Do you know what pisses me off about parents evenings?

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My eldest child is in YR3, youngest in Reception. So just worked out dh and I have attended eight parents evenings so far (two per academic year).

Had ds1's tonight and got told he's working at greater depth, he's polite, works hard, contributes well etc I thanked his teachers for all their hard work...they smiled and nodded appreciation...but failed to thank us? We work hard at raising polite children, who are always on time to school with breakfast inside them, eager and willing to learn. We read with/to them every night, and help them with their homework.

Do teachers generally not credit parents for anything? Is it normal for them not to say something along the lines of "thanks for all you do too?".

I think the child’s future employer should thank you for raising them with a good work within and the police should thank you for not raising an anti social adult...

I’m sure I’ve missed some people out...

‘Work eithic’!!

To all really catty people responding, especially those who are teachers (who have joined SPECIFICALLY because of mob culture, apparently) - I hope you’re ashamed of yourselves.

This thread is no better than bullying. The OP put up a post - almost everyone disagrees with but have gone on to give the OP a good kicking.

Just nasty.

IHopeYouStepOnAlegoPiece

I haven’t been back to see how many digs you’ve put & encouraged on this post but I REALLY you’re not a teacher or responsible for any kind of nurturing or pastoral care.

ProfessorMoody

Also astonished at your comment - and you’re a teacher? Nasty.

I'd find it bizarre for them to thank you. But I'm sure teachers do really appreciate it when children listen well, are kind to others, and are cooperative and try hard - and when parents try to instill those values in them. But it would be odd to thank the parents for that. Especially as some kids find it easier to behave than others, and it's not always anything to do with the parents' input - sometimes it's just personality.

Hi all,
We've made some deletions on this thread now. Can we respectfully suggest that from now on posters RTFT before giving their thoughts?

How telling that a response (from a teacher?)an accusation of bullying is ‘fuck off’).

Far worse than any perceived error of judgement on the OPs part.

Don’t tell me to fuck off when I’m standing up for someone who had already backed away, ProfessorMoody. You should be bloody ashamed of the mob behaviour on this thread.

I haven’t encouraged anyone dear. I think you’ll find nobody needs any encouragement as they are all adults...
Someone else had the same opinion as everyone else on this thread and shared it on Facebook, I had no role in that so I would possibly suggest you hop down from that high horse darling

What a delight you are, IHope.

To be clear, I shan’t ever be getting down from any form of high horse whilst nasty pieces like you are taking pleasure in fanning the flames of bullying.

Off you go now - I’m sure there must be so many other threads where you can encourage everyone to show the OPs the error of their ways.

You want to be thanked for raising your own children properly? Ffs

Still not sure how I “fanned the flames of bullying” 🤔

There probably are other threads but I must go and nurture some children

I don't think telling OP that she's being entirely U for expecting praise for raising her DC is bullying.

Taking the piss out of someone for their silliness is part of life. It probably doesn't feel great for OP, sure, but she chose to post this madness and chooses to make comments like "thank you for the dinner mummy" as though she's trained her DC to praise her at every moment simply for meeting their basic needs - food is a basic human right not something your bountifully bestow like a lavish birthday gift. That smacks a little of neediness and, honestly, needy Mothers can be hard hard work as their DC grow up and stop being quite so compliant.

Ha WTF. This is one of the weirdest things I’ve read on MN and that’s saying something. You’re expecting gratitude from the teachers for not raising an arsehole.

As much as yes everyone has said the same thing, and yes it did actually make many of us laugh due to it's absurdity, I'm not sure lashing out and repeatedly accusing posters of being bullies is helpful.

Mumsnet is not a hive mind. It's a huge public forum with sixteen million visitors, the op chose to come on, and start a thread saying she was pissed off teachers didn't thank her for raising her kids.

There is no rule that says if someone gives an opinion, then no one else is allowed to repeat that opinion, and can only post if they have some other opinion. If that was th case all threads would finish after three responses. One agrees, one disagrees and one on the fence.

Yes the op hasn't probably liked the fact everyone found it funny, and I'll be honest, I snorted with laughter when I read it and thought " the stuff people post".

She's been a member for eight years and knows full well that people post their opinions and that if they all have the same opinion then they will post the same opinion. That's the way it works, becayse as said, there is no rule saying you can only post an opinion already expressed.

She will also be aware she can also hide the thread, and she can name change, so she doesn't have to see it and she doesn't have to be associated with it if she chooses not to.

But it is a public forum and accusing people of being bullies for expressing an opinion is not ok. As said, it's not a hive mind.

Bluntness100
Exactly. A bit of silly suggestions on how to show gratitude isn't bullying. It's silly absurd suggestions to mirror ghe absurdity of the initial outrage.

How telling that a response (from a teacher?)an accusation of bullying is ‘fuck off.

I said "ODFOD". It clearly doesn't say fuck off. It means frolic

Far worse than any perceived error of judgement on the OPs part
Nah.

Don’t tell me to fuck off when I’m standing up for someone who had already backed away, ProfessorMoody. You should be bloody ashamed of the mob behaviour on this thread

I didn't. And I'm not ashamed. I haven't done anything moblike, other than laugh at it and comment on how entitled children are these days.

It doesn't sound like you can handle Mumsnet, bbcessex. Enjoy your frolicking off.

Tell yourself that, “ProfessorMoody”. And do stop your attempts at patronising nonsense, it’s dull.

To those of you justifying your horrible posts, (and there are a few that aren’t in this category), i imagine you’ve (all) made someone feel terrible for voicing a query that may or may not have come across as the OP intended.

There are lots of ways of disagreeing and having a debate, and/or putting your point across. This thread hasn’t shown many of the more civilised ones. Which stood out all the more for me, as many of you state that you are educators.

Hope those of you this is relevant to feel proud 🤨

Maisypops - really? I’m sure you would also dismiss your comments as ‘banter’?

Bluntness - I’ve been on MN for god knows how many years.. read thousands of threads, posted on probably hundreds. Mumsnet is definitely a firm part of my online world.

I don’t recall EVER reporting a thread for bullying in all the years I’ve been here, yet I have this one.

I have to say bbcessex you're trying a bit too hard to take on some sort of judge, jury and executioner thread police role.

Had the OP not been quite so indignant and pissed off then I highly doubt it would have been as amusing.Silly jokes matching silly comments is life in most areas of life. It doesn't require some sort of thread police response.

Gosh. I made a daft comment to students and they (rather amusingly) kept making reference to it for a week. It wasn't bullying. They were being silly. Perhaps you'd like to come and tell my students off as well.

And do stop your attempts at patronising nonsense

No.

I’m making a point, Maisie, because you have continually ridiculed a parent of young children in their absence and you are supposed to be in a position of knowledge & understanding.

bbc
Some posters have joked about ways to show gratitude at a parents' evening. Like people joke when daft things happen in life.

Should I have reprimanded my students for laughing when I said something daft? Maybe I should have gave them all a good dressing down when they brought it up at random intervals?

Right now your 'making a point' is getting rather like those threads where posters are laughing and chatting about a fairly minor life experience but one that's annoying and then a couple of posters turn up as if you are all so judgey. I can't believe you even have time in your lives to pay attention to ... you need to get out more... so what if someone wants to wander the streets in their pyjamas and eat their lunch with their kid's poop on their hands. I wouldn't even notice and anyway I'd rather do that than be as awful as you lot.