Me, DH and our 2 DC attend a sports activity club. Overly the last year we’ve all become really friendly with a couple who also have 2 DC around the same age as ours age 12 & 9.
For context we eat really healthy at home. When we go out for food we have it as a treat and order whatever we fancy, if we fancy a pudding we have it and bloody well enjoy it.
A while back the wife asked us all out for a evening meal at a pub chain. All the kids were sat together and it got a bit awkward as our DC wanted fish & chips and the other burger and chips off the adult menu. Both her DC also wanted burger and chips but she told them they weren’t allowed that to pick something more healthy. Her dc did kick off a bit and said how unfair it was.
Myself and the wife went over to order food and drinks on separate tabs. Me and the DCs all had Diet Coke and her dc were given tap water. The kids kicked off again saying how unfair it was and started arguing with the mum.
It got a bit awkward when the food arrived I had fish and chips but they had run out of the normal sized portion so I had no option but to upgrade to the larger sized “gigantic” portion. The wife didn’t order any food for herself. No explanation was given but she made a few comments re our meals along the lines of “omg your never going to eat all of that are you, I don’t know where you put it all”
We went out again with them last weekend for food, we were invited out by the wife and she chose the restaurant. We ran into the same issues again with their dc wanting wanting what ours were having and theirs not being allowed and being forced to have healthier choices. She also called her DH disgusting for finishing his XL mixed grill but again she sat there without ordering food but commenting on everyone else’s food.
After our food we went to the bar to order some more drinks and she asked me next time we come out could I have a word with my DC and ask them to order healthier food as she does not allow hers to eat what mine eat and it’s unfair. I was a bit taken back but said sorry no I don’t police my DCs food choices as it’s a treat and I don’t expect them to order a salad when I certainly won’t be.
Me and DH have spoken to each other and realised on several occasions now with the club bbq, Xmas meal out, family picnic we’ve never once seen the wife eat. I don’t know if she’s got food issues.
I assumed this would be a end to it all but she’s asked again if we want to go out for food again next month. I’ve suggested just going for a drink as it’s awkward that we both have very different views on what our kids are / aren’t allowed, but she’s come back and said our DHs we’re discussing a restaurant we all love that her DH is drying to try so we should go there.
WWYD?