What are you going to do differently in 2019?

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I reckon I'm going to stop overthinking but it might never happen!

I’m going to stop apologising. This occurred to me today when a grown man walked into my ds and I said sorry.

Slow down. I do everything fast, for no reason.

Spend less time online.

Be less open. I am an open book and that is to my detriment.

Brilliant thread.
I'm going to really push forward with my self employment. I love my day job but I'm being taken for a mug and they don't pay me enough.

Spend more quality time with DS. I've felt like I've neglected him for the past few weeks as I've been stressed and working a lot while while he sleeps. Not literally neglecting him but we've had too many days indoors chilling and slobbing out. I'm looking forward to days out and fun activities, lots of fresh air and exploring, just need to get the Christmas orders out the way and I'm all his again.

I’m going to always stop and think before I respond to my family.

I lost my mum recently, and the less thoughtful things she said occasionally torment me. I know this isn’t fair to her; she was only human.

Spend less time on mumsnet! It's a bit addictive Having said that though, mumsnet prompted me to end yet another abusive relationship, directed me to the freedom program and women's aid, has made me a feminist, educated me in many ways and made me laugh. I just need to ration it.

I'm going back to uni to get back into work after having nearly 4 years off. Shit! 4 years! Ds and DDs were worth it though.

Exercise other than just walking everywhere. I walk 5 miles a day up some bigs hills but I need toning up in general.

Continue to be NC with those who have made my life miserable in the past and contributed to a very anxious and unhappy childhood and adulthood. I don't need them in my life.

To learn new things. I especially want to learn more about feminism, and world history.

And I will learn to drive (having lessons so definitely do-able).

I plan to be (almost) teetotal
I'm up for the odd drink at parties, on holiday etc, but the unrelenting cycle of drinking just for the sake of it has to stop. I actually love drinking, it just doesnt love me anymore

Do more for me. I want to learn to make jewellery (simple stuff), and do more clay.
I want to spend less time reading forums and spend more time reading books
I want to be kinder to myself

Go to bed at sensible time.

Get stuff done, stop procrastinating.

Do more creative stuff.

Tell people no, I’m so afraid of upsetting/offending someone that I often go along with things I don’t want to.

Basically take better care of myself.

Stroke more cats.

Work hard, get promoted, hopefully start an MBA and get DS into a good school just around the corner.

Be a better friend. I’m awful for letting friendships drift off through lack of contact so I’m going to be more assertive and initiate contact rather than wait.

Learn to drive. I must this year!!

I’d say lose weight but I’ve been wanting to do that since 18 and now I’m 31 and fatter than ever

No drinking

Have some get up and go
Try harder to find work
Decide where the fuck we are going to live. Grrrr

Appreciate my family more.

We're definitely in a rut and I don't enjoy the time we spend together anymore because I've found myself focussing too much on the negative aspects.

Buy less, save more. Do a Counselling course and generally aim to be a healthier family.

1. Get back to a size 10

2. Get my career back on track after a string of jobs that have nothing to do with my qualifications.

I could go on. My life's a mess right now :/ hoping things will become clearer in 2019!!

Lose weight , ha ha.

Start washing my hair not just dry shampoo , shave more than my ankles when that's only flesh showing, not pick ingrowing hairs ( that's never gonna happen), stop being a nosey neighbour . Be kind and take time to speak to boring friends, not say I'm ill to get out of things I've only agreed to when I'm pissed.Etc all for 2019

I'm not going to overly engage with dh family other that being polite as they're annoying
I'm not chasing dead friendships

Stop saying yes to everything and be kinder to myself.

Drink more water

Do things that make me happy rather than always being an after thought.

Put my phone down more often.
Get back to running.
Try to stop overthinking everything

Walk my dog more.

Cut my screen time right down.

Get another masters module done.

Pull my finger out and write some more articles.

Maybe even have a relationship!

Buy fewer but quality clothes. Be more organised and money savvy. Also cut down on portions/crap food. Get more skills re job applications.

Wear SPF every day.

Finish my next book (it's under contract, so I need to get on it!)

Remember that exercise is an item on my to-do list, not something that stops me getting to my to-do list.

Lose 10 kilos by getting back into running and stopping eating shite because I'm too tired to cook.
Be more 'open' and chatty... I come across as being standoffish and a bit rude, but it's actually shyness and a lack of self-confidence.
Become elegant by buying fewer, higher quality clothes!
Reduce our household waste production (ongoing battle).