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I think social services will take my children

106 replies

MysteryPill · 03/12/2018 16:35

At the weekend I went on a very rare night out, the children were with my DH. I had a lot to drink & was horrifically drunk I also had a steaming cold. I don't remember much but a friend offered me a nasal spray "to help with my cold" - I took it a nd the whole table laughed - it was coke. I can't believe I was so stupid I'm the most straight laced person ever when it comes to drugs. Never seen them, never even smoked.

I've felt awful all weekend and my heart has been racing. Today I went to the hospital and had to have an ECG. I obviously told them what has happened because I thought I was having a heart attack. Are social services going to be informed \ take my DDs?

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TroyKing · 03/12/2018 16:38

Why haven't you reported this to the police ?

There is nothing funny about what your friends did.

Chocolala · 03/12/2018 16:40

They might be informed but I really doubt they’d take your kids. Not with the way you’ve explained things. You say that you were tricked into taking illegal drugs.

You might want to telll the police though. What they did was an offence. Imagine if they’d done that to someone with a serious heart condition.

DaisyDreaming · 03/12/2018 16:41

Might be informed but kids aren’t removed from their family because a parent took drugs once when they weren’t even looking after the children.

MerryGinmas · 03/12/2018 16:41

I don't work in SS but I'm certain you're fine. I'll bet there are plenty of parents who are regular (known) drug users who have their children with them.

Accidentally taking a drug while you weren't with your children doesn't make you a risk IMO.

Let it be a lesson not to use someone else's nasal spray 😷 or to get so drunk you accidentally take drugs. I'd be seriously angry with whoever gave it to you. How are you feeling now OP? Everyone makes mistakes.

Bluntness100 · 03/12/2018 16:42

Your friend is a piece of shit and not your friend,

And no they won't take your kids, don't worry. Jeez they don't even take em off proper druggies if they think it can be resolved.

Wingingthis · 03/12/2018 16:44

How did you mistake a nasal spray for coke????

Caprisunorange · 03/12/2018 16:44

No it will be fine. Lots of parents are recreational drug users

I’m confused about the coke though- how could it be mistaken for nasal spray? Are you sure they weren’t having you on?

Unicornandbows · 03/12/2018 16:45

You need to report this to the police

silkpyjamasallday · 03/12/2018 16:45

Believe me they won't take your children, I know someone who regularly smoked crack in their home around their child having already had 6 children taken when she went to prison and the new baby wasn't taken away.

Your friends are horrible people though, you would be best to distance yourself from them.

Wingingthis · 03/12/2018 16:45

Sorry other way round!

PickleSarnie · 03/12/2018 16:46

How do you get coke into a nasal spray? It's a powder. Sprays are liquid surely?

Were they perhaps winding you up?

snowflakesnow · 03/12/2018 16:46

the hospital should put a referral in if they suspect something is amiss Don't worry they won't take your children. They may want to do an assessment of your family if they don't believe your explanation but even if an assessment is done they still won't take your children unless your off year head on drugs everyday and can't take car of their basic needs

Wolfiefan · 03/12/2018 16:49

A nasal spray. That’s not coke surely?
Are they making a horrible joke at your expense? They’re not friends.

Ifeelnothingbutrage · 03/12/2018 16:50

I just googled it... looks like it's a thing that people do. Nowt as queer as folk.

PurpleCrazyHorse · 03/12/2018 16:51

The last thing SS want to do is take children into care, it costs the government money for one thing. You might get a call just checking things out, but they're just following up.

I would ditch your friend(s) though, that is a truly awful thing to do.

SparkyBlue · 03/12/2018 16:59

What your friends did was awful. They are certainly not friends of yours

CleverQuacks · 03/12/2018 17:07

I work in child protection social services and wanted to reassure you that your children wouldn’t be removed for this. I work with a lot of families who use drugs and still have their children at home. The most important thing is that your drug use does not put your children at risk and it’s clear that in the situation you describe your children were not at risk.

I would rethink your friends though.

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MysteryPill · 03/12/2018 17:12

I feel awful. I won't be spending time with those friends again. Is a SS report inevitable or just a possibility? I don't want to report it to the police i just want to forget about the whole thing. I haven't even told DH- he thinks I've had a bad hangover and have been in work all day. I m so ashamed. I always thought coke was a powder you snorted.

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MysteryPill · 03/12/2018 17:14

CleverQuacks would a referral always be made in this scenario?

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ApolloandDaphne · 03/12/2018 17:15

I am a social worker. This won't even be passed on to social services because you haven't put your children at any level of risk. They were with their DF and safe.

HauntedPencil · 03/12/2018 17:22

What an AWFUL thing for people to do to you.

colditz · 03/12/2018 17:23

YOu haven't done anything wrong and your "friends" are idiots - you deserve better people to spend your time with

Wolfiefan · 03/12/2018 17:24

Honestly you shouldn’t feel bad. All you did was trust people you thought were your friends. I hope you feel better soon.
Ex teacher. You didn’t put your children at any risk. This was a one off and an honest mistake. No safeguarding issue here.
You must have been so freaked out though. What a horrid thing they did. Angry

TatterdemalionAspie · 03/12/2018 17:26

Blimey, calm down! There is no way whatsoever that social services are going to take your children based on what you've described, and no reason whatsoever for the medical staff to make a referral - it will have been very obvious from your anxiety about this and what you told them that you are not a habitual drug taker.

The palpitations are being caused by your anxiety, as the small amount of cocaine you had will be out of your system by now. Try to relax and have a Brew.

BlueJava · 03/12/2018 17:27

Please don't worry - you haven't put your children at risk in any way. They were being looked after by your DH, they weren't with you, nothing to worry about. I'd really reconsider whether those people were my friends though and wouldn't be seeing them again, that's a horrible thing to have done to you.