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Would you have sex while you're staying at a friends house?

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MummySharkDooDooDooDoo · 02/10/2018 22:34

My boyfriend and I are going to stay with his friend abroad for a few days and he has said that he would rather we didn't have sex while we're there as he finds it a bit disrespectful. Fair enough if that's what he thinks but I personally wouldn't see the problem as we'll have our own room and we can be quiet.

Before that weekend away though, we're spending a weekend with my friends and as we'll be drinking we're going to stay at their house. Again, we will have our own room and as they're my friends I feel it falls to me to make the judgement call. I'm not "planning" to have sex but after a few drinks, I wouldn't rule it out. But should I, on the basis that it's my friends house?

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AbsentmindedWoman · 02/10/2018 22:37

I would! There's no need for the friends to know Confused

Didsomeonesaybunny · 02/10/2018 22:40

Hell yes, just keep the noise down!

formerbabe · 02/10/2018 22:42

God! What a weird thing to say to houseguests Confused. Unless there's going to be a huge drip feed and you're actually swingers op!

DianaBlythe · 02/10/2018 22:42

I think it’s a very odd for them to have mentioned it in the first place!

Obviously convention would be you don’t have noisy sex or leave a mess. Him saying that would just make me want to more though!

As above, nobody needs to know!

FuckKnuckle · 02/10/2018 22:42

Yes, I would - obviously we'd keep the noise down, and I wouldn't go knocking on their bedroom door at two in the morning asking where they kept the lube, but as @Absentminded said, there's no need for them to know!

Theweasleytwins · 02/10/2018 22:43

Are you the same poster that asked if its normal to strip a bed after staying with a friend? 😁
If you are going to have sex definitely strip the bed at the end of your visit

Jent13c · 02/10/2018 22:44

Not exactly the same but my little boy was conceived in my MIL’s spare bedroom Grin. Hope she hasn’t done the maths!

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MummySharkDooDooDooDoo · 02/10/2018 22:44

Oh, sorry for the confusion, it's my boyfriend who has said he would rather we didn't at his friend's house. They haven't mentioned it at all. That I'm aware of.

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newtlover · 02/10/2018 22:45

how do you all manage to be so quiet???

DianaBlythe · 02/10/2018 22:46

Oh I see! I though you had really weird friends!

IamPickleRick · 02/10/2018 22:46

Maybe Blush

64BooLane · 02/10/2018 22:46

Lol at the pps thinking your host told you not to have sex Grin

I think it’s fine. I would strip the bed though.

Belmo · 02/10/2018 22:47

I totally would.

PlinkPlink · 02/10/2018 22:47

I'm with newt.

I struggle to stay quiet. For this very reason, sex would most likely be off the cards.

If you can be quiet though, go for it. Why not?

EnidButton · 02/10/2018 22:48

I couldn't get in the mood tbh. If you're trying to be quiet then you're thinking if the reason you're having to be quiet. Couldn't get in the mood thinking of my mates or my MiL personally.

Why on earth did pp think it was the friends who had asked about it? Confused I re-read the OP 4 times thinking I'd missed something.

DianaBlythe · 02/10/2018 22:48

I suppose if he’s not going to be comfortable enough to be able to relax and enjoy it then that’s different.

We are desperately TTC and are staying with friends over the key time - very much planning to even if they put us in the open plan living room!

Autumn2018 · 02/10/2018 22:51

I don't care where you sleep, if you've been given a bed you can use it however you like. For sleeping or for sex!

Unless they've got hidden cameras, and in which case make sure you wax well Wink

donajimena · 02/10/2018 22:52

I wouldn't. I have a fairly healthy sex life so could miss it for a few days (as opposed to when I lived at home and opportunities were rare) I

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MummySharkDooDooDooDoo · 02/10/2018 22:53

Oh I'm actually quite surprised by these responses. I was expecting to be told that I'm massively disrespectful and you wouldn't dream of it.

Staying quiet can be difficult but not impossible!

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NoNoCharlieRascal · 02/10/2018 22:53

Both my Dc were conceived at mils Blush

No way were we wasting a fertile window, plus after ds I kinda guessed dh's teenage bedroom had some awesome voodoo mojo 😂 maybe the ghost of all the pent up teenage sexual frustration!!

LoniceraJaponica · 02/10/2018 22:56

"how do you all manage to be so quiet???"

It isn't difficult Hmm

Rebecca36 · 02/10/2018 23:00

No I wouldn't, couldn't relax.

Pringlecat · 02/10/2018 23:04

I think it's OK as long as you're not noisy or messy. If you can bring your own towel to put on the bed, that would be ideal - just in case there's leakage. I think it's a bit off to make your friends do a load of laundry containing your partner's bodily fluids...

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MummySharkDooDooDooDoo · 02/10/2018 23:05

Just to add that I have DCs from a previous relationship so we don't get much time together. If we saw each other more regularly I could probably more easily skip a few days!

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Largepiecesofcrookedwood · 02/10/2018 23:05

Would have done in ye olden days.
These days it would take so long for the viagra to kick in and for us to build ourselves up to it that we would miss breakfast Hmm

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