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Will i be pregnant forever?

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ReggaetonLente · 20/08/2018 12:06

41 weeks today, the size of a house and so uncomfortable.

This is my first and my pregnancy has been awful - not health wise thankfully, but in terms of other stuff I’ve had to cope with. I just want it over, to meet my baby and start our life as a family!

It feels like everyone I’ve ever met keeps messaging me 20 times a day for ‘any news?’ and it makes me feel even more crap when I have to reply that nope nothing has changed!

I’ve had absolutely nothing. No mucus plug, no bloody show, no contractions. I’ve even given up nesting, I just break up the day by eating cake and napping, having nightmares about giving birth to a giant 15lb baby.

Please can someone share their story of having no signs of labour then it all happening quickly?! Or just reassure me that baby HAS to come out soon?

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WhatAmISupposedToBeDoing · 20/08/2018 12:09

I know how you feel but if you are 41 weeks then in an absolute maximum of 10 more days you will have your baby just switch your phone off, eat that cake and enjoy your naps. Maybe a box set.

Silversun83 · 20/08/2018 12:30

I was the same (and felt the same!) at 41 weeks, then out of the blue at 41+2 at 2am, I started to get contractions, then lost my plug later that day (DD wasn't actually born until 41+5, but I will spare the rest of the details ).

Just remember that in France, they don't actually consider it your due date until 41 weeks so really you're not overdue at all. Not long term go either way!

Silversun83 · 20/08/2018 12:30

To go not term!

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Peskyelephant · 20/08/2018 12:41

No you won't be pregnant forever. Just ignore the messages if they are bothering you.
I had DD (first child) entirely normally at 41+3 in about 12 hours. But it feels like forever when all you are doing is waiting to have a baby.
I also enjoyed scaring some old ladies in a cafe at 41+1. They enquired when I was due I said last week and they sort of a edged away slowly as if the baby might just shoot out

DioneTheDiabolist · 20/08/2018 12:47

I've seen your medical records OP and unfortunately the answer is Yes, you will be pregnant forever. Yours is a rare condition where you are so good at being pregnant that your baby is happy, warm, cosy and comfortable inside you and just doesn't want to come out because crime, weather, brexit and Trump.

Sorry.

kirta · 20/08/2018 12:53

I was properly still pregnant at 41+5 days! Resisted an induction with every inch of my being... no symptoms. Then I went for a pedicure, chilled out, got home and had an urge to clean all my windows and Hoover thoroughly. Gave birth 5 hours later. I promise you, you won't be 45 weeks pregnant x

MaverickSnoopy · 20/08/2018 12:55

My first was 41+3. I had the induction booked and really didn't want to be induced. Went to bed one night and woke up at 2am to my waters breaking, followed by loosing my plug, an almighty clear out and contractions all within about 45 mins!

My second I was pregnant forever...induced at 42+1 but baby born within 4 hours after induction starting.

I think they just like it in there.

You however will indeed be pregnant forever!

Thishatisnotmine · 20/08/2018 13:01

You won't be. But having two pregnancies go to 40+12 and 40+8 I know exactly how you feel in thinking it will never end. Neither birth was induced and they bpoth started completly unexpectedly. No slow labour for me!

There canbe lots of bad things about pregnancy. All the "any news yet?" texts ate definitely up there with the worst!

NoParticularPattern · 20/08/2018 13:02

Yes, yes you will. I’m joking (yeah I know, not funny). I was exactly the same as you at 41 weeks! We had all sorts of crap happen that I just didn’t need and then I was a week over due and then 10 days and I distinctly remember marching down to my appointment for my sweep and declaring that if they they didn’t agree to induce me tomorrow then I wouldn’t be leaving until they’d changed their minds. Turns out that they know not to mess with a giant, uncomfortable pregnant woman and I was back there less than 24 hours later to be induced. DD arrived early hours of 12 days overdue .

I really didn’t want induction when I was pregnant and then I got over-pregnant and I just wanted baby here right this second. I can’t even tell you how much of a relief it was when I had that induction date. I knew that even if it took three days and several attempts that at least the end was firmly in sight. It was definitely better than the limbo of not knowing when it might happen and it was at least a worst case scenario if I hadn’t gone into labour beforehand. Oh and induction was ok for me too- only took the pessary and then everything else happened all by itself! Anyway enjoy the cake and don’t worry about a 15lb baby- DD was 12 days over and only a whisker under 9lb!

CormoranStrike · 20/08/2018 13:13

I was 40+8 each time, so I feel your pain!

