Bf gets mad when I wear make-up?

[Puptup123]

Whenever I wear make up it is a basic amount nothing to fancy. I have worn it for years the same way and is apart of my daily routine. Recently my bf of 2 and a bit years has started to get annoyed about it. At first he didn’t say anything but would just be in a bad mood with me all day. It clicked to me that it could be that because days when I don’t wear it he would be fine.

I asked him does it bother you and he said why do you want to attract other people. I said it’s not for that, it’s for me and I have worse it for years, and i find it enjoyable to put on. He would say only slags wear make up and girls with none are far more marriage material? It’s starting to put me down as I feel like I can’t be me? And I try not to annoy him and not wear any but then I feel so horrible going out on a Saturday to town without making any effort? He would also make comments about my clothes calling me a slut even when I only wear jeans and a top and coat everyday. AIBU?

(Sorry for long post)

Please please leave him! He is assaulting you and it will only get worse.

Never ever stay with a man that raises his hand to you and has such misogynistic views.

You deserve better, leave now before you lose yourself.

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This isn't normal OP. Not remotely

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RUN!
Don't waste your life thinking you're going to change him. You won't. He'll drag you down and suck the life out of you.

Thank you @Wordthe

OP, Step 1: you've aired the problem and we've all confirmed your thoughts. Step 2: get away from him and think only of yourself.

You can do this.

Oh op don't feel ashamed it's not your fault, he should be the one ashamed of physical and verbal abuse. He doesn't love you, he just loves himself. You deserve a LOT more than this - don't let this set a mold for future boyfriends. Boyfriends should be kind and caring, and want to lift you up. Not any of this. Please get out before he hurts you any more. It will only get worse from here. Best of luck 💐

Where do you live with op? Is it safe?

If I were you I would phone the police now (111) tell them you are planning to dump a dangerous man and ask advice on how to keep yourself safe and how best to end this relationship.

Leave running as soon as she can . He won’t change .

Please please leave. I can't stress enough how this relationship will damage you not just physically but mentally too. His being drunk is NOT an excuse even if he says he blacked out and can't remember.
Be strong for you and your future it can be happy and without shame. I understand how hard it is it took me years to make the break. I lost all my friends and all my confidence but through self care and counselling I am now living a happy life with a man that tells and (more importantly) shows he loves me through his respect for me. It can happen for you too!
Being on your own is not the worst thing in the world.
If you need to talk you can pm me anytime.

Oh dear, I rarely wear make up myself and my dp does prefer the "natural look" BUT on the rare occasions that I do wear it he isn't bothered and wouldn't dream of saying that only slags wear it.

Your partner is demonstrating jealous and controlling behaviour, you've always liked wearing make up and it was fine when he met you but now he has you he wants it to change? Get out now as he won't get any better, next you won't be able to wear skirts, short dresses or show off your shoulders without being accused of being a tart that is going to cheat on him.

Omg I've just seen that he's been physically abusive as well.

Please do look at your self worth, he's absolutely awful and he won't get better, he's got away with so much already.

Definitely get out of this relationship. Focus on your studies, which I'm sure are extensive, enjoy a bit of a social life and rediscover yourself. You are so young to fall into the trap of an abusive relationship but that means you have plenty of scope to move pat it and never fall for the same type of bloke again.

Seriously, this is not the guy for you.