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I think social services will take my children

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MysteryPill · 03/12/2018 16:35

At the weekend I went on a very rare night out, the children were with my DH. I had a lot to drink & was horrifically drunk I also had a steaming cold. I don't remember much but a friend offered me a nasal spray "to help with my cold" - I took it a nd the whole table laughed - it was coke. I can't believe I was so stupid I'm the most straight laced person ever when it comes to drugs. Never seen them, never even smoked.

I've felt awful all weekend and my heart has been racing. Today I went to the hospital and had to have an ECG. I obviously told them what has happened because I thought I was having a heart attack. Are social services going to be informed \ take my DDs?

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itsfuckingnotducking · 04/12/2018 04:05

Why would you not report it to the police?
If you had a job that required random drug testing you could've lost your job. If you got pulled over and still had drugs in your system you could have lost your license.
What happens the next time they decide to drug someone?

explodingkitten · 04/12/2018 05:30

Am I the only one weirded out by sharing someones nasal spray?

MysteryPill · 04/12/2018 07:47

I don’t think it’s out of my system yet - my heart rate in hospital was 115 it’s still 100. I hope that is all that’s making me paranoid.

For the doubters: I DID NOT SNORT ANYTHING IT CAN BE A NASAL SPRAY

Thank you all.

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FannyAndMoonFace · 04/12/2018 08:18

There's no way the effects of that little cocaine would still be having any effect on you or your heart.

MysteryPill · 04/12/2018 08:22

Well why is my heart still going crazy? If it makes a difference I used nasal spray in each nostril and I’m tiny- just over 5 foot and weigh 7 stone.

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Nonomore2 · 04/12/2018 08:26

@Heartofglass21 @tenbob if you google it, you’ll see it exists. More discreet etc

MysteryPill · 04/12/2018 08:27

And yes sharing nasal spray is gross- and not something I would do when sober. Obviously

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FannyAndMoonFace · 04/12/2018 08:29

Because you're obviously very anxious and paranoid about it.

Caprisunorange · 04/12/2018 08:40

I agree I suspect you’re anxious now too. You might having a panic attack OP

CollyWombles · 04/12/2018 08:46

Op. Some years ago, I knowingly took some legal highs at a party. I was very naive about drugs of any kind, being a highly anxious person, I have always been scared about them. However I was told they were herbal and 'natural' and it was before there was so much publicity on how dangerous they are. I was the only one not taking them and basically peer pressure and low self esteem had me taking them. It was a weekend and the DC were on contact with their father.

To cut a long story short, I took a terrible reaction, lost my vision, passed in and out of consciousness, hallucinated and felt very strongly that I was going to die. I didn't and it eventually wore off. That, was only the start.

The trauma of the experience, the guilt that I took such a stupid risk, the effect on my body and brain... 24 hours later I began to have what ended up being a nervous breakdown. I was under a crisis team, nearly sectioned and believed I had damaged my brain forever. It took a year to recover and I was left with PTSD.

A report was passed on to social services and yet they never investigated or tried to take the kids away. The professionals involved knew how much I loved my children and the guilt of what I had done to myself was what kept me ill for so long.

Anyways. You are not going to bbc investigated. You are not going to lose your kids. Your heart is fine, the coke is not in your system. Your anxiety is causing the raised heart beat. Nothing is going to happen to you, it's been days now. You have got to drink plenty of water, try to rest and be kind to yourself. You have had a terrible fright but it will pass.

MysteryPill · 04/12/2018 08:59

Thank you. I feel highly anxious and stressed and upset that’s probably what’s causing the high heart rate. I was raped a few years ago and it’s a similar feeling of being violated if that makes sense. My beautiful little girls deserve better than a mum who is struggling to function.

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incallthebloodytime · 04/12/2018 09:05

It's absolutely a violation. I wouldn't ever trust those friends again. They might think it's recreational and no big deal... it's clearly not no big deal for you and fortunately it didn't but it can cause horrific things.

I think you'd have a reason to if you wanted to contact the police

Bellabutterfly2016 · 04/12/2018 09:08

I think the phrase is "with friends like that who needs enemies"!

Please report this ASAP to the police who will contact the bar for CCTV footage hopefully and make sure you have nothing to do with these people ever again.