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ReggaetonLente · 20/08/2018 16:33

Thank you all for giving me hope (and a laugh!). Sweep booked for tomorrow.

If I book a haircut, she’ll definitely arrive that morning, right? Sod’s law and all that...

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HavelockVetinari · 20/08/2018 16:34

Dione

lozengeoflove · 20/08/2018 16:43

OP I feel the same as you and I’m only 24 weeks pregnant

Both of my children were born late, so I feel your pain. But it’s ok, don’t worry, use this time to sleep, batch cook and clean the house top to bottom. Or, if you’re more of a sane sort of a person, sit on a sofa, eat ice cream and binge on Netflix

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ReggaetonLente · 21/08/2018 16:19

Well, had my sweep today - she said it didn’t work as I’m still completely closed. So induction booked for Sunday.

Praying for baby to get a shift on in the meantime. Can a sweep sometimes get things going even if the cervix is closed?

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cjt110 · 21/08/2018 17:12

ReggaetonLente I woke up on my due date, felt normal and said to DH we'd better go and get some shopping in as it looks like you're going to work tomorrow. Off we popped to Morrisons.

Almost finished in the shop and I started with pains that I can only describe as period pains mixed with being stabbed by a knitting needle in your bits. I had had the knitting needle pains for a few days on and off before and was told it was just head fitting pains. We shot home and within the 10 min it took to get home, my contractions were 2-3 mins apart. We made our way to the hospital and after a very long 24 hours DS was born the following day.

whiningandwining · 21/08/2018 17:20

Ah you have my sympathy. My son was born at 42+1. C section in the end, as he did not want to come out!
I got sooo fed up of the texts every bloody day asking if there was news! And I know everyone meant well, it was totally me being hormonal & irrational, but god it was annoying!
Hang on in there. Even though it feels like the baby will never arrive, it will!!!

KurriKurri · 21/08/2018 18:23

I lost a baby at 20 weeks (sorry - not trying to be a downer but it's part of the story) asked my GP when I could try again for a baby, she said 'immediately' I did and got pregnant immediately with my DD. DD's due date was 15th Dec, she was eventually born on 29th.
Effectively I was pregnant for over sixty weeks with a month off part way through. I'd kind of forgotten what it was like not to be pregnant.

Good luck with your LO (in good news, because my dd was late, she had moved so far down that she was out in a couple of pushes - just got to the hospital and out she popped no bother at all )

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ReggaetonLente · 21/08/2018 20:13

Don’t want to speak too soon, but I’ve had period like pains quite regularly for the last couple of hours. No mucous plug though. Could this be it?! Or the start of it, at least.

Thank you all for sharing, it’s helped me see light at the end of the tunnel (so to speak!).

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DioneTheDiabolist · 21/08/2018 20:16

Sounds like you're gearing up for childbirth OP. Strength and health to you and your baby.

DelurkingAJ · 21/08/2018 20:17

I never had a plug or my waters go (they had to be popped for both DS). You have so much sympathy here...I got ticked off for not turning up at 42 weeks to be induced and had to explain I’d been in the delivery ward as DS1 had decided to self evict at 40+14. I learnt to knit waiting for him to arrive!

Good luck!

WhatAmISupposedToBeDoing · 21/08/2018 20:20

Oh I hope this is the start of it. Double check your hospital bag, charge your phone and have an early night. keep us updated

rubyroot · 21/08/2018 20:29

@ReggaetonLente
Could go either way- I had two sweeps and they couldn't even find my cervix as it was still far back I asked for an induction, I actually wanted c section as I knew baby was not in the right position and would not come out. 3 pessaries and the drip later- 3 days induction altogether and 12 hours after the drip- a c section. 9 cm dilated in the end
Guess what= consultant said baby's head was in funny position and he wasnt coming out.

I am sure yours won't be that bad- I had a feeling in my waters- no pun intended.

But, I'm glad I opted for induction as they did mention the state if my placenta when they gave me a c section, so at 2 weeks late it was clearly getting old.

Now, I realise it really matters not when and how he got here- he got here safely and I had him in my arms :)

LillyBugg · 21/08/2018 21:04

Sounds promising! I didn't have 'a show' with either of my babies. Both started with the period pains before ramping up to full contractions, waters going and then voila babies! Obviously it was as easy as that... actually it was with DS2 but there we go. Good luck OP

LookImAHooman · 21/08/2018 21:10

Reggae is having her baaaaabyyyyy

Hopefully not a 15lber

LookImAHooman · 21/08/2018 21:11

And you’ll be grand with it. You’re about to do real magic

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