Autistic and want to punch the person in the upstairs flat

[PhilomenaButterfly]

STFU with your loud music! Turn it down! It'll go on all day now, it does every Sunday.

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Have you gone and spoken to them politely about it?

What does being autistic have to do with it? Ask them to turn it down?

You don't need to tell us you're autistic

Askk them to turn it down or bang the ceiling if you don't want to go up...

Who's autistic? Can you ask them to turn it down?

I feel your pain. We had neighbours who used to play very loud music all through the weekends. I eventually complained to the council and they eventually stopped playing music... and got a karaoke machine (I completely flipper then).

It’s a very bad thing to inflict music on other people so I’m not surprised you’re angry.

Try to politely ask them to lower the volume. You can try ear defenders to cope with the noise in the meantime. I’ve bought some from amazon for a tenner as I’m autistic and noise sensitive. I can recommend them.

I'm autistic. That's why I'm finding it so difficult. It's constant fucking noise every Sunday. I can't filter out background noise, and this isn't even background noise, so I can't read.

that sounds really annoying if its happening on such a regular basis.

I have misphonia. I feel your pain. I have just screamed and hissed at my family and stamped out of the house, the noise was cracking me up. I’m now sitting on a garage forecourt eating a packet of biscuits. That’ll show them.

My son has autism and has particularly low tolerance to sound, so if music is all day everyday it would literally ruin his life, so I do feel your pain.

I would start by speaking to them and if that doesn’t get anywhere you could always report to the council.

Do you have ear defenders or ear plugs?

I'm autistic. My neighbours did this. I bought a thing to play loud music on, and did so, whenever they did. No change. Next time they had a party till 3am, when their music went off, I put mine on. They never did it again.

Ask them to turn it down - say 'I can hear it really loudly in my flat - can you please turn the volume down?' That is perfectly reasonable and if they refuse or get hostile then it's because they are idiots.

Also yes to the ear defenders - if you amazon them you can probably get them tomorrow.

Being autistic means that I can't filter out background noise. If it was quiet I'd put up with it.

What do I say? It's 11.23am, without mentioning that I'm autistic, which I don't want to do, I'm supposed to put up with loud noise between 8am and 11pm, aren't I?

ear plugs and then ear defenders over the top. I doubt you'd hear anything through that. I sympathise. I hate noise.

Laughing out loud at all the comments about autism being irrelevant and to just go and ask them to turn it down. The ignorance is strong on this thread.

i'm supposed to put up with loud noise between 8am and 11pm, aren't I?

It's usual domestic noises that should be expected between those times.
Excessively loud music is antisocial even during the day.

I don't understand why music has to be LOUD to be enjoyable for some people

I could understand if this was happening at night, but during the day I'm not really sure what you can do about it? It would probably class as normal neighbourly noise.

I'm not autistic. Still can't handle background music. Growing up / when DB1 and DSIS where in their listening to music loudly everywhere phase was horrible.

Idk, it doesn't happen always. But it sometimes feels as if it's hurting me (unwanted music, I mean).

But weirdly enough isn't always an issue. I occasionally just sing or move along.

Not just hurting me. I could jump out of my skin. Or cry. Or scream.

Ok, I feel like I'm making it sound as if I'm high-strung or a bit crazy. I'm usually able to control my emotions.

And when I was younger I'd feel awful about the few times I did snap and scream at my siblings.

I sympathise. It's not music in my case, it's my abusive neighbour laying into his girlfriend. I have seen physical violence and reported that, as well as the ASB aspect, and nothing happens. Can hardly go and ask him to keep it down, even if I wasn't autistic. Wanker

I'm autistic as well, and would have a problem with this! I have to wear earplugs to bed or I can't sleep.

I'm not Autistic and I can't filter out the sounds of ALL THE NEIGHBOURHOOD DOGS being allowed to bark from 5.30am onwards.

DD has wireless headphones. All the posters wondering why you mentioned your autism are part of the background confusion that NTs have when something triggers you that doesn’t even register on their radar, and they are bewildered you think it’s a problem.
Which is the most likely response you will get from a neighbour. Try posting on the SN boards here to see if you can find a more informed audience.

I completely sympathise, every weekend my downstairs neighbour plays music so loud it vibrates our floors and I can't do anything or think