my Mum is healthy, independent, early eighties. My siblings live around the corner and regularly pop in with their kids for the day, without notice (or very little)
I’ve tried to arrange a visit overnight this weekend (she lives 300 miles away) and asked if she was doing anything. She said no. My sister phoned me later to say mum was panicking about the short notice and we couldn’t come. I asked if she had other plans. Nope. She’s not doing anything. It’s just “short notice” (caused by waiting for eldest daughter’s new work shifts to be announced as she’s on zero hours contract summer job)
She’s always complaining about us living far away, unlike my other siblings in the same town who see her daily. Is 3 days notice really rude of me? She’s my Mum! And it’s only overnight and I always take her out for food when we go so it doesn’t incur any expense.