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Do you feel like you've ever been the love of someone's life?

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Fivehundredchildren · 04/11/2018 20:43

For the record I don't Sad
I don't know if this is the reality of my situation though or if it comes from feeling, not exactly unloved, but definitely not 'fully and completely' loved by my parents. I think I'm having a realisation that maybe I'm not unloved, I'm just shit at spotting and accepting it.
Do you feel like you are, are have been, the absolute love of someone's life?

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AnotherRoadsideAttraction · 04/11/2018 20:48

Yes, several times. But none of them are the man I ended up marrying!

Maybe it was too much pressure? I don't know, but it never felt healthy. Or maybe I wasn't ready?

RossPoldarkfan · 04/11/2018 20:52

Yes, my late second husband was also my teenage sweetheart. We split up then due to parental interference but I do believe I was the love of his life.

ComtesseDeSpair · 04/11/2018 21:08

In a romantic sense, no I haven’t - but I’m genuinely okay with that. I’ve had enough partners who have liked and loved me in their own way, and I them; and now I’m unsure whether I’d want the emotional responsibility of being somebody’s all and everything.

I think the way we love and express love and who we love changes throughout our life and - unless perhaps you are 101 years old, there is time for you to find what you’re looking for yet.

My parents, however, worship and adore me and love me completely. That may have something to do with my feelings. Have you ever explored your feelings and emotions around your relationship with your parents?

Gohackyourself · 04/11/2018 21:13

Nope deffo not, not even by my parents.... sad huh, possibly my own children do now?!

Taylor22 · 04/11/2018 21:14

Yes. For all our ups and downs and the stresses of everyday life. I genuinely believe my husband loves me as much as he says he does.

QueenofLouisiana · 04/11/2018 21:17

Yes, but I was too young to appreciate it at the time. For me, it was the right decision to leave- selfishly, I cannot regret that.

I genuinely wish he had found someone else. He was a lovely, lovely bloke, but not my life partner.

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Fivehundredchildren · 04/11/2018 21:18

I don't think I have really Comtesse I think my life got very clouded by depression and unhealthy relationships but it's only now I'm in my 50s that I've really started thinking about where it may stem from. It's complicated: I get on really well with my parents as adults, we're good friends, but they are most definitely the loves of each other's lives and I think my brother and I were always excluded from this love to some extent s children.

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candlefloozy · 04/11/2018 21:20

Yes I'd say at least three other men excluding my husband.

ElectricMonkey · 04/11/2018 21:21

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BitchQueen90 · 04/11/2018 21:21

Not in a romantic sense, but I'm my mother's only child and I know she adores me.

I went on a date with one guy who became borderline obsessive with me but it was just an infatuation. I had to ghost him because he became so creepy.

insertsomethingwitty · 04/11/2018 21:21

No, never. I have had several relationships, some lasting years, but I don't think I've ever been the love of anyone's life. To be fair none of them have been mine either.

CarolDanvers · 04/11/2018 21:26

Yes. Twice. They only really showed it at the end though when I had emotionally moved on.

HundredMilesAnHour · 04/11/2018 21:28

Yes, I know that I'm the love of my ex's life. We split over 20 years ago but eventually we got back in touch and we meet occasionally and WhatsApp every so often. I know he loves me unconditionally (we went through a lot of shit together and he's seen me at my very worst). Sometimes I wonder if we should give things another go but he's currently in an (unhappy) relationship and I don't want to make his life more complicated. I don't want to repeat old mistakes. I feel like I've moved on in my life but he hasn't really. And I guess deep down I think that while I'm the love of his life, he isn't the love of mine. I care about him very much but the love of my life is now married to someone else. That's life I guess.

AnyFucker · 04/11/2018 21:34

Yes.
My husband.

VenusClapTrap · 04/11/2018 21:37

I am definitely the love of ds’s life. Smile

And I was my late cat’s too. I miss her.

Magik1 · 04/11/2018 21:39

Yes by my ex. He would just watch me when I was doing other things (not in a creepy way. Grin ) and tell me he ‘adored’ me, even after years of being together. No man before him or after ever said that. It wasn’t just that, it was other things too but those come to mind.

LuluJakey1 · 04/11/2018 21:40

Just DH. No one before him- I always felt second best or not even the love of their week never mind their life.

And our cats - who are both besotted by me.

Crunchymum · 04/11/2018 21:41

Yes. And I still feel guilty as he was never going to be the love of my life.

MulticolourMophead · 04/11/2018 21:41

Never. He spent his time running me down, and it's only now he's an ex that I get all the protestations that he has always loved me.

SputnikBear · 04/11/2018 21:44

I think I have 2-3 times. Unfortunately not the same men who were the love of MY life!

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Fivehundredchildren · 04/11/2018 22:36

Actually VenusClapTrap I think I am also the love of my son's life- he thinks I'm wonderful Grin I fear this may not last into adulthood though!

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Nat6999 · 04/11/2018 22:38

My late DP & I were the love of each other's lives, from day one we both knew that we didn't want anyone else, even when we argued it was because we loved each other so much. We tried splitting up several times but couldn't live without each other, we were just miserable apart, we both knew what the other was thinking, could answer each other's questions without being asked, we were almost like twins, despite there being 14 years between us.

When my DP died, a massive part of me died with him, I'm not half the person I was when I was with him, I know I'll never find anyone who will love me like he did & I'll never love anyone like I loved him.

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Fivehundredchildren · 04/11/2018 23:07

Oh Nat I'm so, so sorry for your loss Flowers

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Kernowgal · 04/11/2018 23:12

Not yet. But there's still plenty of time. And I'm not sure I'd want to be the be-all and end-all for someone - I am far too independent and would find it suffocating.

LoreleiGilmore · 04/11/2018 23:18

@Nat6999 that is so beautiful and heartbreaking. I’m so glad you had one another and so sorry you lost him. Lots of love to you x

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