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Whose responsibility is it to make sure DH has clean sports kit?

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SilentHeadphones · 08/09/2018 16:23

He's pissed off as he has no clean running shorts. To note: he also threw a pair away recently (I didn't know).
Until last summer, I was SAHM, did all washing. Now work 50%, still do all washing. I usually judge his sports kit washing basket by how full it is. It wasn't at "my limit" because he threw stuff away. I think he should keep track and warn me if he's got no spares. He thinks I should know and have his sports kit clean because I do the washing.

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happymummy12345 · 08/09/2018 18:19

I can see why people are saying it's down to him to put it in the basket, but my dh is terrible for not putting washing in the basket, he will at times leave yesterday's clothes on the bedroom floor, used flannels on the side of the bath. I always make sure there is nothing left anywhere else.
Even with his work uniform (he's a chef), it gets washed separately, most of the time he puts it in his work wash basket, however occasionally it will be on the floor or even still in his work bag if he was late home and didn't take it out. So again I always make sure I check, and I've taken it from his bag on more than one occasion.
It's mildly annoying and I will say will you please put washing in the basket, but overall it's not that big a deal really. In terms of his work uniform, I know how many of each thing he has, so I make sure they're washed dried and ironed before he needs them again, if I can't remember I'll check his wardrobe. I'm there, he's not. It's down to me to do. I chose to stay at home with ds while he works and I'm lucky I can. As his wife the least he deserves from me is clean clothes and work uniform

BrendasUmbrella · 08/09/2018 18:20

Anything he knows he needs washing by a certain time he just needs to sort out for himself. I was doing that in my early teens. These pathetic baby-men...

AdoraBell · 08/09/2018 18:23

He shouldn’t warn you if he checks and finds he has no kit. He should wash it.

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BlaaBlaaBlaa · 08/09/2018 18:24

His. Even if you aren't working. His stuff his responsibility

RomanyRoots · 08/09/2018 18:26

his responsibility and if you are working you're a mug to do all the washing, he should be doing 50%.
Even as a sahm my dh wouldn't expect me to do it all, and if it was something he needed he'd make sure it was done, even if it meant asking when next load would be going on.
Please stop being a mug

Arrowfanatic · 08/09/2018 18:34

I'm a sahm. My husband works long shifts. He has hobbies that require 2 different sets of sport specific clothes plus he goes to the gym several times a week so gym clothes.

I do all the laundry and as I know what days he needs something for I'll endeavour to wash and dry ready for that day. But as is life there are days it hasn't happened and you know what, he never gripes at me or anything. He will either put it on himself or find something else to wear. He would never presume to tell me it's my job, or that I should have known. Instead he tells me every time I do his washing how grateful he is.

Your DH is an arse.

SomethingOnce · 08/09/2018 18:48

He’s not 14, is he? “Muuuuuuuuum, where’s my PE kit?”

No. Tell him to fuck off.

colditz · 08/09/2018 18:49

he's not a child

colditz · 08/09/2018 18:50

Just remind him, bluntly and graphically, that women do not feel attracted to people who behave like children.

DramaAlpaca · 08/09/2018 18:50

His responsibility of course.

My DH does all his own sports gear laundry & so should yours.

Starlighter · 08/09/2018 18:51

FadedRed

Tell hm if he doesn't have his sports kit ready when he needs it, he'll just have to do PE in his vest and pants!

This! ^ with bells on!! Grin

LikeLemondrops · 08/09/2018 18:52

My Dh needs different uniform and pt kit for different days. He is solely responsible for making sure he has the iffy stuff available, I doubt his boss would accept 'my wife didn't wash it!' As an excuse.

He will occasionally ask me to wash and dry some of his stuff, I'm happy to do so because I have time. It's still his responsibility to check it is available when he needs it.

SlipperySlipper · 08/09/2018 18:53

If he's got enough spare time to go out and do sports, he's got enough spare time to put his own clothes in the washing machine.

HildaZelda · 08/09/2018 20:28

His gear, his responsibility. Communal laundry basket here (separate whites) so everything just goes into it. If DH ever gave out to me because "I" hadn't washed his sports gear, he'd be getting an answer that would ensure he didn't ask a second time.

ItsalmostSummer · 08/09/2018 21:09

He’s a grown up. You’re not his mother. I hope this thread is a joke.

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/09/2018 23:06

I do the laundry. If DH is running short of work out gear he shoves in a load. Like a grown up.

Rednaxela · 08/09/2018 23:15

If he's got enough spare time to go out and do sports, he's got enough spare time to put his own clothes in the washing machine.

Exactly.

You see doing his washing as a favour or sign of love for him. He sees you as a slave, err au pair.

Separate baskets are the way to go. From now on he is in charge of all his baskets

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