What do your kids call step grandparents?

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DM died before DC's were born and DF has remarried. Step mum has been in the DC's lives since before they were born but they call her by her first name. People find this odd but everyone's happy with it as step mum said from the off she would never replace their nan and that way when the kids ask about their nan in heaven it's easier to just say nan and know who they're talking about.

So, what do your kids call their step nan/grandad? Is it by names or by the title of nan/grandad?

Step grandma is called Nanny + nickname version of first name.

Grandad Bob (my 2nd husband so step grandparent who has been step parent since my daughter was 10)
Daughters biological dad is just grandad to her child.

FIL is dead and SFIL is known by the term for grandfather in his native language. Other cousins do the same. FIL is referred to as Granddad.

My Mum's DH (of around 12 years) is Papa. My parents are Grandma and Grandad. I don't think anyone would have minded if they'd called him Grandad, too, but I wanted my Dad to have a name of his own for the DC and not feel pushed out.

FIL died when DH was young so no Grandad on that side.

Both mine and sisters kids call our step-dad Papa, mine call their other 2 grand dads, grampa. Funny my kids are 6 and 8 and have no idea that their papa is not a blood relation, tbh he spends a lot more time with them, than their actual grand dads. He picks them up from school a few days for us dispite living a good 8 miles away, he's great.
I do think my late MIL had issues with them calling him Papa, she would refer to him by his first name and the kids wouldn't know who she was talking about, I'd have to say to them papa and she would be mad!

By their first names. So on DH's side they're Nana and John, and Grandad and Jane. (Not real names obviously)

By their first names here.

My kids just call my SM by her first name. She doesn't mind. She has bio grandchildren who call her Granny and as she didn't meet me (or my dad) til I was nearly 30 she doesn't think of me as her step"child" anyway (or my kids as her grandchildren) Plus they live far away and we only see them once a year. It'd maybe be different if she'd been if my life since I was a child, though.

Dawn and Arnold. It's their names. They haven't objected. I'd ask them personally.

My grandma made me call her long term dp "uncle..." never seemed odd looking back. But in hindsight....

My DM went out with her husband from when I was 4 until they got married when I was 17. His mother was known as Mrs ***. He has always been called by his first name. Although, that said, he rarely spoke to me as a child and only when it can not be avoided as an adult.
His DM was lovely though when we did speak.

We have Nana Susan who is Grandad’s partner. Keeps her close but as my DM died before DC came along I didn’t want her to be Grandma.

DC's are too old to change it now and we wouldn't as everyone is happy with it. I would be happy with Nan/Nanna Firstname as it's never stepped on any toes but that was DSMums decision at the time and the children have grown up just naming her by first name. Was just curious at to other people's similar situation names.

I've always called my grandmother's partner by his first name. Though I only got to really know him once I was at university.

My dc differentiate between different grandparents by calling them "grandma/granny/grandad [surname]" so they call my step-dad "Grandad [his surname]". He's died now, sadly, but they still talk about him occasionally.

We have first names, every one seems fine with it.

My Stepdad has been in my life since I was 14, and my kids call him Grandad (though they hear his first name so much they weirdly sometimes use that too). My Dad (who is also very much in my life) is Poppa, and their paternal grandfather is also Grandad. It never occurred to us to do anything else, and DSDad treats them the same as the children of his children, so he really is their Grandad. I think it is different to your situation, though, OP, because my Mum is still very much alive, and he came into my life so much earlier. Everyone needs to do what they feel comfortable with!

My DH’s (English speaking) grandkids call him Baba (grandfather in another language). He wants them to call me Babette (which has no meaning in English or the other language). I’m happy with them calling me Uncreative but will just go with the flow. I would not be happy with Grandma-Uncreative or Granny-Uncreative or anything like that because I think those titles belong to their biological grandmother and don’t want to step on any toes.

My mother’s partner is known by his first name. He does not play a parenting role in my life and I wouldn’t refer to him as my step dad. My husband and I talked about it a lot while I was pregnant and we were never comfortable with giving him a grandparenty name. Plus, my dad would be truly hurt if my mum’s partner was refered to as grandad. if our relationship was different, perhaps we’d have given him a name, but we are not close and it doesn’t feel right.

My husband is step-grandad to my children's kids. They all just call him Grandad R. My ex husband ( their biological grandfather) is Grandad P.

PiggeryPorcombe how funny - Karma really bit him on the bum didn't it, lol !

My DP's grandchildren call me by my name; when we got together her children were adults so I was never their stepmother, otherwise maybe it would have felt right for the DGC to call me granny, or some variation. However, I refer to them as "our" DGC, as otherwise there is no name for the relationship.

I just realised, reading my post, that even if DP's children had been little when we started our relationship I would never have thought of myself as a stepmother; that word seems wrong for a same sex partner!

We have Grandad and Granny. DS knows that Grandad isn’t my dad (and I have told him this since before he was old enough to understand it, so it was never new information) but that doesn’t stop him being grandad. My DSDad held DS in the delivery suite, paced him with colic for hours and is far closer to him than his biological grandfather on my side of the family.

My stepmother is granny, as chosen by them. It looks increasingly like DS will be the only grandchild for them, so I’m happy if they are.

DC calls stepgranny by a portmanteau name using part of her actual name - along the lines of “Granna” from Anna.

Stepgran known by first name. At very beginning was grandma x but grandma dropped off very quickly and now just x.