Desperately Seeking Advice
I am being made to feel that I am nasty and jealous of the relationship my boyfriend of 5 yrs has with his 21 yr old daughter.
I have looked really hard at myself and why we argue about this and have come to the conclusion that as a couple we do not have enough quality time together so he only has to mention he is organising a small outing with his daughter and I see red and get upset, feel threatened etc. Plus if we do go out he keeps on at me about trying this restaurant, visiting that place etc, all places his daughter keeps telling him to go to, and when we find some where nice of our own he has to then later involve his daughter. I know this all sounds so stupid and does it really matter, but I would just like us to have something special to us to make 'us feel worthwhile or am I living in a dreamworld.
He doesn't get on ( or try to) with my children so that also makes me resent his daughter as I see how nice he can be to his own children.
I have tried to talk to him and explain my feelings, which he says he understands but then its starts all over again.
I feel I am demanding too much from this relationship and the grass wouldn't be greener elsewhere but I would also quite like to breath a sigh of relief if I was ever able to move out and be on my own with my children.
Mother in Law has just recently bought the house next door aswell.
And he doesn't want to do much with me in our own, at the most we go out once every 2 weeks for a meal which last for about 1 1/2 hrs, and I don't offer to do anything else as I'm the one that normally has to pay.
Look forward to any advice or where to go for help.