Why is it a competition!?

[DMinor]

I've just gone back to work after maternity leave to a new job. I saw a friend yesterday and the conversation was like this....

Friend how's job and going back?
Me it's good but I'm knackered
Friend I do five days though not three so it's a lot harder for me
Me I'm lucky to do three days
Friend you also had a years mat leave I only had nine months
Me ok

Why bother asking how I am if the conversation is then going to be about you?

Anyone?

It's all me me me with her isn't it? Is she like that generally?

I've distanced myself from the friend I had like that. It was when I told her I was really struggling with pregnancy nausea and her reply was she felt sick most days too..

I have had friends like this. We are no longer friends.

Worst was when I had ME and was talking about feeling exhausted. Apparently I would have no idea what tiredness was until I had a baby.

What do you get out of this friendship?

I actually don't get much from any friendships

You've got the wrong friends then Op.

some people are just like that. I was at school with a girl and you couldn't moan about your spots without her dramatically going on about how much worse hers were.

I find saying "Wow. I guess you win then!" makes them shut up

My SIL and BIL are competitive doom-mongers. I don't bother talking about myself with them anymore as they make it such a competition. To top it off, the first time I definitely merited more sympathy than them (Mum had died that year) the rude fuckers didn't say a word and looked uncomfortable when I mentioned her. Ignorant twats.

Make it clear people like that are being rude, op, what have you got to lose?

Yeah I always seem to have the wrong friends I've given up with all that I think

There is NO ONE and I mean NO ONE busier, more tired, overworked, unappreciated, underpaid, has as much washing, has less sleep etc etc than my Mother!

When chatting to my DM, I now just sit nodding my head for an hour, there's no point me contributing to the conversation, because if I say works been a nightmare, before I've finished my sentence she goes off on a 10 minute rant about how busy she is!

Everything is a competition nowadays with a lot of people, I like to call these people 2shits, if you've had one, they've had 2, if you've been to Tenerife, they've been to Elevenerife.

Yep people are shite. I've listened to people for hours then when I've had something to say they're suddenly deaf