It was a cruel thing to do and I'm sure you have nothing to worry about at all but those scumbags need to be accountable for their actions what if you'd overdosed and collapsed and been hospitalised or worse?

Sending you virtual hugs 🤗💐

Oldraver · 04/12/2018 09:11

You at least need to tell your DH so he can support you

Redtartanshoes · 04/12/2018 09:16

Hope you are ok OP.

Aside from everything else I work in an industry where people are routinely drug tested. Had you been tested on Monday morning in my work place you would have lost your job.

Your cunty friends should be utterly ashamed of themselves

CollyWombles · 04/12/2018 09:20

Your beautiful girls need their mum whether she is struggling or not!

The one positive thing about my experience OP, is that I have been able to use it to explain to my own DC the dangers of drugs. Try to find the positive.

CoraPirbright · 04/12/2018 09:28

Oh OP I am so sorry you are going through this. But you were spiked, through absolutely no fault of your own. Think of it this way, if some low-life dropped something into your drink when you weren’t looking in order to rape you, you wouldn’t say that that was your fault, would you? Well its the same thing here - it never crossed your mind that ‘friends’ would do this to you. A pp, Apollo is a social worker and says that you wont be investigated - please try to take that on board.

And as for your friends, I would call them cunts but that would be highly insulting to cunts. They belong in jail. I hope you tell them what you think of them and then cut them out of your live forever.

ApolloandDaphne · 04/12/2018 09:31

Your heart is probably racing because you are very stressed. Try and do some calming, deep breathing exercises. There are loads of free Apps you can download to help you. Try to relax and put this behind you.

HopeMumsnet · 04/12/2018 09:51

Hi all,
Thanks to those who have used the report system to flag concerns that this poster might not be legit. Of course we can never 100% guarantee but we have had a look and she has been with us a good while and has a decent and consistent posting record.
Hope you're feeling a bit calmer now, MysteryPill. Flowers

alwayscrashinginthesamecar1 · 04/12/2018 09:51

Off topic, but I once audited a medical cupboard on a ward in an old Outer London mental hospital.They had all kinds of obscure and obselete drugs in there, including Cocaine Eyedrops! I can’t even imagine what they used them for.

As for the OP you have nothing to worry about, Social services won’t be interested. But your friend should be reported to the police.

Becca19962014 · 04/12/2018 09:53

You need to report these people to the police.
Please don't ignore their behaviour and stay away from them.

I was at uni with someone who would do this, in our final year a girl he gave it to had a heart attack, nearly died and ended up severely disabled due to problems caused by it. He was charged. He never did it to me but I knew they'd done it in the past.

I felt guilty for years afterwards for not reporting what I knew.

MysteryPill · 04/12/2018 10:00

I told the hospital I have children- they asked me who I live with

I’ve now told DH- he’s angry I got so drunk in the first place & for trusting people I didn’t know that well. (Person who gave me spray was more of a friend of a friend than a friend themselves). I can’t say he’s wrong.

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FeralBeryl · 04/12/2018 10:14

It can take days to clear your system, add on to that the trauma, utter shock and triggering of awful memories- I'm not surprised you're tachycardic!
Get some mindfulness exercises from YouTube, drink plenty of water, rest, try not to catastrophize. You've had confirmation that this will not be a SS alert.
Just get yourself better, your children need you Thanks

purplecorkheart · 04/12/2018 10:15

First you need to contact your friend and confirm exactly what you took. Tell them the hospital think that you are having a reaction and they need to know.

Report this to the Police. You are a victim of a crime. It is highly unlikely that SS will be involved but if they do this shows that you are a victim of a crime.

MysteryPill · 04/12/2018 10:28

The thing is (and I know from my previous rape) the police do nothing without evidence. Where is the evidence? They could say I took it willingly then it’s my word against theirs. I just don’t want the stress or agro - I want to put this all behind me.
If social services do visit I’ve got nothing to hide. I will tell them the truth & they will be able to see how happy and well looked after my DC are. As PP have said SS don’t take children away for this- I didn’t put them at any risk. They were well looked after at home. SS can drug test me from now until I’m 100 if they need to- they will see that I am not and have never been a drug user.
I feel much calmer and able to cope with things. Talking to DH has helped. He’s pissed off with me but has told me I’m being ridiculous about social services which was my main fear. I’m a good mum who has never done anything wrong or stupid before and won’t again.

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