Bf gets mad when I wear make-up?

[Puptup123]

Whenever I wear make up it is a basic amount nothing to fancy. I have worn it for years the same way and is apart of my daily routine. Recently my bf of 2 and a bit years has started to get annoyed about it. At first he didn’t say anything but would just be in a bad mood with me all day. It clicked to me that it could be that because days when I don’t wear it he would be fine.

I asked him does it bother you and he said why do you want to attract other people. I said it’s not for that, it’s for me and I have worse it for years, and i find it enjoyable to put on. He would say only slags wear make up and girls with none are far more marriage material? It’s starting to put me down as I feel like I can’t be me? And I try not to annoy him and not wear any but then I feel so horrible going out on a Saturday to town without making any effort? He would also make comments about my clothes calling me a slut even when I only wear jeans and a top and coat everyday. AIBU?

(Sorry for long post)

Op this is only going to get worse. Be glad ur not his type of 'marriage material' abdolutely horrid and controlling.

You mean your ex.
Don’t have many friends. Bet that’s his doing.
Run. Run fast.

I want you to rescue yourself from this man!

Please, you are young and lovely and I know it is hard but you have to get away.

Get out. He is controlling and abusive and it’ll only get worse. As will your anxiety. I expect you’ll feel much better when you’re not constantly harassed about this stuff. You’ll also have more friends as I expect he has been subtly isolating you as well.

Tell people, you’ve got nothing to be embarrassed about.

You’re too young to be wasting your life with this arsehole. It will get worse, believe me.

Please ensure you are somewhere safe and with other people when you end this ‘relationship’, Puptup, and not alone with him. Better to dump him by text message then block him from your phone/email.
You deserve better than this arse of a man.

Tell as many people as you can and dump him NOW. He's a controlling twat. Relationships should be fun and enjoyable.
If you're getting anxious and reducing your friends, this is just the beginning.
Please be safe and let people know.

LTB now.

Leave !! Now !!

Please end the relationship now and get some support. I’ve been exactly where you are, same with me, a first relationship, and that 4.5 year relationship still impacts me almost 12 years on.

None of this is OK. My partner now would never ever comment on my appearance other than to say I look nice, he would never ever say something so awful or even consider telling me what to wear.

The question is, if he doesn’t like all these things about you then why doesn’t he end it for a girl that doesn’t wear makeup? Because he wants to have someone to control and denigrate.

You are worth so much more than this and you will find someone wonderful. Even if he has good days or can be funny or kind or thoughtful sometimes, there is NO EXCUSE for this sort of behaviour and it will get worse and not better over time.

www.womensaid.org.uk/the-survivors-handbook/am-i-in-an-abusive-relationship/

Do make sure to make yourself safe. I’d recommend resetting your phone to factory settings, not from a backup, just in case he has had put anything on your phone.

He's abusive. You feel shit because he's been abusing you. You don't need this in your life. Get rid and find someone who will treat you with respect.

I agree with FadedRed. End by text or phone then block from phone and all social media. Where are you living? Is there security? If so, inform them of the situation.

Omg 😮 he sounds very nasty to you !!
This is not good, he will only get worse.
I’m 40 something year old nurse, I wear make up every day,
I am not a slag, and nor are you,
Tell people what he says to you, and end this relationship.
He’s a baddun 😡

I agree with all the other posts saying leave him.
I married my controlling boyfriend and when he didn't like something I did his words turned to physical punches.
Tell everyone you can why you are leaving this relationship and walk away with your head held high before you get hurt.

This is my very first.....

LTB!!!!!!!

Please stop wasting your life on him, you're only 20 you've got your whole life ahead of you. He's a twat

Leave him. Clean break. Block him pn every thing. Run.

Cruel and controlling behaviour .

Leave him, you're worth more than this

Thanks so much for everyone’s responses! It really does mean a lot knowing I’m not going crazy hahaha. I know I should probably leave as it has ended in a few bruises on my arms my parents seen but I just feel too weak for anything and like I’m alone (pathetic I know lol)

Why bruises? Please get out now before he gets you pregnant and you're stuck.

He was drunk one night and kicked me multiple times and spat in my face whilst calling me a whore

Get out OP. Get out get out get out. You are a successful young woman with your whole life ahead of you. Do not tie yourself to a nasty, controlling, violent waste of space like him. He sounds like my ex. It took time but I managed to ditch his sorry arse and it was like coming out of prison

None of his behaviour is normal, none of it is ok, none of it should be tolerated. Trust your gut. You know this is wrong. Do yourself a huge favour and get rid

You mentioned the make up thing first? But not the kicking, calling you a whore and spitting?!

Are you okay?

OP, who can you tell in real life? Is there a women’s aid/ women’s safety organisation at your college?

Could you tell a friend?

Please get out. This is an abusive relationship. You deserve better. He will escalate this behaviour. Has he started isolating you from your family yet?