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How to respond to this message about presents?

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OhHelp0hNo · 03/12/2018 14:58

My friends had their DTDs Christened yesterday and had a gathering afterwards for their joint Christening / Birthday party (they are 1 today).
I bought them each a collectors edition of a classic children's book as a present (different books).
Today I had a message from my friend saying that they've got their Christening presents but where are their birthday presents?
Perhaps I should have got them two presents each but I decided not to. Now I feel really awkward and don't know how to respond!

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DrinkFeckArseGirls · 03/12/2018 21:41

She's being very rude but to be honest I would have bought birthday gifts for the two
children and a symbolic christening present.

IggyAce · 03/12/2018 21:43

Hopefully she’s just worried that she may have misplaced some gifts and not a grabby cf.

Hezz · 03/12/2018 21:54

I'd delete and block her for that comment alone but I'm pretty menstrual.

WillowintheUK · 04/12/2018 09:36

Depending on the wording of the original message, she's possibly just checking as she's maybe worried she mislaid something, especially if the gathering was outwith their house.

If she's not generally rude I wouldn't jump straight to the conclusion that she's demanding more presents.

HollowTalk · 04/12/2018 09:42

Has she shown this level of CF-ness before?

That follow up text would have had steam blowing out of my ears.

mikado1 · 04/12/2018 09:55

So horrible, some people should be embarrassed with themselves! Tbh they brought a single present on themselves by having christening on the birthday! I don't think I'd reply or if you're feeling cheeky maybe send that gif with the little girl looking completely confused and awkward. CFs!!

OhHelp0hNo · 04/12/2018 13:25

The original message was worded like they were worried they'd mislaid some presents, but I know them and they are the type to check up on "missing" presents.
I once had a present from the guy asking why I hadn't sent his wife a birthday present. I was heavily pregnant, looking after a toddler and had just broken my leg!! I had actually bought it but couldn't post it because strangely enough it was difficult for me to leave the house!

I actually had an ok response last night: "Ohhh I didn't realise. Thanks, they're lovely". I suspect if I'd sent a sarcastic reply (like I really wanted to!!) then it would have gone very differently. So thanks again user, your diplomatic message may have saved my friendship Grin (for now at least!)

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OhHelp0hNo · 04/12/2018 13:26

Whoops, meant to say "I once had a message from the guy..."

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OhHelp0hNo · 04/12/2018 13:27

@Drogosnextwife no I didn't get my two Christened, so it's not even like they're keeping score or something!

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3luckystars · 04/12/2018 13:34

4 presents for 1 party?

No deal.

Delatron · 04/12/2018 13:37

You want to save the friendship? I’d be sloping off. I see they have form for this..

timeisnotaline · 04/12/2018 13:38

What is it about the friendship that you value? Confused

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