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Does anyone else look into people's living rooms or kitchens when they walk past houses?

91 replies

SneakyGremlins · 15/11/2018 13:40

Or is it just me?

Saw a woman last night blow drying a dog on the kitchen table. Dog was displeased.

Surely others do this? Grin

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vampirethriller · 15/11/2018 19:52

Always when I'm on a train at night!

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 15/11/2018 19:58

Absolutely! I love seeing how houses are decorated it’s one of my guilty pleasures in life! I leave my curtains open, people are welcome to look but I have no passing traffic or people to look at the view. I love how my house looks with the lights on and the blinds open and sometimes will go outside myself to see how it looks, sad I know! but it looks gorgeous and makes me really appreciate what I have.

KingPrawnBalls · 15/11/2018 20:01

Yes, I try not to but can't help myself.

EnidButton · 15/11/2018 23:26

I feel kind of safe and cosy knowing there are people going about mundane little daily things like watching tv, having a cup of tea, ironing etc. Like the world is ticking over as it always has and things are ok. Comfort in familiarity maybe?

I get the same feeling from seeing lights on in a block of flats or going through a city on the motorway and seeing all the twinkling lights.

meow1989 · 15/11/2018 23:42

Yep and I even get a bit annoyed when people have blinds or net curtains that obscure the view Blush

Whilst walking with DS this week I was idly looking into windows and made direct eye contact with a lady sitting at her kitchen table. Awkward.

Ohsolomio · 15/11/2018 23:54

None on my usual trip but there used to be in a previous city on the train trip and it all looked so normal.

Rockbird · 16/11/2018 04:28

When DH and I were going out, we both still lived at home but got engaged very quickly. We never had anywhere private to go and we used to look at houses with their lights on and be so jealous of the people with their cosy homes. That was all we wanted to have.

Whenever I'm pissed off with our shoebox house or all the kids' crap lying around I remind myself of that feeling and often go outside to look in and see how cosy it looks.

Regressionconfession · 16/11/2018 05:40

I do this but also the opposite ... sometimes I keep my curtains open a few minutes extra just to show off my lovely front room. Blush

JustKeepSwimmingJustKeepSwimmi · 16/11/2018 05:50

Opaque film is the way forwards if you have a streetfacing window/no real front garden.

Phillipa12 · 16/11/2018 06:04

regression im like you. I live on a main rd in a 200 year old terrace and at the moment there are roadworks just down from me. I like people looking in my windows just so i can show them that my house is not pokey, its beautiful, especially when i light my fire in the inglenook fireplace.

ivykaty44 · 16/11/2018 06:24

In Nederland many windows have a strip of opaque film placed just across at eyeline, so commuters on bikes can’t peer inside

swirlette · 16/11/2018 06:32

Yes, always! There's a word for it - crytoscopophilia; the compulsion to look into windows.

UterusUterusGhali · 16/11/2018 06:32

One of my favourite things is to do this on Christmas Day. Especially if I'm spending it at a relatives house in a street of Victorian terraces.

Lots of little vignettes of Christmas evening; families bloated on the sofa with paper crowns askew, three generations eating cheese together, a party, an argument, coloured lights and drooping paper chains.

maddiemookins16mum · 16/11/2018 06:39

Oh yes, on the train is best. It’s better than any telly show 😊

DuggeesWooOOooggle · 16/11/2018 07:26

I feel kind of safe and cosy knowing there are people going about mundane little daily things like watching tv, having a cup of tea, ironing etc. Like the world is ticking over as it always has and things are ok. Comfort in familiarity maybe?

Lots of little vignettes of Christmas evening; families bloated on the sofa with paper crowns askew, three generations eating cheese together, a party, an argument, coloured lights and drooping paper chains.

I love both these images (you could both be writers, Enid and Uterus). I think it's a spontaneous human reflex, to look at other people and it's almost impossible not to when you see lights on curtains open. I used to live in a house opposite a bus stop when I was a student and without fail, day or night, when the bus stopped, everyone on the top deck would automatically swivel their heads towards our house. It was uncanny. I think if you say you don't do it, it's not because you're not interested, you are just making yourself not do it because you think it's rude.

I love it. Near where my parents live there's a street of lovely old village houses and at Christmas they are all decorated beautifully and kindly leave their curtains open and the Christmas lights on so us commoners can go and have a misty eyed look. 4pm in December is the best time to go gawping, lights are on but it feels too early to close the curtains.

VickieCherry · 16/11/2018 07:28

Yes, of course. It's one of the few good things about dark nights.

The people who don't - are you human?

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