Chewing gums and gurning isn't coke.
Coke is one or more of these (believe me was with a guy who used coke (5 yrs)), had plenty of experience of it until I dumped his ass. In no particular order:
- Odd meetings/popping out (this is to buy the stuf/pick it up through the car window)
- On taking coke it can give them the shits
- After which another symptom comes into play, absolutely no desire to wash
- Drinking certain drinks that they only drink when they're on coke (you'll soon learn the signs)
- Non-stop talking, always about themselves
- An insane urge to clean - XP once cleaned a bathroom with another girl for hours (no shagging, just cleaning, it's compulsive due to the coke)
- Banging away at you for bloody ages when shagging, unable to come
- Convinced they can only have 'good sex' on coke (which is absolute utter bollocks), no idea how to shag when not on it
- Little clear plastic bags found in odd places
10. And of course the delightful sniffing, rubbing nose, inserting finger up nose to make sure no residue showing
and on more than one occasion
11. leaving cocaine residue around (windowsill, coffee table) knowing it was possible that a child could come into contact with it. They are so busy getting high that they can't be arsed to clear it up properly. They smear it off then lick their fingers
12. They can be the life and soul of the party or become incredibly arrogant that turns into nasty.
This is when they're on it.
Sadly there's a whole cycle to it and they can be utter c*nts when they need it, nasty, vile. It can cause them to pretty much go on a psychotic break. I've had my XP smash up my house and then be as right as rain in the morning as though nothing had happened. They'd leave you somewhere (say away in a restaurant) without transport without a second thought, even if you had your kid with you.
Essentially, if they're strongly addicted, their moods are unpredictable, completely unpredictable, you can never know when they're going to go off on one. It can make for a miserable family life and in fact anyone at this level of addiction shouldn't be around children. Believe me, should it reach a certain level and you end up having to call police for example ending up on the radar of social services. So let's say all's been good for the past fortnight, but you went out and left the children with that person, social services would see it as 'leaving the children in the care of a known drug use' and this would not bode well for you in those respects, them viewing you as completely incapable of understand that this is not safe.
Sorry that went a bit further than the 'what do people look like if they're on coke', but I think it's important to know how a life with someone like this might pan out. I'd be 100% giving the advice to just have a zero tolerance - you meet someone who uses it, run a bloody mile.