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Whose responsibility is it to make sure DH has clean sports kit?

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SilentHeadphones · 08/09/2018 16:23

He's pissed off as he has no clean running shorts. To note: he also threw a pair away recently (I didn't know).
Until last summer, I was SAHM, did all washing. Now work 50%, still do all washing. I usually judge his sports kit washing basket by how full it is. It wasn't at "my limit" because he threw stuff away. I think he should keep track and warn me if he's got no spares. He thinks I should know and have his sports kit clean because I do the washing.

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redsummershoes · 08/09/2018 16:24

dh's stuff - his responsibility

Hassled · 08/09/2018 16:25

He's a fuckwit. Even if you did have psychic powers which enabled you to know the numbers of clean running shorts available at any given time, why should you care?

RottenTomatoes959 · 08/09/2018 16:25

If I was you I'd shove "D" H's running gear somewhere the sun don't shine.

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Fairylea · 08/09/2018 16:25

What?! His of course! Even if you do the washing he should still make sure he’s putting them in the wash basket! I wouldn’t have a separate sports wash basket. One washing basket for everyone. If you’re both working the same amount the washing should be split between both of you.

TokyoSushi · 08/09/2018 16:25

Completely, utterly, entirely, 100% HIS responsibility!

WeaselsRising · 08/09/2018 16:26

His, obviously Confused.

If someone in the family needs specific items on a specific day it is that person's responsibility to check.

Perhaps you need to have a communal washing basket, or he needs to do his own.

YeTalkShiteHen · 08/09/2018 16:27

I can’t even believe this is a serious question. His stuff, his responsibility.

frenchfancy · 08/09/2018 16:27

His responsibility.

cheesefield · 08/09/2018 16:29

Um...is he incapable of putting a wash on himself like an adult?

NorthernSpirit · 08/09/2018 16:29

His responsibility, you aren’t his nursemaid.

Failing that let his mum do it for him (who has IMO mothered him and hasn’t taught him any independence).

PorkFlute · 08/09/2018 16:30

Go and tell him you’re annoyed with him because you’ve run out of clean knickers and see if he cares or thinks it was his responsibility.

redsummershoes · 08/09/2018 16:33

just boilwash his running gear next time and use flowery softener to properly ruin them :o

AwdBovril · 08/09/2018 16:37

What NorthernSpirit said. Presumably he isn't a child, he needs to stop acting like one.

GummyGoddess · 08/09/2018 16:38

His obviously. I have taken over house washing as my job. DH always checks if I've washed something he needs, if I haven't then he does it.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 08/09/2018 16:41

His responsibility.
I'm happy to do all the laundry in our house but it's up to my husband to warn me if he's about to run out of something.
Or if he wants a specific item that is buried in laundry basket
It's known as the "shirt alert" in our house

MulticolourMophead · 08/09/2018 16:41

Of course it's his responsibiity! What a wazzock.

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SilentHeadphones · 08/09/2018 16:41

Perhaps you need to have a communal washing basket
Noooo don't need his sports kit in with my clothes and if just have to separate it out to wash it anyway.

The running shirt and shorts and the cycling shorts he threw would definitely have pushed it into the "shit I need to wash that" category.

I work 50 (so I can run the DC around) he works 100.

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VimFuego101 · 08/09/2018 16:42

I assume he has no hands, there's no other good reason he can't sort this out for himself and put on a wash if needed.

RabbitsAreTasty · 08/09/2018 16:44

You think you work 50 to run the DC around. He thinks you work 50 to wash his smelly shorts for him.

Set him straight. Stop doing 100% of non-child activities.

redsummershoes · 08/09/2018 16:45

tbh dh's running gear stinks and therefore is washed separately (by him unless he asks me nicely) and has it's own basket.

sonypony · 08/09/2018 16:45

I work 50 (so I can run the DC around) not so you can keep a close eye on how much sports kit he has left because he can't be bothered. YANBU.

RabbitsAreTasty · 08/09/2018 16:45

Looks like family laundry must become his job seeing as you are too incapable.

NotTakenUsername · 08/09/2018 16:47

I get what you’re say op. In your house you’ve taken responsibility for the laundry so it’s not to do with that but to do with the fact he changed ‘the system’ without telling you.

He ibu and petulant. He is lucky to have a partner so willing to help him with his domestic chores. No one ever died from not having clean shorts.

FadedRed · 08/09/2018 16:53

Tell hm if he doesn't have his sports kit ready when he needs it, he'll just have to do PE in his vest and pants!Grin

katmarie · 08/09/2018 16:53

You're not working 50% to his 100% you are 50% day job 50% parenting. You are likely doing more hours than him when you look at it that way, and tbh his gym kit would be pretty low on my list on that basis.