Pretty much that. My oh works nights so sleeps most of the day. Tends to work overtime a fair bit too. We have a 6 year old a 4 year old and a pretty heavily autistic 1 almost 2 year old. Every day youngest is up at around 4am. I don't seem to sit down or stop all day. Then when the kids are in bed I tend to do the housework I couldn't do when partner was in bed. Also starting a course for sign language as the wait for salt for my youngest is atrocious . Feel like I'm fighting every step of the way to make progress and get him help.
Any tips just to help with the stress and burden of it all.
Either family doesn't help at all. So literally just me and oh with the weight of the world on our shoulders.