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Would you have sex while you're staying at a friends house?

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MummySharkDooDooDooDoo · 02/10/2018 22:34

My boyfriend and I are going to stay with his friend abroad for a few days and he has said that he would rather we didn't have sex while we're there as he finds it a bit disrespectful. Fair enough if that's what he thinks but I personally wouldn't see the problem as we'll have our own room and we can be quiet.

Before that weekend away though, we're spending a weekend with my friends and as we'll be drinking we're going to stay at their house. Again, we will have our own room and as they're my friends I feel it falls to me to make the judgement call. I'm not "planning" to have sex but after a few drinks, I wouldn't rule it out. But should I, on the basis that it's my friends house?

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 02/10/2018 23:06

At 19 - oh yes - twice probably.

At 39 - hell no!

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MummySharkDooDooDooDoo · 02/10/2018 23:07

I'm somewhere in the middle!

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AhhhhThatsBass · 02/10/2018 23:08

I wouldn’t go with the intention of carnal knowledge but probably wouldn’t rule out a late night drunken fumble either.

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MummySharkDooDooDooDoo · 02/10/2018 23:08

The odd thing is that we've had sex when we've stayed at my boyfriend's parents house and, obviously we've been quiet, but apparently he sees that as ok but not at his friend's house.

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MummySharkDooDooDooDoo · 02/10/2018 23:10

That's it ThatBass. I wouldn't have even given it a thought had he not specifically said it's not an option at his friend's house.

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Sethis · 02/10/2018 23:10

I'm more confused as to your DP telling you he isn't interested... Confused

I can't think of a reason outside of medical problems that I wouldn't have sex with my DP if the opportunity arose... I certainly wouldn't refuse it on the grounds of "being respectful" at a mates house. Maybe at my grandparents...

WaxOnFeckOff · 02/10/2018 23:11

Only time we have deliberately not (rather than just not having sex for ordinary reasons) was when staying at DHs brothers house as we were sleeping in his young daughter's bed and that felt a bit disrespectful as it wasn't a guest bed/another adult bed.

PrincessWire · 02/10/2018 23:12

*"how do you all manage to be so quiet???"

It isn't difficult *

It bloody well is!

It's a bit strange that he'll do it at his parents' but not his friends'!

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MummySharkDooDooDooDoo · 02/10/2018 23:13

Sethis I'm struggling to think of a medical reason!

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PrincessWire · 02/10/2018 23:13

Pffft bold fail...

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MummySharkDooDooDooDoo · 02/10/2018 23:14

PrincessWire His Logic is that he lived at his parents house, so if somewhat feels like home. Also, maybe this makes a difference, at his parents house, we're on a different floor as it's an attached annexe.

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ScattyCharly · 02/10/2018 23:15

I would personally go for a blow job for him. No noise, no mess, quick, no risk of bed banging wall or squeaking. Oral sex for you as well, but with a towel (belonging to you) underneath.

CrazyToast · 02/10/2018 23:15

Yes don't see why not as long as quiet etc. The other people should never know. As long as that the case it's not disrespectful.

Stillme1 · 02/10/2018 23:18

When we stay with family members we don't. When we have family members staying over night we don't either. It is all about how you treat your family/friend's house. We would not say anything if any family member had sex while staying over with us but would hope that they would not be noisy about it.
I just could not be that brave with others in the house.

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 02/10/2018 23:19

OP, does your boyfriend know that his friend wouldn't approve? Is that why he's said this?

Are there any cultural/other reasons to have a bit of awareness or sensitivity around the issue?

florenceheadache · 02/10/2018 23:22

nope! mess the sheets and what if the bed falls apart. certainly not in the shower and draining the hot water tank...maybe by hand or oral??? maybe just wait till home on the dining room table.

Pinkprincess1978 · 02/10/2018 23:23

Personally I wouldn't. I wouldn't want them to hear and feel uncomfortable. We once had friends stay a night at a cottage we were renting for the weekend and could hear them doing it the next morning. We felt a bit weird about it if I'm honest.

Lalliella · 02/10/2018 23:32

Stealth boasts about the noisy sex!

lalalalyra · 02/10/2018 23:35

Maybe he just knows their house? I wouldn't have sex in my best friend's house as I know that her walls are paper, paper thin. You can hear everything.

Thisnamechanger · 02/10/2018 23:35

Yes but would be careful to not blob the sheets if possible!

Brambleboo · 02/10/2018 23:46

I wouldn't. I'd never be able to relax, worrying that the bed would be creaking, we'd be heard etc etc. I don't think I'd want others doing it in my house, either, tbh.

mathsquestions · 03/10/2018 00:03

After a few drinks he may lose his inhibitions. Go on try it just to show him.

NarcolepticOuchMouse · 03/10/2018 00:07

Definitely not!

MadMaryBoddington · 03/10/2018 00:09

I’m in the ‘it’s disrespectful’ camp.

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 03/10/2018 00:10

how do you all manage to be so quiet???

By having massively inferior sex to people who make loads of noise.

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