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Have your kids ever seen you drunk ?

94 replies

LardLizard · 28/09/2018 09:43

?

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Kezzie200 · 28/09/2018 11:35

No. But i havent been drunk since my teens. I hate hangovers with a passion and i live rurally, so need to drive so much.

I get lightheaded, then stop. Thats about 2 glasses of wine!

BlaaBlaaBlaa · 28/09/2018 11:38

@lucy I'm not talking about falling down drunk but nothing wrong with being tipsy. We live in a village where taking the kids to pubs, festival type events and socialising generally is very common.
I never get to the point where I don't feel like I can't care for my child but he sees us enjoying ourselves. We have a healthy relationship with alcohol and feel that being open a out that is a good way to be. It doesn't make it mysterious. That how we were both brought up

And so what if drunk people are embarrassing? Just laugh it off ....no big deal. Who are you to judge?

Storm4star · 28/09/2018 11:39

My DCs are adults now. When they were little, no they didn't see me drunk, maybe occasionally merry. At that point my DCs just used to find it funny, as I'm a silly drunk rather than being aggressive or anything.

I don't get drunk a lot, I do drink but not to the stage I'm drunk so it doesn't happen often. My DS just shakes his head at me! (in good humour) but my DD isn't here all the time so she hasn't seen me drunk in a while.

FabulousTomatoes · 28/09/2018 11:45

Yes, usually when coming home from parties and night out we might be a bit tipsy. They did see me properly drunk at a wedding once and one evening when we all came home from something together I fell asleep on the sofa. They took great pleasure in filming it and showing it to me next day. Like blaablaa we live in the type of place where socialising as families is very common and I think my two have seen several of our friends pissed on various occasions. They just laugh or roll their eyes. But we do have quite a liberal attitude and I think as teens they quite like the fact we’re vaguely relatable to them.

arwenearlythereyet · 28/09/2018 11:47

Not that I remember.

(Joke.)

pumpastrotter · 28/09/2018 11:47

No, I don't drink when they're in my care purely because I'm a lightweight and can't trust myself to look after them properly if needed. I can probably count on one hand how many drinks I've had when they've been in the house, including special occasions; also having alcoholic parents gives you good insight to what children see.

DMCWelshCakes · 28/09/2018 11:47

To clarify, I'm not judging people who drink around their children & get tipsy.

I'd take a dim view of parents who got so paralytic on a regular basis that they couldn't effectively look after their children and put themselves in danger.

It's not a moral highground; just a medication incompatibility issue & the desire to keep children fundamentally safe & sound.

TooTrueToBeGood · 28/09/2018 11:50

No, and they're all grown up now. They've seen me tipsy a few times in their lives but that's it. I don't like getting drunk anyway and I also believe very strongly against having drunks in my house when there are kids there and that includes myself.

elQuintoConyo · 28/09/2018 11:55

No. DS is 7yo.

He has seen us drink beer, wine etc, but we have never been tipsy nor falling-over-drunk either. DS is a Duracell Bunny and i cannot imagine what him+hangover would be like! Doesn't bear thinking about

LucyMorningStar · 28/09/2018 11:57

I'm nobody to judge. In my personal opinion drinking in front of children, even if end result is being just tipsy rather than paralytic, is on the same level as smoking a joint or snorting just a little line. Or such like.

Anyway, that's just me and my personal values. Like I said I've been put off alcohol, even the smell of it, for life.

BlaaBlaaBlaa · 28/09/2018 12:01

Having a couple of glasses of wine is in no way comparable to snorting coke.

madeoficecream · 28/09/2018 12:03

yes but not so drunk that they wouldve noticed!

Oliversmumsarmy · 28/09/2018 12:11

Once. Pure accident. I am tea total as I have a very very low tolerance to alcohol.

I was on the Low Carb diet and had heard that vanilla essence was a low carb substitute for sugar.

Well 2 tspns in my coffee had the room spinning and I couldn't walk. DD had to drive as I felt like it would not have been safe for me to do so.

skippy67 · 28/09/2018 12:12

Yes. Tipsy though, not drunk.

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LardLizard · 28/09/2018 12:13

Oh Interesting
That’s a lot more no than I would have thought !

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spaceraidersrock · 28/09/2018 12:15

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LardLizard · 28/09/2018 12:16

Just some school mums were chatting about this and how often at family parties like weddings the dads get drunk but the mums, in a Sexist type of way
Like men drink ladies don’t
I found it surprising at first then when I thought about it at family parties it’s often the women that are driving

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Bluntness100 · 28/09/2018 12:21

I think there is a lot of teatotallers on mumsnet, previous threads have shown this, so the response is somewhat skewed by those who chose to respond.

Much also depends on your definition of drunk. One persons tipsy is another persons blotto.

Roomba · 28/09/2018 12:27

No. DS1 saw me a little bit merry after a couple of glasses of wine with visiting friends once. I was a bit gigglier than usual, that was it, nowhere near tipsy let alone drunk. He still refers to it as 'the time you got really drunk'!

He's seen my ex very drunk a couple of times though, sadly. It really worried him as he was little at the time. Thankfully he has been teetotal for years now so DS2 has never seen him drunk and DS1 barely remembers now.

scarlettoftheseas · 28/09/2018 12:41

Been a bit tipsy in front of my 6 year old - he woke up after me and Dh got in and came for a cuddle.

Poor dss though - 15 and has had the pleasure of seeing me and his dad drunkenly do karaoke at a family party Grin luckily both Dh and I are very happy drunks, so dss found the whole thing hilarious and still likes to bring it up

owabno · 28/09/2018 12:41

Never. I don't drink anymore

Rainbowtrain · 28/09/2018 12:44

I rewatched a video of my communion (8) and gosh!!!! Both my parents are hammered! And my uncle 🤭
I never knew then

evilharpy · 28/09/2018 12:45

Pleasantly pissed at a wedding once, yes (we let her stay up late to enjoy the disco bit). I don't think she's ever seen me drink apart from that. Maybe a glass of prosecco at Christmas. I'm a fairly infrequent drinker these days but even when shitfaced once or twice a year I don't tend to suffer from hangovers.

She's seen her dad have a pint lots of times if we've been out for a pub lunch, but never more than one.

She's nearly 4.

Roomba · 28/09/2018 12:47

Should have also said that my kids are 6 and almost 13. I don't have any issue with people drinking when their kids are there as long as they aren't getting blotto, I don't think seeing your parents being a bit merry, having a good time and laughing more than usual is harmful really. But getting very drunk (can't talk without slurring, can't walk straight etc) can be pretty scary for children to witness.

An old uni friend of mine regularly gets absolutely smashed in front of his daughters. He's one of those 'life and soul' types and is hilarious, but I'm not entirely convinced when he claims that his kids just laugh and roll their eyes at him as 'they know what I'm like, they aren't bothered, they think it's funny'. Maybe now they are in their late teens they're not as fussed, but when they were small it can't have been fun having him plastered in sole charge every weekend.

Roomba · 28/09/2018 12:48

I'm 42 and have never once seen my parents drunk, so maybe that affects my attitude too.