What's you're biggest regret?

[TitsalinaBumSquash]

I am 31, due to varying reasons I have no GCSE's only a level 1&2 in Maths and English that I did at college as a mature student year ago. Every year I get older, every year I bitterly regret not following my dream of being a doctor.

What's your regret in life? Big or small.

Not controlling my weight when I was young and spending most of my life overweight. I feel like I have missed out on a lot.. but I snap out of it quickly as my path let me to my happy life now!

Starting smoking. Boring one I know, but it was the single worst decision I ever made.

Titsalina, you can do it! My friend went back to school then university to become a doctor at 44. It is never too late.

Similar to you op, I have only 5 GCSEs despite being reasonably intelligent. I regret not applying myself more at school and finishing my a levels at least. I may or may not have then gone to uni, but I don’t think that not going is a regret, it’s more just how humiliating my cv is.
Surprisingly I have managed to work my way up to a decent career and have gained a professional qualification on the way, but I don’t feel I would ever be able to get a job at a different company because of how my cv looks.

Not looking after my teeth as a teenager. They are in bits now and cost me a fortune.

Thank you @ArrivisteRevolt but I would have a clue how to even start! I keep toying with the idea of doing an access course into nursing to see if it scratches the itch but I've not yet been brave enough. With 4 children, I keep putting myself off.

I am excited for you. I was a mature student and loved it.

Going to the party where I met DH, marrying DH, not leaving DH before we had kids.

You're still young OP. You can still pursue your dream. Hell, I am 45 and going to retrain in a couple of years when youngest starts school to pursue my dream! Motto; I ain't dead yet!

Choosing a wrong career path at the beginning of this year.

All had gone well in a career I loved until that point and now I’m stumbling from one disaster to the next (probably fundamentally as I don’t enjoy it).

I’m heartbroken at the mess I’ve made this year. Not sure if I can get things back together.

Funnily enough I was going to post that one of my biggest regrets is becoming a doctor! I don’t always feel like that, but the relentless pressure and weight of responsibility and risk can have a huge impact at times.

Btw 31 is young, plenty of time to pursue education and a career if you want. My mother did an access course and degree after having five children (and English was her second language).

Moving back to the UK is my biggest regret.
It's the most current one.
Hopefully the feeling will pass because I'm stuck here for now.

Not noticing my daughter descend into the grip of anorexia before she got really sick. I was very effective at getting help for her once I realised and I supported her well in recovery. But I shall be forever haunted by the fact that she was ill for 5 months before I did anything.

My next one is that I didn’t tell my grandmother that I was pregnant with DD1 (18 years ago). We had a long chat on the phone (she lived 6 hours away) and I almost told her. I Was about 10 weeks and I decided to wait. She died of a brain haemorrhage the following week and never knew she was going to be a great grandmother.

I would advise anyone wondering about further / higher education to go for it.

Not getting therapy when I was younger. If I’d accepted proper help (I was raped) I think I would have saved myself 15 years of extra trauma and would have had a very different life I think.

Drugs.

Giving up my career to move with DH. I wish I'd held fire until I found something in my field, rather than moving and hoping for the best.

Getting into debt after my ex left for ow.
Currently staying at m parents with young children and it's a nightmare of a situation with no foreseeable way out.
Everyone is unhappy.

Except ex of course, he's having a lovely time

Thinking I had to get married because I was pregnant. I wish I hadn't.

Not leaving the public sector years ago after I had gone back to university by night and doing a law degree. I was too afraid to take the chance in the middle of the recession. Starting to look for something now but I have no confidence in that aspect of my life.

Follow your dreams OP. Give the access course a go.

Being fashionably unconcerned with money the entirety of my 20s. My lifestyle could be so much more comfortable now if I’d been more practical.

Meeting my first husband.

Having an affair!! Leopards can change their spots!! Worst mistake ever. I was only 19 hrs in my defence though

Everyone’s basically saying the same rhing, I wish I’d had more faith in myself.
I was looking back of photos of me at 18, I was achieving in school, working part time, ran a little business and turning away dates. And I was gorgeous. I remember thinking in the photo that was sad and fat and pathetic. I could bloody shake my young self and say wake up and smell the coffee.
Sad realising all the wasted years but great to recognise she’s probably still in there.

Marrying my XH. I should have dumped his sorry arse after the first date, not given him the best twenty years of my life and half my money

I find that a really tricky question, because I see life as a continual set of tree diagrams. I do have major decisions that I regret, but my underlying assumption is that if I'd made a different (and seemingly better) decision years ago, I'd still be "me" but in a better place now. The reality could be vastly different and I could be much worse off.