I have to be quick as just about to commute to work.
Single 8 years.
Old gimmer by MN standards. Been here a long time. Name changed.
Joined online dating paid site thinking well, it's got to be better than the free stuff.
Been chatting to guy, it's a live conversation, seem to get along really well. He very charming and interested in me. i'm beginning to like him but nervous it's been a long time for me.
End of first email conversation - asks me if I would talk on phone and i say nope too soon. He respectuully says no worries but sends his personal number and email anyway.
I notice his profile has him living in two different parts of the County. I check this with him. He says actually I live in xxxxx (a third place) and I just moved there. Ok says I, thinking why does he move around alot then?
He's very open about his name, his job and some other details. It's all going swimmingly.
Then last night asks if we can meet. So I said ok, but let's not make a big deal of it just becasue we appear to get along and he says sure fine no problem. Seems very, amenable but also very keen indeed thinks I'm a wonderful woman 
.
So I can't get to sleep because I keep thinking about his name, why do i keep thinking about his name???????
DD is police officer. Doesn't recognise him but in no way did she run any checks.
I google his name. Not particularly unusual name by any means at all.
So only two guys with this name come up. TWO!!!!!
And, you know what's coming next.
Guy of same name, having lived in same fairly small town just outside London with same job very close to the age this guy says he is has conviction 2016 for serious DV on a partner. Suspended sentence came to and end just one month ago. Comes up on local online news site. But there's no photo of him and the woman is unnamed.
place where it happened is not a million miles away from the second area he has himself living in, on his profile if that makes sense.
Can't do Clares' law don't have his birthdate. But guess what, he emailed me this morning to say we should get on as we're both 'fire signs' (I don't believe all that shit though). So I email back 'really? so what is your birthday then? Thinking he might give me something more to go on.
But coincidence? Why couldn't I sleep until I'd checked his name out? Apart from having been here ages, having recently begun frequenting the Feminism boards and having read The Gift of Fear and Why does he do that, something made me check this out.
But, but but, the bit of me that wants it to be a coincidence...
I thought I should maybe just ask him are you the guy?
I have to get to work but I'd value your thoughts MN'ers, I will check in and bump if need be.
Thank you.