What do your kids call step grandparents?

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DM died before DC's were born and DF has remarried. Step mum has been in the DC's lives since before they were born but they call her by her first name. People find this odd but everyone's happy with it as step mum said from the off she would never replace their nan and that way when the kids ask about their nan in heaven it's easier to just say nan and know who they're talking about.

So, what do your kids call their step nan/grandad? Is it by names or by the title of nan/grandad?

My stepdaughters call my parents Oma & Opa - think it's Polish or other east European for Grandmother & Granddad (my dad's parents were Polish and I called them that.)

None of the real grandparents feel this steps on their toes so it works well for everyone.

Mine is like "Grampa Joe" I also had a step grandparent and i also called them this type of name (like Nana Pat type of thing)

But the GPs are just called Gran and grandad etc

We always called my dad's stepdad Grandad. As long as she, you and the children are happy, who cares what anyone else thinks?

I am in the position of being a step grandparent and I am called Nonna (My First Name). I don't see my self as their grandparent but just in a grandparent position. I would be careful not to try to take anyone's place or try to put myself forward at all.

Just Nan/Granny and Grandad. Have never differentiated as they were in their lives from birth on so not introduced at a later stage.

Oma and Opa is German for Granny and Granpa.

My dgs calls my dh Grumpa - because he is grumpy!!

Just first name for step grandfather. Nothing for step grandmother as we rarely ever see her (or biological grandfather).

I don't think my last post was very clear. My name is not Nonna. I am Nonna which is word in another language for grandmother. My first name is then attached so making it something like Nonna Pat as mentioned by a PP. The DCs don't call their real grandparent by a name such as Grandad Joe, they are just grandad. Adding my first name I think is because I am not blood grandparent.

DSS calls my parents by their first names, and his stepdad's parents Auntie and Uncle First Name. Only because his stepdad's parents were part of his life from being a baby, whereas he was a teen when I met DH. My grandmother, however, has always been Nan. Even his wife calls her Nan.

Grandad [first name] and that's just to distinguish from my dad as they both wanted to be Grandad. All the others have different names along the lines of Nanny, Nana, Grandma, Grampy etc. Just because they are step grandparents, I wouldn't not use a diminutive personally but that's up to you and them to decide.

Dad's ex partner is still known by Nanny first name. They broke up five year ago, but she's still family as far as I'm concerned.

His new(well of a good few years now) is just known by her first name. Which works for everyone.

Mine call all inc stepmum nanny but they know who's who as it's nanny B, nanny Helen (not really name obv) and nanny noo (weirdly hah!)

But when actually speaking to them, just nanny mostly

Can she not just be nanny/ nana first name?

I'm lucky enough to still have my maternal & paternal grandmothers & they always just been nanny X & nanny Y, now DD is here she has both of them & also my mum so she's got Nanny X, Y & Z

FIL has married a 2nd wife who has been in kids life since they were born. MIL is still with us and hates wife 2 so SMIL is know by a shortening of her real name. Think Joanne being know to grandkids as Jo-jo type name. MIL is grandma.

I would have just called her nan.
It's not really replacing anyone, especially someone they have never met, and you can have multiple nans anyway.
But if everyone is happy why change it?

My dd calls my Dad Nannu which is Maltese for Grandad and his wife she calls Nanny as she is my stepmother I don't hav an issue with it as she's been around my life and my dd knows no different

Ours call my DH's step dad by his name. DH doesn't call his step dad, dad and he isn't really in our children's lives. I think it depends on the relationship.

I called my step GM auntie first name. My DS calls my MIL partner Uncle first name.

My DC have always called my mum's DH by his first name, as do I. My dad is Grandad, as is DH's dad. They do absolutely see him as their grandfather though. The relationship isn't defined by the name.

My DC’s have my parents who are still together and they are Granny & Granda. Then DH’s parents who are not together and they are Nanny & Grandad. MIL is remarried so a step-grandparent there but he is just called by his first name.

They were together before any of our D.C. were born and married when the eldest was very small, so he’s always been in their lives, but he is definitely not a grandparent. He takes on no grandparent roles (like speaking to the DC, engaging with them, being interested in them etc) so to be honest it would seem odd calling him anything other than his first name. (Although to be honest he’s not that different from
FIL in that respect but we can’t exactly stop calling him Grandad!)

We live far away from them though and only see them once a year usually. DH has 3 siblings who live nearby to his mum and 2 of them have kids. 1 family-set calls him Grandad-name and the other set just calls him by his name - he makes no effort with any of the DC but I think BIL whose kids call him Grandad-name chose that out of respect for his mum more than anything else

My kids did call dh step dad "Grandad Jack" bur we dont see him anymore after a family fall out , I called my Step Grandad , Grandad he martied my Grandma before i was born she had been widowed for years prior to this , I loved him to bits though he was as mu hmy Grandad in my eyes than my biological Grandparents

Dc call step grandad by his first name. He’s been in their lives since before birth. He didn’t want to be called grandad as he felt that should be for his (presumably in his opinion) “real” grandchildren. It was quite hurtful at the time.

Backfired though as his only dc hasn’t had any children and has since explicitly said they won’t be at any point. Tee hee.

My dgd calls my husband (step grandparent) Grandad at the request of my Ds and his partner. She rarely sees her full grandad and his wife but they asked to be called nanna and pops.

Stepmum - grandma (my mum is something else - DH's mum is also grandma, which is a bit confusing)
Stepdad - has a name that his DC, me and my sis and my DC all call him. It's a jokey name, but he likes it!