I have a dilemma. Have lived in the south commuter belt for 40 yrs when I left uni and had to find work. It's okay but I don't love it and we can't get much for our money with a house (okay we have a nice house but it's not really my ideal home.)
When DH retires in a year or so I'd love to go back north, not to my home area but maybe Yorkshire. I'd like more space around me, more countryside, the sea, a bigger garden, and so on.
The issue is, my DD and DS live in the south. Who knows if they always will. I have a strong desire to be near my children specially by DD because we have a good relationship (better than I had with my own mum) and if she ever has kids I'd love to be close-ish to help out though not a full time hands on child minder. Too old for that now.
I think she would be really upset were we to move. I'm not sure. The other option is to buy a house in the north and retain some base in the south- a flat- which would increase in value. or the opposite- a bolt hole up north- 2nd home- and keep this house .
I feel I'd be deserting my DCs but on the other hand I feel 'this is my life' and maybe I've only got 20-odd years left.
WWYD?