Talk to me about having 2 boys - and no girls

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Disclaimer: I know this is ridiculous and I'm very lucky to be pregnant with a healthy baby, so please no flaming. I just want to deal with these feelings so they don't escalate.

Expecting DC2, already have a DS and they will be less than 2 years apart. If I'm honest I think I wanted a girl first time, but I absolutely adore my DS to bits, he is gorgeous and good natured and so funny to be around.

I was convinced this one was a girl, my pregnancy has been completely different and skull/nub theory suggested girl (I know this is limited in accuracy). Private gender scan at 16+4 showed the baby was very much a boy. I admit I was a little disappointed but having said that I wasn't as disappointed as I thought I'd be because DS is so sweet and another one of him would be lovely!

I think it will be lovely for DS to have a brother so close in age. I wonder whether it's society making us think we must have one of each. Will I get over never having a daughter? This will be my last DC, so there won't be another chance of having a girl.

I wondered if anyone could share their similar stories and how great it will be to have 2 boys close in age?

It's funny because I'm not actually that close with my own mum, we live near my DH's parents and I only see my mum once every couple of weeks.

My boy is very boisterous, even though he's only 15 months, but I completely love that about him. It's hilarious, if a little exhausting when we go to things like soft play! However, he is also so affectionate, much more so than my 2 friends' daughters, a really mummy's boy who loves to snuggle up and cuddle in.

I think reading through all of your comments have confirmed to me that I'm not disappointed about having another boy, but it's letting go the possibility of ever having a daughter. It's funny because my DH only has a sister, he has got married and had children, she is single and never wants to get married or have children, so I have a perfect example of the girls/boys not turning out the way you expect right there.

It's funny because my DH only has a sister, he has got married and had children, she is single and never wants to get married or have children, so I have a perfect example of the girls/boys not turning out the way you expect right there

Maybe if we stopped expecting boys and girls to behave in a defined gender role, they would all turn out the way they should, rather than how they are expected to based on their genitals?

It would go a long way to solving current gender issues too, if we weren’t so rigid. A male gets married and a female doesn’t, is it really so remarkable it’s held up as an example of not aligning with designated gender?

I completely agree about stereotyping - no one knows how their little personalities will pan out when they are born (or before they are born!). This thread wasn't supposed to put anyone's DCs into any boxes, I just thought it would be good to hear some stories about not having one or the other which might help me dispel my worries about never having a daughter. I didn't want these feelings to overshadow my pregnancy, nor did I want to have to deal with these feelings once I've given birth and my hormones are running havoc!

There are some lovely stories here and I'm sure two boys will be so much fun 

Two sons three years apart and now grown up and flown the nest. They have been a complete joy. Fun, loving and kind. I was a stereotypical girl and they introduced new things into my life such as football, which I now love.
Still really close to them now they have their own lives. Enjoy, I am sure you will have a ball being a mum to two boys.

I've never wanted to have one of each. I think two the same sex tend to have a much closer bond. I think this is my perception because I was really close to my sister growing up and I don't know any brother/sister pairs who were like we were. So maybe it's possible but I don't know if it's likely.

Honestly my more feminist self is horrified at this and I don't have any expectation that boys or girls will have stereotypical interests, I do think it's society which pushes the social boy/girl divide, but I do tend to think DC go along with it, and to that end I think it would be lovely to have two close in age the same sex. IME it gives them the best chance at that close, best friend relationship.

The best thing is the money you will save on hand-me-down clothing providing of course your first isn't one to come home with ripped trouser knees.

Mine are 3 years apart, and now 15 and 12.

95% of the time they are best friends and as thick as thieves. I still get kisses and cuddles off both of them although Ds1 is a good half head height taller than me. They are close to both me and Dh.

I didn't have a great relationship with my Mum when I was growing up. To me she was an okay Mum but a fantastic Grandma. My children adored her. So I have never experienced that Mother/Daughter relationship that people talk about. I hate shopping as do my sons but we willingly all go out together, in public, and don't hate me or distance themselves from me. They are lovely.

I was slightly disappointed when I discovered Ds2 was a boy but mainly because I didn't have a list of boy names and I had already chosen a pretty pink nursery set. I was lucky to even have children so I count my blessings.

Very refreshing to read all these posts.
I have 1 DS who is 17 months and we are thinking about trying for another baby.
We will only be having 2 children and I do worry that if the second dc is a boy I will feel disappointed.
I absolutely adore my DS and can't imagine him being a DD.

My boys are 21 month apart. They’ve always been the best of friends and now they’re teenagers I barely have to do anything, there’s always one or the other there to offer to help. It’s absolutely brilliant!