Got messages from an anonymous woman telling me my husband is bothering her

[SparrowOnTheHill]

Both with the same user names

Suggesting that my dh is perusing her and she wants it to stop 😳

Handed it over to my husband this morning and he looked horrified and told me to ask for a number to speak to them which they refused-

Is this a scam?

Pursuing

Never heard of it but your DH seems unfazed. Do you have any reason to distrust him??

Ask for proof?

Atalune
Any human being can cheat I don’t 100% trust anyone.

I will ask for proof and see what happens. Phone number request was refused.

I trust my partner 100%.

Ask for his phone and have a nose? He shouldn’t object if he has nothing to hide?

Phone checked and nothing on it.

Hardly anything at all.

The suspiciously empty phone is a big red flag

Did the messages refer to your husband by name?

What do you mean both with same user names?

I hate these threads. On one side you get the "her husband is cheating or hitting on me, should I tell the wife" and folks argue, yes, yes she's a right to know.

On thr flip side you get " she told me he was cheating, or hitting on her" and it's all, she's a liar.

It's so odd.

I would have to reply and say I wanted proof.

If this was true, the woman would give a number and i dont think your husband would want you to talk to them

I dont think an empty phone is a red flag, my fiancee hadnt even got one...
If he did, there would be nothing on there

the woman would give a number

I very much doubt that.

Ask her to tell you what your DH's number is, see if she knows it?

Why would someone lie about this? OP, do you have many enemies?

The woman has planted seeds in your mind. Don't let them grow unless you have other, verifiable, suspicions.

It's sad but nevertheless a fact that there are some people who get a kick out of anonymously telephoning people and saying awful things. They are sick.

ask for proof

Ok things have moved on.

I asked again for a number so I could confirm details with the person messaging- wait for it-

“I lent my phone to my friend”

Then I got “I can’t talk to you anyway as I’m deaf”

I’m sure I have my fair share of detractors but anyone that may know me doing this type of thing is batshit crackers.

He wants the number to talk to the woman.
I understand that.

Ask for proof... If she is being honest, she will send proof

I once had someone leave a message saying that my mother had died. Kept calling home, no answer. I was 5,000 miles away. Eventually phoned a neighbour who informed me my parents had been away for a week in Spain but she had seen them arrive in a taxi half an hour ago.
There are some sick people out there.

Does she have proof/evidence of the harassment?
In what form is the harassment, and through what means?

Do you know her name? Do you or your DH know her?

So someone messages you ? On Facebook. Saying your h is a pest. Does he follow that person on twitter of whatever
Are they claiming to be the person?

I’m confused

This is sounding more and more batshit!

Ask her proof or you’ll be blocking her.