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How to respond to this message about presents?

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OhHelp0hNo · 03/12/2018 14:58

My friends had their DTDs Christened yesterday and had a gathering afterwards for their joint Christening / Birthday party (they are 1 today).
I bought them each a collectors edition of a classic children's book as a present (different books).
Today I had a message from my friend saying that they've got their Christening presents but where are their birthday presents?
Perhaps I should have got them two presents each but I decided not to. Now I feel really awkward and don't know how to respond!

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ResponsibleMushroomForager · 03/12/2018 15:00

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EmmaJR1 · 03/12/2018 15:00

I think your friend is very cheeky and I would respond telling her the very nice, well thought out present was a combined birthday and christening present and she's welcome!

Girlundercover · 03/12/2018 15:01

Tell her as it was a joint party you brought a joint present!!

birdling · 03/12/2018 15:01

How incredibly rude of them! I wouldn't bother responding, they are behaving in a very grabby manner and need ignoring like a greedy child.

Worieddd · 03/12/2018 15:01
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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 03/12/2018 15:02

You're not the one who should be feeling awkward!

OhHelp0hNo · 03/12/2018 15:03

@ResponsibleMushroomForager ok Confused not sure why anyone would make that up!

@EmmaJR1 that's what I'm tempted to do but really don't want to fall out with them...! My other thought was to claim I'd accidentally left the birthday pressies in the car and post something today, but that feels a bit cowardly!

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Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 03/12/2018 15:03

What a cheeky cow! Firstly, I can't believe someone has actually been rude enough to think that but to then secondly, actually ask you outright?!

I'd reply along the lines of:

We chose these books as gifts as they're special, collectors editions and as such, are for their birthday and in celebration of their christening.

In my head id be thinking " there is no way I'm spending a load more money on 4 presents in the run up to christmas"

TheLittlestLightOnTheTree · 03/12/2018 15:05

how can they be sure they are the christening presents and not the birthday presents?

which card did you get? birthday?

OhHelp0hNo · 03/12/2018 15:07

@TheLittlestLightOnTheTree I didn't get a card Blush (I meant to but forgot!) just a present each with their name on

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Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 03/12/2018 15:08

OP don't overthink this. You gave a generous gift and you don't need to attach cards. I never give cards now, haven't for a while as they just get thrown away and it seems a waste!

TeenTimesTwo · 03/12/2018 15:08

I'd say that I'm not doing birthday presents for children of friends as over time there will be too many.

OhHelp0hNo · 03/12/2018 15:10

@Thesnobbymiddleclassone thanks, that's how I justified not getting a card to myself!
You're right, I am overthinking it. It's made me feel really anxious though, I should have got 2 presents each.

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user187656748 · 03/12/2018 15:10

"Hi [friend]
Don't worry, you didn't misplace anything, I bought joint birthday/christening presents to match the joint birthday/christening celebrations. Just to let you know they're collectors editions so perhaps best to keep them on a high shelf for a couple of years. Lovely to see you yesterday. Love to all xx"

Autumnsunrise · 03/12/2018 15:10

Text back "combined party = combined presents LOL"

The LOL makes it fun and friendly Smile

OhHelp0hNo · 03/12/2018 15:11

@TeenTimesTwo unfortunately that won't wash because I buy birthday presents for their oldest DC and they buy for my 2.

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MissLadyM · 03/12/2018 15:12

Cheeky twat! Just tell her it's a joint present. If she's rude about it, end the friendship! Grabby bugger!

OhHelp0hNo · 03/12/2018 15:12

@user187656748 really like this, thanks.

@Autumnsunrise ha!! That genuinely made me lol Grin

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diddl · 03/12/2018 15:24

Nice try you cheeky fucker?

seven201 · 03/12/2018 15:26

I'd reply with
haha good one! You had me for a moment there!

Becca19962014 · 03/12/2018 15:29

What user said.

On MN sometimes things with twins is seen as a troll flag - wierd but true!

Also, she may genuinely be wondering if they've been misplaced and not being grabby!

Yesitwasmethistime · 03/12/2018 15:31

Yes I also like user187656748 's reply.

greenlynx · 03/12/2018 15:31

I would send her something as user187656748 suggested, sounds really nice and polite.

greenlynx · 03/12/2018 15:33

I misplaced presents a few times in the past. Found one a few months after birthday.

LizzieBennettDarcy · 03/12/2018 15:34

I'm genuinely open mouthed that someone could be that rude Shock

Talk about grabby.

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