Leaving 5yo at home

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I know this has been done to death but I really don't know what to do.

Friend lives nearby. Single mum to 5yo girl. When DD is asleep, she will pop to the local shop and has on occasion driven to local supermarket. She will be out for 10-30 minutes. DD doesn't wake up.

She tells me she is doing it. I can just see her house from mine. She expects me to watch the house. If I say no, she goes anyway.

She says DD is fine, never wakes etc etc.

But I'm feeling increasingly uneasy about this. But likewise, I don't want to cause issues with SS.

I just don't think it's right. I've never done it with mine. But I don't know what to do about it. Or if I'm making a big deal about nothing and it's up to her what she does.

It's not every night. Nothing has been said tonight.

No, you said, but what's your plan as it could be tonight or tomorrow or the night after. Do you have something in place to stop her leaving her DS alone, otherwise you are complicit in it, and as much as you are scared to face her it would be worse facing as and having your own arrangements being questioned. It's awful I know, but you have to extricate yourself.

Worse facing SS obvs!! Not 'as'

I also thought drugs, probably buying rather than selling (she could deal from home) but it's possible.
Surely as an adult she would at least buy enough of whatever she's buying to last her a few days, a week or whatever until she can get to the shop again without leaving her child. I can't imagine what could be so urgent that you'd absolutely need to leave your child alone in bed - in an absolute emergency I'd wake mine up and take her with me if I had nobody who could watch her, but it's never happened yet. A can of pop... I'm not sure I believe it.

I'd say selling, as, like you say she would buy enough for more than one night right? Although maybe she can only afford a spliff or two at a time, praps?
More likely I think doing drop offs, at nearby spot out of view of immediate neighbours

No it's true. Makes it even sadder. I genuinely think she can't cope.

What's true, that she's selling/buying?

Step away from the drug dealer and report her, she will be offered help, the rest isnup to her

Noooo. That it's just for silly things like a can of pop. That she needs to just do that to escape or something.

Ah... Good! Hard in threads to know what the answer is to. Do you know whatcha gonna do?

I don't know. See what happens this week. She knows I'm not happy about it. And there are plenty of texts to show that if SS start to question me.

She has phases so it might go quiet again now. I will be contacting someone though if it carries on like it has this week.

Good luck with it OP. I hope she picks up on your resistence and bloody well pulls her socks up/big girl pants on