Do I accept I'm Val?

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One of my neighbours is a lovely old lady in her 80s.
She loves my OH and they dog walk together. He helps her with anything she needs and she knows she is welcome at our house for anything I think!
She's lovely and how is lime to be in my 80s!

But
She thinks I'm called val!
I'm not.
I'm not that old! 😂
I'm not that bothered and will
Happily answer to val but it's not my name....should I correct her or forget it and be val!?
It made me laugh today . (Unless the OH has another woman called val!)

How I'd *like to be

Where did limes enter!?!

Oh I've been Kelly for years with a colleague. Years. I'm not Kelly.
Of course you say nothing to her OP! I😂 just be Val.

Let it go

val

Be the best Val you can be, OP

This reminds me of a neighbour of ours who rarely speaks to us but for some reason always sends us a Christmas card so we feel we should really send one to her. Problem is we can never remember if she is Jean or Joan so we either have to write it badly so it's hard to tell or wait until we receive her card to remind us.
Embarrassingly I once knocked on her door to collect a parcel. After she'd struggled to the door in her dressing gown (she's quite elderly) I realised I was at the wrong house. She thinks I am completely mad I think.
I have another friend who I've known for years and I don't know if her last name ends -on or -en. More dodgy handwriting on her Xmas card as it's gone well beyond the time when I could ask!

One of my neighbours has been calling me Carly for 23 years, or Cars for short.
Not my name. But she has SN so I just run with it.

Years ago I was doing a presentation with a much older and more senior colleague who consistently called me Helen throughout his part (not even remotely similar to my actual name, for the purpose of this story I can be called Susan). Everyone else in the room knew my name. Eventually he said “now I’ll hand over to Helen” at which point a voice rang out from the back “her name is Susan”, I nodded in agreement and he said “I don’t think so”. I then started with “for those who don’t know me I am Susan Smith” which caused him to stare at me in disbelief for daring to contradict him.

My very lovely NDN decided when we moved in that DH was called Ben.

Ben is a super name. But it's not DH's.

By a freaky coincidence, it is however BIL's name.

I always feel the British thing to do would be divorce DH and marry BIL, just to save social embarassment.

As it is, she writes us Christmas cards every year that say "to Johnny, Ben and family" and I passive aggressively write back a card with DH real name in inch high black letters. She then smiles cheerily next time DH puts the bins and calls "hello Ben!"

One day, one of us will crack. Or die. But we will never correct her as it is Not Done.

Be the best Val you can be, OP

I properly laughed out loud at that!

I had an elderly customer who used to greet me every time by calling me Amy. I am not called Amy. I let it go, he was in his 90's and very sweet.

I spent 18 months calling my nextdoor neighbour 'Ronnie' before I finally realised his name is Reggie.

If it wasn't for the Christmas card, I'd never have known

I have an acquaintance who has always called me Jan. My name isn't anything like Jan. I gave up correcting her after the first few times & have accepted that I will forever be Jan to her.

Worra

That’s amazing!

DowntonCrabby if I'd have listened to my (then) 3yr old, I'd have known straight away

I am Caroline to 3 separate and as far as any of us can tell totally unconnected people. My name is not Caroline. It doesn't sound like Caroline. It isn't spelt like Caroline

Our neighbour always got DH's name wrong. We gave up correcting him.

We even seriously considered putting the 'wrong' name on their invite to our wedding, but thought they might be a tad too passive.

The worst is that dh hates his name and would far prefer to be called the 'wrong' name that neighbour uses!

One of my old patients used to call me Paula. I’m definitely not called Paula but just used to answer to it 😂

Of course be Val - you get to choose what it’s short for! Valentina? Valencia? Valmeriadonna?

My neighbour always calls me rihanna. Thats not my name. Although it does being with R even when we manage to get our christmas card in first, still always put rihanna 😂

I always feel the British thing to do would be divorce DH and marry BIL, just to save social embarassment.

I spent years as Lorraine to ndn my real name is nothing like Lorraine

Thanks Worra

My DH name is the same as elderly neighbours DH name. So we were told to make it easier, my DH would now be known to them as another name as it was easier for them! It makes me laugh. They are so lovely I don’t like to say that a bit odd.

I’m guilty of this! We lived next door to the most delightful lady in her 80s for three years. I swear she told me her name was Mary, so ‘Hello Mary!’, Christmas Cards to Mary, taught my toddler to wave and say hi to Mary. We had so many cups of tea and chats, she was lovely.

She had a stroke and was taken into hospital, when her son popped round to collect some bits for her, I asked him how his mother was. ‘KATHLEEN(!!!) is much better now’ argh! I was mortified

I misheard my DP telling me their sister’s name when we first met, years ago. I thought it was Yvonne (it’s not). Until this day I call her Yvonne, always say ‘Hi Yvonne’ when she phones etc, she thinks it’s great (she’s fab anyway). The best bit is she signed her wedding card to us both ysung Yvonne too.