""She hasn't been sexy or good looking for nearly 20 years!!""
She looked good in "4 minutes", she was 50 at that point.
She doesn't look like she did 20 years ago, no Woman does, well no white Woman. We generally don't change as people. It's often said that it's the person who is sexy, rather than how they look. Unless you are in to the blow up doll look, then you'll only find people sexy in a very narrow age-range and physical features. As some Men demonstrate. So how can you stop being sexy?
""I like to put myself in uncomfortable situations and take risks.""
Taken from an interview with her. That and the other things that she speaks about, makes her a vibrant and attractive person.
I think that she is helping to break through barriers about how we look at older Women and start discussions about how much we value the looks that younger Women have, yet we don't value younger Women, either.
""I don't know why she gets the hate she does.""
She's self made, talented and in control of how she uses her sexuality and her sex life. That's never liked, even by other Women.