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Pregnant, been with boyfriend a year and he wont move in

94 replies

Winsister · 15/11/2018 06:00

Me and my boyfriend have known eachother since May 17, got together October 17 and now we're 5 and a half months pregnant.
We live a few miles away from eachother see eachother less.
I've asked him to move in with me, as I have 3 other kids and a house while he lives in a flat he hates in an area he hates, but he won't.
He doesn't have a valid reason as why not to.
He's done plenty of long distance relationships and obviously none have lasted, and I love him so much and want us to have a proper life together.
He would never cheat, but I don't know why he won't fully commit, I'm carrying his child.

OP posts:

MarthasGinYard · 16/11/2018 04:40

Ugh utter grimness

Unicyclethief · 16/11/2018 04:54

Don’t be stupid. You got pregnant, not we both got pregnant.

ApolloandDaphne · 16/11/2018 05:13

The word 'commitment' is not in his vocabulary. You will be raising this baby alone. Surely his previous relationship history gave you some clues to what would happen?

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SusieQ5604 · 16/11/2018 05:38

It sounds like you don't make good decisions and his moving in would just be another bad one.

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Winsister · 16/11/2018 06:24

I have 3 children, this is my 4th.

OP posts:

amusedbush · 16/11/2018 06:43

This is grim as fuck.

He sounds like a complete loser. I can’t believe you went on a second date with someone who has two kids to two different woman and doesn’t see either of them, never mind trying to make a life with him!

notevenwithconsent · 16/11/2018 06:49

You wanted another baby

Now you’ve got it you are thinking about the rest of it. And how to make it work.

That’s a bit arse about face.

MrsJane · 16/11/2018 06:56

Why on Earth would you have a baby with a man that's not committed to his other two dc?! Or to you, by the sounds of it.

Of course he doesn't want to live with you. He's got a right cushy number. All the benefits and none of the responsibilities. He sounds like a right man child!

Mayra1367 · 16/11/2018 07:00

Presume we’ll meet him when he appears on Jeremy Kyle show 🙄

Notacluewhatthisis · 16/11/2018 07:00

Maybe you need to stop getting pregnant by men who are committed to you.

If this is real and you thought you were different, you need some serious support.

tiredmumofmany · 16/11/2018 07:22

OK I'm amazed that you are wondering why he doesn't want to move in. He doesn't even see his own dc, so why would be want to live with yours? You are the third woman he impregnated and it sounds like you won't be the last. Get some self respect OP and stop going with 'boys' who you bring into your dc's life. I feel very sorry for them.

Snipples · 16/11/2018 07:35

I think the pp is referring to the three children you have, plus the 2 he has as the five fucked up lives, and she's right.

OP your situation is a bit of a mess tbh. I'm sure you don't need a thread on the internet to tell you the blunt truth that he's clearly not that into you.

TeachesOfPeaches · 16/11/2018 07:46

Unfortunately I think you're going to end up with a 4th child that doesn't see their dad OP

Notacluewhatthisis · 16/11/2018 08:00

6 bloody kids who have at least one parent that can't get their shit together

LoniceraJaponica · 16/11/2018 08:50

Given your propensity to get pregnant so easily, and his to father unwanted children why weren't you using contraception?

Fannyfannackerpants71 · 16/11/2018 09:51

This post reeks of fecklessness and irresponsibility. I hope you have a good job OP as housing, feeding and clothing 4 children is not cheap, especially with no help from the father/s. I also don't understand why you insist on using 'lol' in one of your posts. There is nothing amusing about this situation. If I were you,I would stop worrying about what he is doing and get a pen and paper out and start working out how you pay for all these kids! Perhaps go to the GP as well and sort out contraception.

Rachelover40 · 16/11/2018 10:20

You will have six children between you. Two your boyfriend has by different women and he doesn't see them.

Why on earth did you want another baby when you have three, especially with someone you hadn't known long and don't live with? Are you someone who has to have a man with you, can't cut it on your own?

I wish you were not five and a half months pregnant but only two months pregnant, then you would have more options.

This is Jeremy Kyle fodder.

wrenika · 16/11/2018 13:14

I feel sorry for all the kids in this scenario. It reeks of selfishness and lack of forethought. You should be focusing on the three kids you have...not adding more to the mix with someone you KNOW doesn't give a toss about his offspring!

RoboticMary · 16/11/2018 14:11

I agree with @wrenika. Totally selfish on your part OP. You should have concentrated on the kids you had, not adding more into the mix. His track record is lousy, so if I were you I’d start planning how to go to go it alone.

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