What's you're biggest regret?

[TitsalinaBumSquash]

I am 31, due to varying reasons I have no GCSE's only a level 1&2 in Maths and English that I did at college as a mature student year ago. Every year I get older, every year I bitterly regret not following my dream of being a doctor.

What's your regret in life? Big or small.

Not buying a flat when I was 21. Spent a lot of money on rent instead total bloody waste.

Leaving University. I have the brains to be educated to degree level. I feel utterly wasted even though I love my job but it's the sort of thing school leavers do, not people nearing 40. I left because I met DH just before I went and decided not to stick at it and moved back. Massive mistake as I fully settled and was way too young. But I wouldn't have the kids I have now so in that way I can't regret it.

I think my life could have been very different if I'd made different choices but they are not all regrets.
I kinda wish I hadn't insisted on buying this house when i was 7 months pregnant & exh had just told me he thought he loved someone else. I love it, but it's so much looking after & so much money whereas the 3 of us would have been perfectly fine in the flat & I'd be practically mortgage free by now.

Wasting so much money. I have frittered so much cash over the last 13 years its eye watering. Most of my actual needed costs are pretty low.

Smoking (Although I'm now 7 years a non smoker!) and not watching my weight / eating habits (I've lost 3st before and now need to lose 4st )

Not working hard enough at school. I left with all D's and E's. I've since done a couple of courses equivalent to an A level but it still annoys me that I didn't bother at school!

Going on a date with xh because I felt sorry for him then wasting my life marrying him. I was 17 what did I know.

I told my younger brother there was no Father Christmas out of spite. I regret that as I feel I stole his youth and the innocence associated with that. Seems silly but as someone who loves Christmas I feel awful that I ruined it for him.

Not going NC with my parents sooner

Leaving a job I was unhappy in to try and set up my own business. One step off the career ladder has cost me pretty much all my confidence and a lot of lost earnings. I wish I had stuck it out. I'm not back to where I was and not sure when I will be.

Same as you OP, well almost. I could have tried a lot harder at school but I was just desperate to get away from the place. I wish I had buckled down and made something of myself.

Getting married to an abusive tosspot when I was 19. Although it’s turned me into quite a kickass woman now which I’m sure I would have never been otherwise...

Never telling my mum to her face all of the things I told her while she was sedated in the hours before she died last year. 💔

Letting my former employer and co worker bully me out of my position in my first pregnancy...

I wish I told them exactly what I thought of them and then left sooner! It ruined my mental health and seriously affected me for 2 years.

I saw my former employer in a shop the other day and she just put her head down and looked very very haggard!

Renting

Not taking a year off before uni is a bit of a regret.

Realised recently I should have years ago told DH I needed him to come in from work and ask how he could help every evening, so we could have actually modelled gender-equitable parenting. He doesn't do nothing, but basically we have let the situation evolve that I am the 'default parent'.

Putting my career first (and doing well), but now struggling with secondary infertility, failed IVF and blame myself for leaving it too late. You can’t win!

Not returning to work after ds, I was sure I'd be able to go back to the same level (management) but now I'm stuck at minimum wage level.

Being financially abused by an old friend. I regret not saying no. I would've been able to buy a house with the money I was earning

Marrying too quickly to the wrong person

I don't have any regrets everything I've done has both negatives and positives its all lead to a point. Who knows where I'd be if I'd done any 1 thing differently.

As a PP said being “fashionably” irresponsible with money. No amazing holidays or cars but lots and lots of high street shop clothes and takeaway coffees. Spent years living in my OD (which obviously cost me) because I buried my head in the sand.

Giving up my flying career to move to Oz. Which didn’t work out, but couldn’t go back to my job.

Access course in science
Biomedical science or related degree
Post grad entry to.med.school
A friend did this when she was mid 30s- she's now a consultant physician
Go fo it!

Not accepting a place on a beauty course when I was 18. Was too scared!
Can say that now.
Wishing I'd learned to drive when I was 17.
Definitely dentistry as well!

These are I suppose fixable things - and never too old to start something new.

Getting married. I think I did it because my Dad placed a lot of importance on it.
I felt I needed to be married before having kids. Clearly that's not the case!

Getting a joint mortgage. Would never do that again.