Have your kids ever seen you drunk ?

[LardLizard]

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No (ds6) but I don’t really drink. I will on a night out/party but he usually wouldn’t be there and I’ve never really been one to drink in the house. Not because I don’t agree with it but because i’m quite a lightweight and will usually only drink cocktails .

No. I spent my childhood around drunk adults and I made a decision then to never put my kids through that.

No never been drunk in front of DCs and very rarely been drunk as I didn't really like alcohol.

On the other hand the now adult DCs get drunk quite a lot in front of their DCs!
Which I find difficult to understand but I think that's because my father was an abusive alcoholic and scared me to death drunk or sober!

DD has seen me a have a couple of gins or glasses of wine but never too drunk to function.

I remember my Mum being drunk at every occasion and she would often get lost on the way to the toilet and piss where she felt she should. I vowed never to get anything more than merry infront of my kids.

The younger 2, no. DS1(16) was awake when I came home from a girls night out once and I was quite tipsy/bordering on drunk and he just laughed and said he was so glad he wasn't interested in drinking any time soon if that's the result. So, maybe not the worst outcome?

The older two have seen me hungover and just tell me it's karma but the 4 year old has never seen me drink or be hungover simply because I'm too bloody tired to bother drinking these days.

Yes. Youngest is 9 and oldest is 19.

I am not a big drinker but they have all seen me drunk at a young-ish age. Not falling over throwing up drunk because that never happens.

No, never. Mind you I only drink about twice a year now. Lost the taste for it and having a hangover after 2 glasses of wine seems pointless. My DH drinks more regularly than me but has never been drunk in front of our kids either.

At a wedding recently and was sitting at a table with my BIL and his young adult sons. They were all drunk before the meal and because BIL was drinking at stupid miles per hour so were the sons. In fact DH & i were seen as the ‘ weird ‘ ones for having one glass of wine with our meal. As though we were ruining their fun .

I don’t become drunk. I stay merry. I hate being drunk so don’t go there.

Yes they have, but if I drink (can't anymore) then DH will stay sober and vice versa,. We only both drink if we have a very rare child free night but even so we don't get that drunk just merry, the older ones have seen us merry drunk and husband blotto (I posted the video on YouTube as it's hysterical) DH does not like getting drunk as he like to be in control of himself but when he does its just so funny (he has been in a state 5 times in 25 years )
Children are
10, 12, 21, 24, 27, 29

Yes, we have drinks with friends most weekends. We always have a lot to drink and get very tipsy but luckily the kids think that unless you're falling over or being sick then you're not drunk. So it's a YES from me but a NO from the kids I'd expect!

Yes, regularly, again just merry. My mantra is drink to be silly, not stupid.

Not drunk/falling over but they have seen me have a glass of wine with a meal/have a few at family gatherings. I have a history of having been quite a big drinker BUT I always drank when they were in bed. However they would still make comments about mummy liking wine etc, so they are aware of more than you realise even if you’re not rolling around drunk in front of them.

I’m trying to quit now, albeit it’s early days, but I’m doing well. One of the many reasons was I don’t want my kids to see drinking as normalised behaviour.

Nope, my oldest is 7. They’ve seen us both drink alcohol but not drunk.

Yes

Very merry not falling over drunk

Not something I am concerned about as I rarely drink

Neither of them have,29 and 21.But it might be that I rarely drink,I have cider in the fridge from 2 summers ago!

I think there's a huge difference between being slightly merry after maybe an extra one or two glasses of wine and being drunk.

As a child I never saw my parent's drunk, I probably saw them a bit tipsy but I wouldn't have noticed. As a teen they got a bit tipsy once or twice a year type thing and it was funny, but they weren't out of control or stumbling or anything just a bit more giggly. Now I have probably seen them actually drunk once each really. I wouldn't want to see them really drunk I'd find that quite scary and upsetting now even as an adult!

My best friends mum used to get really pissed every weekend, like passed out vomming on the floor pissed and it was horrible, it has really effected my friend. I was there a few times as a teen when she came home and it was really scary. For some reason seeing an adult really drunk was so much different to a friend and it put me right off drinking actually! I wouldn't ever want my child to see me that drunk, but I'd be okay with a bit tipsy.

Yes. They are 15,14 and 7. Happy, giggly, merry.
Not falling down/tripping over/walking into doors drunk because I don’t ever get that drunk (any more, or unless I’m away maybe but I have been that drunk about 3 times in my life, I hate that out of control feeling).
They are usually in bed or at least in their rooms when we have people round though, us and our friends are that interesting to them. They come and hang out for a bit and then drift off when they’ve had enough of us.

Yes they have , normally just tipsy but one New Year's Eve I went from feeling fine to going outside the fresh air hitting me and bam my legs giving way OH had to carry me home, children still laugh about it.

No.

I was a binge drinker from the latter part of the 'O' level revision period in 1984 to winter 1999. A bad one. A self destructive one. I longed for the famed black outs so I didn't have to wince my way through remembering the stupid, mortifying shit I done the night before between first swig and gracelessly slumping to the nearest flat surface and passing out into oblivion.

As a result of my last ever over indulgence I got pregnant with DS. I've been teetotal since. He's only ever seen me with a glass of alcohol in my hand to raise it for a toast, and then put it down unsipped.

He's 18 now. I have told him about the how, the why and the fall out of my issue with drinking now he's older, so he knows why I don't drink. And he knows that I don't regard alcohol itself as evil, just that some people, like me, don't have a functioning booze brake and can spectacularly fail to enjoy it as a limited and occasional thing the way other people can. He's seen my sister and BIL get mildly tispey, but he's also seen them stop drinking at that point. It doesn't appear to have disturbed him in any way.

He's never had a drink, but then neither have most of his friends. They are all Italian or have grown up in Italy so it's hard to know for sure if it is a cultural, or generational thing. But kids seem to have a very different attitude towards alcohol than my British friends and I did back in the 80s when we were his age. Which is a good thing because our aim was to get slaughtered. That was what we placed emphasis on as the key ingredient to having fun.

I don't know if that was the same in other social circles back in the day. But my circle changed regularly due to my moving a lot and that "let's get pissed!" element remained constant. Perhaps like attracted like and that's what accounted for my perception that getting paralytic as a social aim was near universal amoung my peers.

I never saw my parents drunk. Occasionally a little hung over the next morning after functions, but nothing that evokes bad memories or could be used as an explanation for my own poor drinking habits. In fact, as far as I can reliably recall, I don't think I saw a properly pissed person I knew until one was looking crosseyed back at me in the mirror.