So embarrassed - too fat for Alton towers

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So we booked a couple of days at alton towers with our 3dcs and the first ride I tried to go on (galactica) the overhead restraint wouldn't lock into place and to my absolute horror I had to leave the ride in front of everyone.

Clearly got no one to blame other than myself but a combination of teaching full time, taking venlafaxine for depression and attempting to "stop dieting" has meant a horrendous diet, zero exercise and a weight gain of about 5 stone.

What do I do? I don't want to diet as I am convinced that the diet/binge cycle is not good for me - the minute I feel deprived in any way I feel sorry for myself and can only think about the scales and eating. Yet there is no way I can exercise enough to compensate for what i eat.

Am sat here on my own in alton towers feeling pretty hideous. Haven't let on to my dh/dcs how bad I feel, have just waved them onto every ride while inside I am dying of shame

I have children with Sen and we’ve had a miserable year and filing legal action against a council. I’m at least five stone overweight and my relationship with food is very poor. I’m an emotional eater and a binge eater. I’m trying to deal with my emotional eating. But I sometimes feel overwhelmed so I’m trying to cut back.

If you’d like a buddy happy to chat.

I think they say it takes 21 days to form a new habit which is essentially what we both need to do.

What about Keto? You can eat as much as you like and lose weight...

I think you need to focus on your depression before thinking about your weight.
Hopefully your GP will work with you to find a medication that suits you better in addition to counselling therapy.

It sounds like you have a lot going on which is in turn having an impact on your lifestyle which is effecting your weight.
Once you feel better in yourself you can look into ways of losing weight.
For now just try to eat healthily without being too hard on yourself.

It sounds like being too big for the ride was a cruel wake up call for you. It must have been so upsetting.

I suffer from depression myself and know how hard it is.

OP you say I don't want to diet as I am convinced that the diet/binge cycle is not good for me it sounds like you are setting out expecting you are going to fail. This is what you need to change. 90% of losing weight is in the head, you need to be in the right place mentally to do it.

You know what you have to do to lose weight - eat more healthily and/or do more exercise. And only you can make the changes you need to make. But it can be really difficult to motivate yourself to do this. I know, I’ve been there. I managed to lose 2 stone and my tips would be:

1. Don’t say I’ll start Monday, because Monday will never come. Start now!
2. Set small targets. I would never have lost 2 stone if I’d set out to do that. Aim for a little at a time.
3. Find an eating plan that works for you. For some it is 5:2 (not for me I’d have fainted!) My plan was to cut out all crap, no sweet things at all, no crisps etc. After a while I just didn’t want to eat that stuff any more.
4. Find some exercise that you enjoy, even if it’s just a little walk every day. I hate gyms and organised exercise, I’d rather walk or cycle or do my own exercises at home in front of some crap TV.
5. No cheating! Don’t say, oh a little treat won’t hurt, you’ll keep saying it.
6. This is probably the most important - look at the reasons why you over-eat and try and tackle them. I would cheer myself up after a bad day or reward myself after a good day, etc. Food shouldn’t be a reward or a pick-me-up.
7. Be in the right frame of mind to start, and remember the reasons you’re doing it, not for anyone else but for you.
8. Believe in yourself. You can do it! Be in charge of your own destiny (sorry if that sound cheesy!)

Good luck OP

Venlafaxine made me gain a shed load and have never ending hunger. Even after a huge steak dinner I would be ready to eat another.

Don't stop abruptly without advice but something to consider.

I'm obese, now doing Slimming World and going to Clubbercise - so a combination of healthy eating and exercise that is actually fun !
The weight is coming off - not as quickly as I'd like - but it is moving in the right direction

Been there, done that, op. Happened to me at Hershey Park in the US, had to do the walk of shame off a ride, while everyone stared and whispered. This after getting stuck in the turn style on another ride, whilst the attendant shouted at me to move along as other people were waiting to board the attraction.
So, upon returning home, I decided to get rid of every snack item in the house. Stocked up on fruits, some vegetables and good protein. I also joined a gym and made a promise to myself I would go at least three times a week. It took an entire year but I gradually lost 50 lbs.
You don’t have to starve nor do you have to hit the gym every day. Do some research and figure out what will work for you. Good luck 💐

Running is the best form of losing weight. It burns off shed loads of carbs and calories. You'll notice the change fairly quickly if you apply yourself.

You can do it OP! I really don’t like to give supposedly ‘good’ advice as I feel you should always ask a doctor before starting a serious diet / exercise plan etc, but I think the best diet I have found successful is a low carb one. I had gestational diabetes and lost quite a lot of weight (about a stone and a half) by eating really healthy food, lots of proper protein, veg, salad, small amounts of good carbs, no high calorie / sugar foods like choc or cakes etc and being really strict. I am sure that even combining this with a daily walk of 15 mins will really help the weight come off.

Best of luck and I hope you find some good advice here - ignore the idiots who are being harsh and horrible. 🙄

OP, I am also taking Venlafaxine and have put on weight that I need to lose. If you want to partner up to try MyFitnessPal, you can PM me and I'll add you as a friend to help keep motivated.

Another one offering a hand hold. I'm also on ADs and attempting to shift the excess poundage. Like the PP also on MFP so PM me if you want another MFP friend.

Sending hugs, you can do this x