Do we all turn into our mothers?

[MonaLisaSimpson]

DD18 is in the kitchen washing pots. I've just overheard her say to herself "where do all the knives go in this house? Oh shit, I'm turning into my mother!"

Well excuse me but she should be so lucky to turn into me 😆

As I get older I definitely channel my own DM more and more. Is it destiny?

Nb I'm aware that not all mums are lovely.

I hope not!

Kill me now.

Fuck me I hope not

I think the 3 posts above mine pretty much cover it !

I totally have become much more like her since becoming a mother myself but I’m ok with it as I think she is a very good DM!

Personality wise not so much as she is VERY ‘proper’ and worries endlessly about peoples opinions and thinks men are to be respected for no good reason other than them being men 🙄😂

I have always made an effort to NOT turn into my mother!

I am in many ways turning into my lovely mother, she’s also turning more and more into hers. I’ll never be as selfish to the expense of my own wellbeing of her, I’m a bit harder, but if I can take on her love, openness, fairness and compassion I’ll consider myself a very good person.

Selfless* not selfish!

God I hope not. She’s a difficult narracist and the reason I didn’t have kids (as I didn’t want to be a mother like she was).

My mum isn't perfect but honestly, I'd be privileged to turn into her.
She's unfailingly generous and kind hearted. She's also smart and driven.
It's only since becoming a mother myself that I really appreciate her, I'd have been horrified at the thought as a teenager

Nope. I've become my Father. My DH is a lot like my DM though...so I've become my father and married my mother. There's not enough therapy in the world really.

Oh god I hope not

I hope not. My mother is a terrible martyr & stayed with our alcoholic father for many years because she couldn't bear the shame of people finding out.

I don't mind if I do, my mum was the loveliest, kindest woman I've ever known. I'm not nearly so nice!

I try really hard not to mimic my mother so much I probably mimic my dad without realising

I wouldn't mind if I turned into my mum - she was lovely - but I do understand her better the older I get, even though she died a few years ago. I guess the real question is whether I've got the strength and self-awareness to stop some of the dodgier traits I've inherited from her solidifying into bad habit, and driving my family mad.

I made a conscious effort NOT to turn into my mother, but the older I get the more I realise that I have a lot of her traits. I'm quite big on "tough love". I am very much a "if it needs doing, then just get on and do it now" type of person.

So hopefully I have absorbed the good bits!

Interestingly my DD, now a young adult, often says that she opens her mouth and I come out! She works in a profession where she is with young children and admits that she has absorbed much of my own parenting style.

I guess it depends on your relationship with your mother and whether you admire and respect her values. Or not!

I love my mother but happily there is no risk of turning into her

She was raised in another country, in horribly restrictive ways and luckily came here wanting a better life.

she did still have some ideas about what women were meant to be like, but now she has two daughters who are not like that, she sees the joy of not being like that! Also, at nearly 80, she is learning to spot everyday sexism. We have taught her well

God i hope not!

Physically yes.
Mentally / emotionally - no.
Her unresolved issues (borderline narcissism?)have affected me but i have worked hard to a. be aware of them and b. be mindful not to repeat them

Sadly yes! I think we all turn into the new and improved version of our mothers. Hopefully I will be a little thinner, saner, talk less but just as Kind, generous, feisty and adventurous!

I hope so. My DMum is awesome.

She had a career starting in the 1950s which is still unusual for a woman now. And never gave a stuff about housework, because there was always something more interesting to do. Taught all her DC that a good education gives you more choices, to think the sky's the limit, and always to find time for the things you enjoy.

Still going strong, living independently and remains a complete petrolhead.

I definitely won't be turning into mine.

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My mother was lovely but I am nothing like her and never have been. I am definitely not turning into her 😂

Christ I hope not

Narrow minded, bigoted, unloving and judgemental are a few of her better qualities. I moved 2000 miles away 15 years ago and she is still confused about why we aren't 'close' and I haven't given her any grandchildren.

I might be turning into my auntie on the other side of the family

loves quiet, doesn't want to go out, head in a book all the time!