What do siblings add to your life if they are 6 plus years younger

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I've missed the boat to have my dcs close together in age and so now have an older ds. Dh is trying to convince me to try for another baby. I am reluctant for a number of reasons . Dh says we should do it for ds. I'm an only and don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I also think the benefit of siblings come when they are closer in age and play together. Not sure I can see many positives for a 7yo. DH says they will have each other when older and adults

So as I have never experienced sibling relationships can you enlighten me on what they are like pls

6 years between me and my sister and she is one of my closest friends.
She doted on me as a baby but we did grow apart as she became a teenager. Typical teen stuff I think.
Anyway we grew close again and now she is one of the people I trust most in life and I can’t imagine life without her.

I’m 6 years older than my youngest sister. She’s one of my best friends, My older sister is 15 months older than me and whilst we get on as well I speak to my younger sister way more.

There are 8 years between me and my sister. She was an integral part of my childhood and we are close as adults. There is that weird bit in the middle when one is grown and the other isn’t, but by the time the younger one is about 20 a lovey lifelong relationship can form imo.

Another one here saying my sister is my best friend. 7 years is nothing I am 12 years older than my Db

Dm is one of four. She gets on best with the sister who is 14 years younger, and least well with the one closest in age.

I don't think age difference makes as much difference as personality.

My sister is 6 years older. We aren't close. We have quite different persinalities and had quite different lives (eg never went to the same schools as we moved houses fairly frequently.) we get on OK when we met up (once a year at a family event), but if she weren't my sister we would have lost contact years ago. For me it's the different personality as much as the age gap and lack of shared experiences.

I'm the oldest of 3, I'm 27 there is 6 years between me and my brother and we are inseparable! Go to gigs together & festivals and he's now best friends with my OH
And there is 12 years between me and my sister, and she is just the most beautiful person, she kind of looks at me as a second mum because she can talk to me about (some) things she can't talk to my mum about and we have a really close bond, she even has her own bedroom at my house and stays 3 times a week and we have "sister dates" where we buy loads of naughty food and watch movies all day and bake cakes!
And I just love them both so much!! They are my best friends

My sister is 6 years younger and she is my best friend. The bigger gap meant no competition between us and we are very close. My life would be much worse without her in it.

My dd had just turned 6 when ds was born earlier this year. They have an absolutely fantastic relationship. She ADORES him and he her. She has revelled in looking after him and has been such a good help to me too. If that's the only thing stopping you having another, I'd say 'Go for it'.

I have siblings ( many!) with both close and very long gaps and it makes zero difference to what they add to my life. They all add loads to my life.

Joy!!!! And fun!!! And a bit of chaos!

6 years between my DC and not a day goes by when I don't feel that DC2 has brought fun into DC1s life.

I should add that DC1 is a raging extrovert who likes things lively.

I'm aware that these things can change though, as they both grow up there will surely be times when they aren't interested in one another...

My daughters have exactly 7 years between them and are best buddies. That may change as oldest DD get into teen years (she's nearly 13) but they adore each other, rarely argue or squabble and are great mates, even though their interests are different. Oldest DD is a fab big sister, plays with her, loves helping her and having her around has helped to keep her childlike side, she loves playing games with her on the Wiii and watching kid shows with her (although I am banned from telling her mates) I was worried when I got pregnant with DD2 that the gap would be too big and there would be a rift between them but I couldn't have been more wrong.

There is 6 years between me and my youngest sister (there’s another one 2 years younger than me in between), we got on OK as children but get on really well as adults, she’s a brilliant auntie to my children and we enjoy spending time together, when I was on maternity leave with my first child she was at uni and used to take the bus once or twice a week to visit. I was closer to the sister who was closer in age growing up but we’re all close now.

There's 6 years between DH and BIL and they are good mates. DH was very 'big brothery' when BIL was a teen and DH was in his 20s. BIL would tell DH all the stuff he wouldn't tell PILs and DH would slip him the odd £20 for drinks when he was a student.
Now he's got a good job BIL always buys presents for DS (but only ever soft ones in case he hurts himself which is adorable as DS isn't a baby anymore)

My sibling is 13 years younger. As a child i was more like a mum to her but now as adults we really get on and spend as much time as possible together. I’m glad my parents had another as it took the heat off me a little growing up and now there are certain things that only she gets.

Also, and i appreciate this may not always be the case, she has agreed to have my DC if DH and i die and i’m really grateful i have someone i trust 100% if that ever happened.

My brother is 6.5 years older than me but I'm really glad he's around.

My sister range between 9 and 16 years older than me.

I would have ended my own life last year without their love, support and understanding.

I'm the oldest of 4. The age gaps between me and my siblings are 2, 6 and 9 years. We have cousins who lived very close and we are very close to and the biggest gap across the cousins is 12 years. That's a big gap at 12 and 0, not so much at 50 and 38.

My dad is 6.5 years older than his DB and they're very close. Still calls him "our kid" even though he's in his mid-60s

Shit. I opened this up think it would be full of brilliant reasons for me not to have another baby but alas, it seems that big age differences can be great 🙄 The idea of going 7 years and doing it all again is terrifying! Plus I’m so old and tired and decrepit. Lord help me.

I'm 7 years older than my sister. We used to play some games when we were younger, it was more me entertaining her, but we both enjoyed it. I used to take her to the shops and cinema or whatever when I was a teen, I liked feeling grown up and responsible of my cute sister, and she loved going out without parents. Now we're best friends, see each other weekly and on WhatsApp most days.

I can't answer your actual question as there are small age gaps between me and my siblings.
I have however just recently had DD1 (9wks), with an age gap between her and her brothers of 6 and 8 years. They both love her so much. It melts my heart to see that she is the first thing they think about when they get up. They shower her with love and attention and both told me how lucky they feel to have her as a sister. I know things may get harder as they get older and imagine that keeping a toddler and a 10 year old happy for example might be tricky. For now though the whole house is happier for having her here.
My DH too has siblings that are much younger than him and they come from a very close unit family.

Ten years between me and my youngest sibling.
He is awesome. We are best friends.

I have no contact with the 2 brothers closer in age to me, but my youngest brother is always there.

We have such a fantastic relationship. We are silly and laugh a lot, i look out for him as if he was one of mine, and he protects me loyally (he found out i was having work trouble a while back and offered to come into my work and sort it for me )

He also has a brilliant relationship with my kids. They love their uncle and he would do literally anything for them.

He is 16 and in 6th form, but still makes time to contact me, and me him. We usually communicate via memes but thats us. When we do see each other, its like I never left home. We work as a team to bug our mum, we laugh and joke, we bitch and argue (lightheartedly) we hug and we generally just have a great time.

Also, he used to spend every weekend at mine and only stopped when he was doing GCSEs. Thats how close we are.

I'm autistic and don't have many friends. Having my brother is a great thing for me. He makes sure im not lonely, he understands my needs and he is there when i need him, just.like im there when he needs me.

6 years between my DS. 16 and 10. When younger DS came along, my older DS was so gentle with him, he had that level of understanding that a toddler might not have had. He is now his biggest supporter at sporting events. Younger DS idolises his older brother.

When I was held up at work, older DS collected his brother from school, spent his own pocket money at the local shop on a treat for him and organised various activities at home so his brother was distracted from them being in the house without me.

As they get older the gap seems to get smaller. I really hope this closeness continues into adulthood.