel? I've never been much good at that.
Changed - you don't need to live like that, there must be a way to get out of your marriage and start afresh.

That I've been married before.
People always assume I was quite... promiscuous in my younger years. I find women confusing and intimidating, so have always preferred the company of males socially. I wasnt, I've pretty much always been in long relationships (sometimes wish I had been)
I have no confidence,
I don't really know who I am, I don't really have any personality and am not interesting, feel like a failure in every aspect of my life.

Thank you for the flowers. I do feel better for telling someone, even if its not my husband family or friends. It does explain a few things though, regarding me being taken advantage of in my younger years quite a few times.

The weight on my shoulders is a little lighter too. Hope others can feel the same too. to you all x

changed is there anyone you can talk to? GP? Lots of MNers recommend the Freedom Programme, could be worth exploring?

That I had to have counselling because my confidence was so low

I’m a short, fat, middle aged mum. Once upon a time I was a world champion sportswoman. It was all curtailed by a serious accident and I had to find a new life by the time I was 20. It was the ultimate high then the ultimate low. If you google my name, you see my old achievements / photos and my current life but no connection between them.

And I am in awe of the incredible women on this thread. Some of the journeys that you’ve lived through are shocking and that so many are thriving is a testament to female resilience. I hope that people that are still in the middle of their troubles take heart and know that they will make it too.

That I have lived with a serious mental illness for 22yrs. I hate that I have to keep it secret

wordsup that I have a stammer too. School days were awful, lived in dread of having to read out loud. Funnily enough, my best subjects were foreign languages! Have learned over the years how to cope. And I was a teacher - never had it in the classroom, as I was in control. Nervy social situations were the worst. Dreaded my wedding day as was so scared I'd not be able to get my vows out, but everything went ok!

I was a mistress in my late 20s.
Most people are very surprised by what I do for a living. Not a particularly interesting job but apparently I don’t really look like one.

Oh dear, my stammer sounds so trivial now that I've rtft. Upset to read so many sad stories.

What an interesting thread this is. to all who have had hard times

That right now I would end it all if I could. But I won't.

Ive been a sugar baby in the past and would do it again

I have bad anxiety, I manage as best possible but do avoid certain situations so make up reasons I can’t do things. No one ever takes anxiety seriouslY unless they have it.
I also think I have autism, I’ve managed so far in my life as no ones ever questioned it, I have many of the same traits as my DS who is officially diagnosed. It doesn’t affect my life as far so I’ve accepted it as a norm and just got on with life. I’ve not said anything to anyone in the family.

That I'm an incredibly touchy/cuddly/tactile person, I never initiate them though because I can never tell if the other person is ok with it and now it's habit to just not touch people.

That I have been abused by 3 people when I was a child. I have never told anyone that and the older I get, the more I am starting to recognise the impact it has had me and my MH and relationship with sex.

I suffer from depression and social anxiety and self harmed for nearly 30 years.

I have moments still where I want to no longer exist but thankfully, these are now momentary flashes rather than prolonged feelings.

I am really, really lonely sometimes.

Thank you for this thread and to everyone on here who has given me the strength to write this down-I even feel like a fraud for doing so, as if it shouldn't matter, but I feel lighter for doing so.
to all of you

Lovemysofa Don't ever be sorry for being you and for what happened to you, you are just as valid as every other person who has posted on this thread.

Not so much people wouldn’t guess but are surprised to find out...
I had my first boy when I was 14 and that DH is his dad.
That I have 2 Grandchildren.
DH used to be very famous and still works in a job that gets him recognised.

I think this thread has moved me more than any other in my 10+ years on here! Peace to you all for 2019

That I haven married for 23 years and have not had sex with my husband for the majority of it

That I have chronic illness. I look normal under the make up and living my life like every else but I feel enormously different, and constantly exhausted.

@elQuintoConyo

You sound totally awesome!

That I wish he’d done more than just touch me so that I could legitimately name it childhood abuse rather than continually questioning myself as to whether that’s what it was.

That I will be single forever- I am deeply unnatractive, overweight with chronic mental and physical disabilities
....

I don't deserve to be on this planet

@trufflehumper, I get this 100% sister BIL, found out when I was 15 he'd been arrested and jailed for pedophillia. No doubt in my mind from then but my memories are traumatic and foggy so I doubt them all. Sending you virtual hugs.