Do you know what pisses me off about parents evenings?

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My eldest child is in YR3, youngest in Reception. So just worked out dh and I have attended eight parents evenings so far (two per academic year).

Had ds1's tonight and got told he's working at greater depth, he's polite, works hard, contributes well etc I thanked his teachers for all their hard work...they smiled and nodded appreciation...but failed to thank us? We work hard at raising polite children, who are always on time to school with breakfast inside them, eager and willing to learn. We read with/to them every night, and help them with their homework.

Do teachers generally not credit parents for anything? Is it normal for them not to say something along the lines of "thanks for all you do too?".

You think a professional paid to educate your child has a responsibility to thank you for feeding them? Presumably the end of that sentence is "unlike some of the other mothers in the same school" which is imperious, presumptuous and judgy

This genuinely made me laugh out loud.

You want the teachers to thank you for raising your kids and are pissed if they don't?

This needs to go in classics 🤣🤣🤣

There really wasn't any need for some of you to have been quite so rude and scathing. Feel like I've been ripped to shreds after an OP. First time in nearly 8 years on here though, so guess I should count myself lucky.

Oh...is this actually real then!!

Thanks for he giggle

You're not doing the school a favour by parenting lol

😂

Have a chufty badge, OP.

Op, think about it. You posted saying your were pissed off teachers didn't say thank you to you for raising your own children.

Can you really not see it? Why people can't believe it?

Jesus I'd be so embarrassed if my kids teacher 'thanked' me.

@shrunkenhead just had to Google that

Since when was parenting insignificant? I personally think parents don't give themselves enough credit for what they do (yes most of us chose to be parents, the same as teachers choose to teach) and what's wrong with the odd pat on the back? We're all too quick to focus on the negatives and put ourselves down, but seems it's not ok to be proud of ourselves for doing things well

You are more than entitled to be proud of yourselves for doing well. But you want your DC’s teacher to be proud of you too? For raising your own children?

I’m trying to think of an analogy OP so you can see how ridiculous your thoughts are on this, but I can’t think of one.

I think it may depend on your school.
I do thank the (few) supportive, proactive parents at our (secondary) school as so many aren't. Mind you, they don't generally turn up for parents evening anyway

Well actually op. It's not about you. You should be proud of your children. If you raise them right, it is your children that will be a credit to you.

Not being proud of youtself and wanting teachers thanking uou for executing your parental responsibility

@Bluntness100 I wasn't asking for a "thank you for raising your own children." I was merely asking if it was normal for teachers not to give parents any credit for anything they do outside of school. I'm clearly stark raving mad.

There used to be a time on MN when you could ask a question in CHAT (I never post on AIBU for fear of the nasty, judgmental reactions. Oh the irony) and folk would engage in polite conversation. Must have hit a nerve tonight.

Oh my word, there’s teacher bashing, ofsted etc etc and now teachers are getting it wrong because they don’t thank the parents 😂😂😂

I don't have any problem with being proud if myself for some of my parenting ,it offsets the days when they are throwing trains at each other and the living room has turned into a dinosaur paddock and I wonder where the hell I went wrong

But I don't expect anyone else to thank me

That's just a little bit entitled
.but fair play for taking it on the chin to a point

Ok, to be serious for a moment, no teachers normally do not thank you for executing your normal parental responsibilities as described in your op.

Nor should they be expected to.

@Bluntness100 thank you! I can now sleep tonight

I think the fact they appreciated that your child is a child that is well behaved and hard working is congratulating you as a parent...now they didn't say thank you but they kinda did...dont worry so much...appreciation is just as good as a thank you...my 2 DDs were and still are very well behaved/respectful we get complements not thanks..

Nah I get you OP. After all you're basically doing half the job for her what with reading,manners,homework etc. You're facilitating her career for giving her a progress making child to teach. Hell the only reason she has a job is because you (and other parents) ensure your child goes to school everyday. She should be bloody grateful and showing it too!

Giving ‘credit’ and a ‘pat on the back’ is not the same as a thank you, OP.

What you have stated in your OP seems to imply you want teachers to thank you for doing basic parenting, which is just bizarre. It is rather sad that some people have got to the point where a teacher should be grateful for a parent being a parent.

Getting a ‘well done’ from a friend or family member for a specific thing you have done re: your DC, is one thing but to expect a teacher to do it when the parents evening should be all about your child?

You know what I hate about Parents’ Evenings? Knowing that a parent may be offended by anything I do or don’t say and I just can’t predict what the right thing to do is!

I'd pay good money to sit in on a secondary school parents evening with you, OP. The collective eye rolling of the teachers would be spectacular to watch
Yes you are absolutely that parent - rein it in now for the sake of your dc.