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Whose responsibility is it to make sure DH has clean sports kit?

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SilentHeadphones · 08/09/2018 16:23

He's pissed off as he has no clean running shorts. To note: he also threw a pair away recently (I didn't know).
Until last summer, I was SAHM, did all washing. Now work 50%, still do all washing. I usually judge his sports kit washing basket by how full it is. It wasn't at "my limit" because he threw stuff away. I think he should keep track and warn me if he's got no spares. He thinks I should know and have his sports kit clean because I do the washing.

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Furx · 08/09/2018 16:57

The whole point of running kit is that you CAN fish it out of the basket and out it back on.

And most is so wicking that it is wearable straight out of the washing machine. The ONLY time it isn’t usable is when it is actually going round in the machine.

FWIW DH is SAHD and does 100% of laundry in this house unless ill. Yet... I would never consider blaming him if I had no clean kit. I might intervene if i had a half marathon or something and needed a particular t shirt to be clean. But by intervene I mean putting a load on in plenty of time and making sure it was clean. Not moaning to him it isn’t clean.

Quartz2208 · 08/09/2018 16:59

He is an adult

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SilentHeadphones · 08/09/2018 17:00

I am being quite unrepentant so he has ordered himself some more shorts. If he'd told me this morning I would have put it on first and it would have dried by now.

I don't mind doing the washing. I do mind complaints! I've been ill this last week plus we've all changed duvets so I had those to wash too. Been playing catch-up all week with normal washing, else I probably would have washed them. He's gone off to do TRX as he's got shorts suitable for that. fuck knows why he can't run in them

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RB68 · 08/09/2018 17:00

If its in a sep basket and washed sep then he needs to take on resp for this - you can not take a 50% job and him not change what he is doing in the house etc. He needs to stop being an extra child and start taking some responsibility for things instead of relying on you

PS please do show him this thread

shonkyklingonmakeup · 08/09/2018 17:00

Oh fuck him. Tell him he needs to start acting like an adult. I was speed reading this and at first I thought it was your son and I still thought he needed to take responsibility for his own stuff. Don't do his laundry ever again.

iklboo · 08/09/2018 17:02

As I told my DH - the washing machine is not fingerprint protected nor does it require a retina scan to operate it. It's not chromosome sensitive either. If he wants something washing urgently he can do it himself.

RossPoldarksFloozie · 08/09/2018 17:06

28 years ago my DH asked me where his clean squash gear was (we had been married 2 days). That was the first and last time he ever asked me where his clean clothes were. Your DH is a grown man OP he should know how to work a washing machine. Your his wife, not his maid.

UpstartCrow · 08/09/2018 17:06

Oo bad wifey.
Make sure you're sitting with your feet up knocking back gin fizz when he gets home. With the heating on full and a soap on the telly.

RossPoldarksFloozie · 08/09/2018 17:06

You're not your

SilverApples · 08/09/2018 17:09

He should have checked the night before, and packed his kit. Or being a manly man, he could just wear the dirty ones.

GreenTulips · 08/09/2018 17:15

The kids know if they want something washed - they either ask or but the washing by the machine

DH does most loads here because I do the ironing

I work less hours but cook and take the kids to clubs. He cleans the kitchen after tea helps with homework and puts the bin out and walks the dog most of the time

Tell him to sod off

happypotamus · 08/09/2018 17:25

His. I do most of the washing, and DH knows if he wants something washed it needs to be in the basket. I do not go round after him and collect from round the house. I also am unable to predict what he is going to want to wear the next day or how many socks/ pants/ shirts are clean, so, if he wants something specific washed for the next day, he needs to let me know, not expect me to psychically know. He frequently doesn't do this, so has to go round and collect his own clothes from wherever he left them, wash them himself and put them in the tumble dryer and iron them if necessary.

Longdistance · 08/09/2018 17:31

My dh trains rugby, plays golf, goes swimming. All this is his responsibility. If he asked me to do his washing I’d bag it up in Black sack and give it to the bin men gladly.

QueenofLouisiana · 08/09/2018 17:35

Definitely his responsibility. Even DS, with specific learning difficulties and the associated disorganised thinking, sorts out his own sports kit.

DuchessThingy · 08/09/2018 17:40

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SloeBerries · 08/09/2018 17:44

I’d laugh at my dh if he said this! And I don’t work. If he said ‘can you wash my kit’ I’m totally fine, but that attitude id probably never was it again telling him he could be 100% where it was

HermioneGoesBackHome · 08/09/2018 17:48

T f H wouldn’t dare saying anything like this.
Nor wouod any if my teenage dcs (both boys).

You’r not his maid!!

mikeTV · 08/09/2018 17:52

Wow - even my 8yo knows to put sports kit next to the washing machine so it can go on next wash.

NotDavidTennant · 08/09/2018 17:54

YABU for marrying a 10-year-old boy.

CantankerousCamel · 08/09/2018 17:56

So DH will always either add his sports kit to the pile or put it in and wash it, I put the washing out and it’s used, however if he got home and it wasn’t out, he would just tumble dry it, wouldn’t dream of insisting it was ‘my fault’

serbska · 08/09/2018 17:57

Tell hm if he doesn't have his sports kit ready when he needs it, he'll just have to do PE in his vest and pants

^yes!!!

IncyWincyGrownUp · 08/09/2018 18:02

FadedRed wins the internet today.

MartyMcFly1984 · 08/09/2018 18:12

I personally love the Sunday evening question “have I got any clean shirts?” It’s usually followed with him sticking a load of shirts in the machine 😂

OublietteBravo · 08/09/2018 18:17

It’s his responsibility. You aren’t a mind reader.

BTW - I do all the laundry in our house except for DH’s sports kit. I can recommend this as a system!

Coconutcake0 · 08/09/2018 18:18

Im surprised that no one has told you to leave him yet.

Seems to be the norm on MN.