How many children do you have/plan on having?

[Tadda]

I'm currently expecting No 4 - and just noticing that seems about the norm now?

Had a conversation the other day about 'used to be everyone wanted two, a boy and a girl'...how many is now classed as 'too many'??

I have 3.
Most of my friends don't have dc. Those that do have 1 or 2.

'Rougher families?' 😱😱😱

We have 1 and are sticking with 1. A quick count of my FB friends reveals that for us 0 is the most common (as I am in my thirties I expect this number will decrease) followed by 2 and then 1. Anything over 2 is rare even among my older FB friends who have completed their families. I also know that several of the people with 1 or 2 consider themselves done. I will be surprised if the number above 2 goes up much to be honest.

I have 2.
Would have liked 3 but had IVF so very grateful to have 2. Plus we’d struggle to comfortably afford any more than the two children we do have!

Wow only 1 comment about rougher families having a load of kids!!

I have 2. Hoping to have another 2.

I think it’s often only those who are very wealthy or who are struggling seem to have a load of children

This, round my way. But not exclusively.
I have one, later in life. Count ourselves lucky to have managed that. Would have loved 3.

Two, wouldn’t have any more. I had planned to have one but ds ‘beat’ contraception.

Had six siblings growing up. I felt more and more pushed out with each new shiny baby Mum popped out. Never had time for one to one time, help with homework, cuddle of longer than a micro second.

The house was so noisy I’d stick my head under my pillow, though I couldn’t even escape the younger ones as I had a shared bedroom younger dsis.

None of us really talk to DM now, though I hear she’s still telling everyone how much love and attention she lavished on each of us.

Sorry if that sounded bitter (and no offence to those with larger families who I’m sure spend a lot of time making sure each dc doesn’t miss out) I can’t imagine having the time around work to devote to giving more than 2 dc the attention they deserve.

We have two. We used to live in a smallish town where most people seemed to have two. Certainly all of our NCT group/ baby group have done so and stopped. We moved to a village about twenty minutes away last year, and suddenly three seems to be the norm. In DS1s class, I think at least nine out of the sixteen children are one of threes, one is one of four and the others all have one sibling. There aren’t any only children.

I have one by choice, don’t think I know anyone who has four children.

I don't know anyone with more than 2!

Wow only 1 comment about rougher families having a load of kids!!

You missed the not so subtle disingenuous reference to pretty much all families a poster's 'service users' having 4+ kids, despite the poster themselves and their circle's only having 2. 😂🤦

Wow only 1 comment about rougher families having a load of kids!!

You missed the not so subtle disingenuous reference to pretty much all families a poster's 'service users' having 4+ kids, despite the poster themselves and their circle's only having 2. 😂🤦*

Ah, that comment was from me. However I didn't say my service users were 'rough'. They are not. I work with young people and families that are going through a bad patch for various reasons. It can happen to any family. I was just thinking about my current case load.
Most of our friendship circle have between none and 2 children. There was one family that had four children but they emigrated to Belgium about 15 years ago.
As to the original quesion about how many children you were planning on having my answer is none. I ended up with two!

Have 1 - had planned on 2 but not sure the second will happen now. I don’t know any families of 4 within my dd’s peers. The majority are without a doubt 2. A few 1s and 3s though.