Do we all turn into our mothers?

[MonaLisaSimpson]

DD18 is in the kitchen washing pots. I've just overheard her say to herself "where do all the knives go in this house? Oh shit, I'm turning into my mother!"

Well excuse me but she should be so lucky to turn into me 😆

As I get older I definitely channel my own DM more and more. Is it destiny?

Nb I'm aware that not all mums are lovely.

My mother continues to despair of me, and she doesn't know the half of it... She has a good heart on a face to face basis but her politics are... questionable. She did, however, raise all of us to be compassionate, and somehow didn't pass on the xenophobia and homophobia.

I'm developing a love of lamps and coasters. I've also started gutting on the manner of my mum when there's an awful news article.

I’m not at all like my mom.
I used to worry about this.
Now I’m delighted not to be!
But I still have time for what could be the inevitable disappointment.

My mom’s got good qualities but her bad ones trample them.

Sadly yes in looks and health. Actually DM is a good looking 85 year old but I seem to have inherited all her health issues but 20 years earlier.

I'm not like my mother at all and have no intention of ending up like her. My sister on the other hand is already showing signs

I’ve tried hard not to but now the DC are growing up, I do catch myself saying things she did. It hurts my heart a little .

I have traits of my mother and work hard to get rid of them. I can see my daughters acting like me. So yes I think the is an sliver of truth to it

If my mother ever hugged me I would check my back for a rusty knife. So I do hope that I don't turn into her.

I wish I had my mum's happy-go-lucky outlook on life - I've never known her to fret over what the future might hold, or go to bed worrying even when there's no money left in her purse.

...But I could never re-enact her total lack of ambition for her own kids. It sounds so laid-back and loving - "Oh, I don't mind what you do just so long as you're happy!" - but in reality it meant I had to be very self-motivated to achieve academically, because Mum would have turned a blind eye if I'd just skived off the whole of my secondary school years (which is exactly what my brother did). No, I encouraged my own DDs to reach their full potential.

That said, she's a fabulous granny to them and values each of them as an individual - they're very different personalities, with very different achievements, but as far as Mum is concerned they're both amazing.

No chance. Nor my ddad.
There house is chock full of crap and we've always annoyed them for doing too much/ going on too many holidays/shouldn't have dogs/ having a house that's too big and indulging DD and I should have stopped work by now and on and on...

All women turn into their mothers. That's their tragedy. No man does. That's his

I wish I could have my DM's self-confidence. She was amazing in a crisis and would do absolutely anything for her DC. But her voice does come out of my mouth more and more as I get older!

I on the other hand is turning out be more like my mother in law with age. She's lovely and I'm glad I'm catching whatever it is she has. Poor DH can be heard muttering to himself 'how did I end up marrying my mother!!' though .

Yes, all women do. And my Irish mate Oscar agrees with me.

I could do a lot worse .

My mum’s smart , energetic , generous to a fault with her time and money , incredibly welcoming to everyone who has joined our family , and since we lost our dad 10 years ago , has barely sat still . She’s in her 70’s , yet she runs and leads a community walking group every week , manages a charity shop part time , and is on the local meals on wheels rota . I have NO idea how she does it . And every time I stay there between shifts , she insists on me having an early night and a packed lunch . I’m 47 . Oh and when she was at my long service ceremony , she told my senior management that they should be ashamed of how they treat their staff ..... cheers Mum !

( Not that I hear myself telling DS that his senior management should be bloody grateful because he does his role for free - oh no ..... )

I've noticed over the years I've forsaken some of my "modern fancy ways" such a julienne carrots and reverted to slightly over cooked chopped ones because she was right. With maturity DH and I are now straightening and folding our bed linen as she did instead of stuffing it in the cupboard any how and I've even caught myself running a cloth up and down the clothes line in the garden before I peg the washing out. Once i can find a pair of old tights to use to peg my jumpers out on the said clothes line my transformation will be compete.

I wish I turned into my mum.

My mum was lovely.

No one says I’m like her

Can’t think of anything worse!

Fuck me, I hope not. She is bigoted and emotionally abusive, and my therapist has used the term ‘narcissist’ on more than one occasion (about my dad too, doubly blessed)

Nah, I'm thankfully nothing like my mother. I take after my dad more.

Oh I'd forgotten about putting tights through a jumper to peg it out with, thanks StaySafe!

I really, really hope not. Bitter woman who delights in the misfortune of others. I visited her at the weekend and had to cut the visit short as she literally does not have a single good word to say about anybody.

She's a bit like a dementor (Harry Potter) in that she sucks the happiness out of you...

DH is under strict instructions to divorce me if I turn into my mother!