What are you going to do differently in 2019?

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I reckon I'm going to stop overthinking but it might never happen!

Remus, I think it's something to do with living in the moment, seeing beauty in small things, and appreciating the love in your life from both family and friends. I've got back in touch with quite a few people I'd lost touch with over the years, and it's been really lovely to think of how much of an impact people can make on you (and you on them) at certain points in your life. Even if you've taken very different paths since, there's something cathartic and comforting about being able to say to people what a difference just knowing them has made.

I'd love to say I'm going to be healthier, more positive, more confident and happier.

The reality is I'll be an even worse version of the negative, miserable, anxious, fat twat that I am now.

Merry Christmas x

I'm a SAHM and desperately need to get back into the workplace so hopefully find a new job

• ditch booze fingers crossed as sick of it making me feel like shit when I have it --old now and can't hack the hangovers anymore

• stop arguing with hate filled people/ idiots on MN or the web in general lol

• more random acts of kindness

• lose a couple of stone and get fit again!

(Really not asking for much next year am I lol)

BoF haven't seen you in here for ages (MN is so big now, I rarely recognise people any more). Very sorry to hear your news
Am thinking of you. (even if you don't know me from Adam )

Do less work - just the easy bits. other people manage and even get rewarded for it
Leave the office on time - every day, not just once a year!
Acknowledge my career has peaked about 25 years ago and stop doing any career 'development'.

What I do seems not to be valued, so I'm going to do less of it. I don't expect anyone will notice. Even if they do, they are unlikely to do anything about it.

I feel liberated already!

I can't remember who mentioned the idea of being more pro-actively happy. It's a great one. Would love to know what people do towards this, other than journals which are definitely not for me.

The only way I have found that works, is to lower my expectations / standards.

Pick the winning lottery numbers.

I am studying full time, making a capsule wardrobe, "shopping from home" until I run out of the shit that I already have. I am minimising the crap in my life. It may include people too.

Icould - me too. I have decided to take my foot off the gas too. I am never going to get promoted (no longer want to), I get paid well, I have no real responsibilities at work. Nobody gives a damn whether I do a good job or a so so one. So, despite it being against my nature, I have decided to go through the motions at work. I too feel liberated and very positive. I love my life outside work and work is left firmly behind when I leave it.

Accept me for me (body, etc). Continue to run. Make more time to enable my husband and I to get more than 1 day off together every quarter.

Maybe have another baby so therefore at least have more sex

I’ve just finished my first semester of University (Biology) at 32 with 3DDs in row.

It’s been a steep and fast learning curve and there are some adjustments I need to make in order to keep on top of the workload.

I also need to put studying aside one set day a week and focus solely on the DC; take them out, do things with them etc

I also haven’t been to the gym since semester started; I’m getting flabby and unfit again and I don’t like it.

At nearly 47 I think it's about time I stopped biting my nails.
I am very jealous of people with lovely painted nails and the solution lies with me.
I have tried over the years but gosh it's a hard habit to break.

Write more.
And also OP's idea about stopping overthinking.

Yes to not overthinking, I need to do that more too!
I've already made a start on this, as I'm doing it too much lately.
I find mindfulness great, it's hard work, but it gets easier the more you do it!

I am going to finish my AAT

Try to successfully live in the real world as a normal person.

This thread has made me feel happy 😊 and so many good ideas. Mine will be -

copying Just, minimising crap, including people,
stop overthinking and over pleasing as it's bloody exhausting and very rarely noticed/appreciated
read more
do a Wolf Run (or similar) even if I have to go alone (Knobby No Running Mates!)

Finally whilst 2018 has been fairly uneventful for me in the grand scheme of things so many of my close friends have been through the mill in some way and it's really made me appreciate that my quiet, mundane life is something to truly savour.

This might sound a bit smug, and I apologise profusely if it does, but - nothing. I think I do everything as I like it right now and can't think of anything to change. So I guess my new year's resolution will be just carry on.

Actually - I just thought of one. I should recycle more as sometimes I get a bit lazy with it.

Stop eating crap
Put my phone down more and spend more time having fun and talking with dcs.
Read some books
Go out more

I'm going to fund my True Expenses in YNAB and will try to stick to the No-S Diet.

I’m going to simplify the shit out of everything. Specifically

• massive ruthless clear out scheduled for 4th Jan
• Project 33 my wardrobe
• quit all the voluntary committee bollocks at work
• tell my PT I’m probably never going to do my mobility drills
• 2 weekly meal planner and shopping list to match.
• automate everything not already automated that can be automated.

Also quitting social media. It’s a toxic time suck ( and utterly compelling).

stop drinking alcohol during the week
grow some new types of vegetables
improve my swimming