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People who like to win and people who like to lose

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FloweryShirt · 02/12/2018 17:16

How do you learn to avoid people who like to win by making other people losers?

How do you learn to avoid people who like to lose and to make you lose too?

How do you find win/win people?

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KnittingSister · 02/12/2018 18:10

Be a win/win person yourself and give no truck to the others. It will gradually be a positive spiral.

FloweryShirt · 02/12/2018 18:23

I did see myself as win/win, what does that behaviour look like?

I am now wondering if I was win lose?

My Dad is lose/lose he trained me to lose.

My Mum is win lose she trained me to lose.

I worked on myself. I tried to bring them with me to make them win and me win. I think I was just expressing more lose that way. I reduced contact severely about eight years ago.

My friends were a mix I moved away and cut them out they cut me out over time.

I know I need win win people, I just don't know what that behaviour looks like. I am incapacitated because I don't want people around me again who want me to lose.

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KnittingSister · 02/12/2018 19:23

Try life coaching, positivity, assertiveness,
Try self help books, evening classes, go online.
I think it takes practise and more practise. Good luck!

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